Dating a prostitute

[summerbreeze]

So tell me...how do you think a pooner should be viewed?

Touche

good reply to an tastefulness comment

this thread is quite revealing, clearly men have different views and attitudes towards women

I always thought that an open mind extended beyond sexual positions, that you treat people with respect and compassion and try to find the good in everyone

Sofia Villani Scicolone was a prostitute who later grew into a film star most pooners would love to have a relationship with. this is just one isolated example of course and there are every shape and size of person and relationship out there

some damaged goods, some hidden gems..... you never know what treasures are to be found when you treat someone with respect and genuinely offer sincere friendship

Sofia Villani Scicolone is probably better known by her stage name...... Sofia Loren

 

[summerbreeze]

oops, tastefulness should read tasteless

(I remember when I could spell, darn aging effects.....)

 

[Warl0ck]

: FelixTheCat :. I can't imagine a situation where the SO of an SP has more limitations than a client. In fact, I'd argue she'd be more than willing to do things she may not entirely enjoy. Go down & eat out your wife. Not a lick, but a long dirty & raunchy session that has you're face and hair covered with her wetness and her the recipient of multiple orgasms. At that point there is a very good chance you're wife will do anything you want. And, if you film her reaction to this long, dirty & raunchy pussy eating session & leave the film on a SD card on the counter the next morning telling her how desirable she is, you may arrive home to find her wet & waiting for you at the front door.

So tell me...how do you think a pooner should be viewed?

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Miss Hunter: I would be more than happy to cover the costs of a session with you and Masterblaster. You can put a ball in his mouth, chain him to the bed face down, fuck his ass while pulling his head up off the bed by his hair. The safe word that Masterblaster will have to say is "I'm damaged goods Mistress". But, oh wait, he's got that ball in his mouth. How unfortunate.

 

[oneoldone]

So tell me...how do you think a pooner should be viewed?

Wouldn't that depend on the reasons for pooning some guys are just trying to rack up the total, others it is a need for some kind of connection with a female or it can be just plain fun. It certainly is rejuvenating perhaps even necessary to keep in balance and mentally focused. Current circumstances preclude me from dating but I would not hesitate to consider an SP if the mutual attraction was there. They are after all just people like the rest of us and quite frankly a lot more likeable than some of the "regular people" I meet.

 

[masterblaster]

So tell me...how do you think a pooner should be viewed?

That's not the question is it? I have no problem telling the General public what I do for a living. How about yourself?

 

[Warl0ck]

That's not the question is it? I have no problem telling the General public what I do for a living. How about yourself?

Thanks for dropping by from 1951 Masterblaster. How were the roads on the way in?

Sometimes I think if PERB was a theme park, the main character would be Misogyny Mouse.

 

[masterblaster]

I don't hide what I do for a living from anyone. I'm not ashamed of my life..should I be?

The only people i want in my life are those who can accept me & my past anyways.

Now tell me why you pooners, who pay to stick your dicks inside"damaged goods" all over town are on any higher moral ground than us ladies who work in this industry? .

I don't control how society views the profession you work in, I just know how it is thought of.

 

[Alabama Blaze]

A lot of guys struggle with addictions to the hobby. They live and breath it 24/7/365. (366 in a leap year). Their addiction to the hobby is the primary motivation for trying to pursue a relationship with an SP.

So many client/SP relationships are very volatile and very destructive here in Alberta. Neither party seems to bring anything positive into one another's lives. Those clients are in those relationships with the SP for the wrong reasons.

I'd love to have a more optimistic view. Too often "servicing the addiction" is the driver for many clients and servicing the addiction always comes first. It's not to say a genuine connection between a client and an SP is impossible. It's just not as probable as many clients make it.

 

[summerbreeze]

I don't control how society views the profession you work in, I just know how it is thought of.

couple of directions this conversation is going in,

one is what people think of the profession and how you treat people in the profession i.e. dating a provider

second one has come out of this and that why would any negative connotation to this subject be limited to providers, what about the customers

since this subject is about most of the actual people on this board, it is likely to get personal (as it should)

suggest that we agree each case is different and generalizations are going to be difficult to apply without upsetting people

 

[felixthecat]

: FelixTheCat :. I can't imagine a situation where the SO of an SP has more limitations than a client. In fact, I'd argue she'd be more than willing to do things she may not entirely enjoy.

Broaden your imagination. There are different people and situations.

Simple example. Some services are size-dependent. The SO may be simply not fitting the physical requirements.

Overall, do you think every SP everywhere must automatically consent to any sex act with her SO if she did it with somebody else? It's not like her job makes her a sex robot for her SO.
What if her SO is terrible with DATY, but some clients are good, does she have to suffer it at home?

Or if she decides to do some degrading acts for money, but prefers to have a safe haven at home. IIRC an advertiser here hated 69 and said she wouldn't do it in her personal life. There are worse types of services, for sure.
It's not like her SO would even know all the dirty details. Many SPs don't want their SO to know just how far they sometimes go.

 

[Warl0ck]

A lot of guys struggle with addictions to the hobby. They live and breath it 24/7/365. (366 in a leap year). Their addiction to the hobby is the primary motivation for trying to pursue a relationship with an SP.

So many client/SP relationships are very volatile and very destructive here in Alberta. Neither party seems to bring anything positive into one another's lives. Those clients are in those relationships with the SP for the wrong reasons.

Whether you're dating an SP or anyone else if you're primary motivation is just to get laid then it's going to fail because you're viewing the other person as one dimensional. It's not likely to last just as women who marry men for money aren't likely to find much happiness.

suggest that we agree each case is different and generalizations are going to be difficult to apply without upsetting people

I'm not so sure the generalizations are the problem. It's entirely understandable that some men could not & would not date someone who was a sex worker. Just like there are a lot of men who could not take their wife to a swingers bar and watch a line up of men fuck her but some men thoroughly enjoy that. Hey, some women wouldn't marry a soldier, I get it. The problem is the misogyny. This forum is relatively polite but on other forums the stench of misogyny is strong. And those forums wonder why they're constantly under assault by hackers?

 

[Alabama Blaze]

Whether you're dating an SP or anyone else if you're primary motivation is just to get laid then it's going to fail because you're viewing the other person as one dimensional. It's not likely to last just as women who marry men for money aren't likely to find much happiness.


I'm not so sure the generalizations are the problem. It's entirely understandable that some men could not & would not date someone who was a sex worker. Just like there are a lot of men who could not take their wife to a swingers bar and watch a line up of men fuck her but some men thoroughly enjoy that. Hey, some women wouldn't marry a soldier, I get it. The problem is the misogyny. This forum is relatively polite but on other forums the stench of misogyny is strong. And those forums wonder why they're constantly under assault by hackers?

I don't understand want to generalize either. I also know a couple clients who have fallen in love with an SP, the affections were mutual and genuine.

The other forum boarders on being a "Cult" where people live and breathe the Lifestyle. You can't even use the word hobby to describe You have to call it lifestyle. You get the impression some of them barely exist as people outside of their handles. They've litterally have become their pseudonym. Their real lives come 2nd.

They're so extreme, fanatical, obsessed and vicious it's hard to imagine them being capable of ever have any genuine affection. Some of them have too many issues to ever be in a successful relationship with anyone.

There's also a huge number of us in Alberta who sit their with a WTF expressions on our faces and wishing we could go back to simpler times when the community was on PERB.

 

[Man Mountain]

I can't imagine a situation where the SO of an SP has more limitations than a client. In fact, I'd argue she'd be more than willing to do things she may not entirely enjoy. Go down & eat out your wife. Not a lick, but a long dirty & raunchy session that has you're face and hair covered with her wetness and her the recipient of multiple orgasms. At that point there is a very good chance you're wife will do anything you want. And, if you film her reaction to this long, dirty & raunchy pussy eating session & leave the film on a SD card on the counter the next morning telling her how desirable she is, you may arrive home to find her wet & waiting for you at the front door.

 

[bdan]

This forum is relatively polite but on other forums the stench of misogyny is strong

I think, by it's very nature, any forum like this will have many misogynists amongst it's participants. Here is no exception.

 

[Warl0ck]

@Felix

OK, fair comment, I suppose that is possible assuming your SO does degrading sex acts for money. But even then is it that unlikely? You're forgetting about the relationship equation in this, love, etc. For example;

I am not a guy who cares much about birthdays, anniversaries, etc. So lets assume my SO does care about those days and they're a big deal to her. So, I make an effort to make those days important for her. Now, SP's are very intuitive people so she's going to know I'm not doing it because I want too but because I'm doing it for her. I'm making the effort even though I'd sooner not do it. Now imagine my SO doesn't like giving blow jobs. She's given 2000 of them and it does nothing for her. It is highly probable that if I ask for one, she'll deliver because I went out of my way to make her happy so she will do the same thing for me. That's the dynamic of a relationship & it cannot be recreated in a paid transaction. This business is theater arts 401 man. And it may be hard to believe this, but women have the capacity to separate work sex with intimate sex. I've always found that part somewhat amazing but I'm male, not female.

@Alabama Blaze. Yeah, some of the other forums are nasty. Have you noticed something though in the past few years? The number of cyber attacks has escalated against those forums? Put 2+2 together and it's very likely hacktivists. The common opinion on the Ashley Madison hack was it was NOT about cheating but about their vile internal practices of not deleting people who paid to delete their accounts. The result was a Defcon 1 level hack. It's probable these attacks are less about "men cheating" and more about the douchebaggery that some moderators are guilty off. I can't say I always agree with decisions by the mods on this site but they are, for the most part, balanced and fair if a little heavy handed at times. Compare that ot elsewhere where Mods and forum owners intimidate and "out" the women. They fuck around their own clients.

As for these people whose lives become their handle, I think that exists everywhere now. It's easier to live on the internet as something you aren't that go outside and face the real world. In some ways I get it. A never ending sea of hate, anger and bullshit politics awaits you out there. Finding a space online and hiding there is a predictable outcome but it's not healthy. Anyway, my rant is over, I have to leave my Mom's basement today. I hope the sun doesn't burn up my eyes.

 

[Alabama Blaze]

@Felix

OK, fair comment, I suppose that is possible assuming your SO does degrading sex acts for money. But even then is it that unlikely? You're forgetting about the relationship equation in this, love, etc. For example;

I am not a guy who cares much about birthdays, anniversaries, etc. So lets assume my SO does care about those days and they're a big deal to her. So, I make an effort to make those days important for her. Now, SP's are very intuitive people so she's going to know I'm not doing it because I want too but because I'm doing it for her. I'm making the effort even though I'd sooner not do it. Now imagine my SO doesn't like giving blow jobs. She's given 2000 of them and it does nothing for her. It is highly probable that if I ask for one, she'll deliver because I went out of my way to make her happy so she will do the same thing for me. That's the dynamic of a relationship & it cannot be recreated in a paid transaction. This business is theater arts 401 man. And it may be hard to believe this, but women have the capacity to separate work sex with intimate sex. I've always found that part somewhat amazing but I'm male, not female.

@Alabama Blaze. Yeah, some of the other forums are nasty. Have you noticed something though in the past few years? The number of cyber attacks has escalated against those forums? Put 2+2 together and it's very likely hacktivists. The common opinion on the Ashley Madison hack was it was NOT about cheating but about their vile internal practices of not deleting people who paid to delete their accounts. The result was a Defcon 1 level hack. It's probable these attacks are less about "men cheating" and more about the douchebaggery that some moderators are guilty off. I can't say I always agree with decisions by the mods on this site but they are, for the most part, balanced and fair if a little heavy handed at times. Compare that ot elsewhere where Mods and forum owners intimidate and "out" the women. They fuck around their own clients.

As for these people whose lives become their handle, I think that exists everywhere now. It's easier to live on the internet as something you aren't that go outside and face the real world. In some ways I get it. A never ending sea of hate, anger and bullshit politics awaits you out there. Finding a space online and hiding there is a predictable outcome but it's not healthy. Anyway, my rant is over, I have to leave my Mom's basement today. I hope the sun doesn't burn up my eyes.

I had a chance to see 4 escorts in Britain during the summer. Stepping outside of Alberta to enjoy the hobby elsewhere was a complete eye opener. The UK was fun, easygoing, and the level of professionalism of the SP's just blew me away. It was like I had died and gone to a hobbyist heaven.

It's not that the UK doesn't have any problems. They have professional standards that would never permit the insanity that happens out in Alberta.

None of the escorts carried any baggage from clients or were letting issues from the forums they participate in impact their relationships with clients.

Alberta has become this place where people on the forums are exerting their maximum effort to make things as stressful, difficult, and as miserable as possible. On the surface it can appear friendly but if challenge anything you quickly realize it's just masking a lot of problems. It's a thin coat of pretty paint over a black moldy wall.

There's a lot of good and kind hearted people in Alberta too. I've opted to use email and word of mouth to communicate with the more positive folks in Alberta.

It makes me sad. It's unfortunate that it's become a never ending popularity contest and war to be the centre of attention.

 

[summerbreeze]

not to belittle anyone, but to those who think people spend any time and thought thinking about other people and their life choices

for the most part, people couldn't care less what you do

as long as it doesn't affect them

so to anyone who is happy with their life choices and with themselves, more power to you.... that's great

 

[LalaniElectrica]

Honestly, I'll say this... Life is what you make it...

As an sp, I was in a 4 year relationship with a ts (Alexis Dvyne) which did not get in the way of our relationship or work, partly because we worked together. After we had parted company amicably, I have been technically single ever since... Once in calgary I thought I had feelings for a gent there, and when I told him about it, he literally went postal... texting me constantly, and becoming very possessive... we never ended up even having a first date as he was way to demanding and did not understand that I had to work...

Then I tried very briefly dating a guy but the whole thing is, if you don't want to put anything into a relationship of whatever dynamic (dating, fwb, gf bf, whatever) then just book an appt... Now he is back into the client category, as we still are friendly and the service is what he needs but we both agreed we cannot maintain a relationship per se, so it just makes sense to keep things simple. I literally have a phobia of dating as in my experience dating a guy is either way to high maintenance or there's not much benefit in giving that amount of quality time to a person who does not sincerely appreciate it.

I think of being an sp as sort of dating. I only see people I would consider dating and there's the arrangement, and after that I can send them home or they can send me home lol. Then they can have their own life, no complications everyone leaves happy and satisfied. I am happy with my life choices and all those who know me know that to be true If I ever dated anyone it would have to be a female sp who I know is sincere. At this point I would not consider dating a man unless I was Head over heels in love and he could provide for a family and wanted to have kids or something, then he would be someone I already know well so we could even skip the dating scene all together, that would be the only situation I would consider making a commitment with someone. Other than that, dating is a total WOT and energy and I have to stick with those who are sincere and support me. I just want to give time and care for those who care about me as well, that's what it comes down to for me. People who dislike my profession are not my people anyways, so any guys out there talking trash about this profession or working girls are irrelevant to my life. That being said, yes, this can be addictive, so watch yourselves guys, set a budget and stick to it. Seeing sp's can be easier than dating so I understand the convenience of it, as long as you don't max out your credit cards all the time and are responsible with your "hobby"

 

[summerbreeze]

in terms of how society views this profession and its attitude towards someone dating a sp

probably two main issues, the person themselves and historical baggage associated with this profession

obviously there are some well self managed indies out there and in the age of the internet, more independent capabilities

if we go back in history though the industry has had its dark side which of course is still out there today but not as domineering as in the past

from pimps, human trafficking, bad johns, extortion, evictions, local law enforcement, drug addiction, lets just say this industry has some sad downsides if a provider gets on the wrong side of some of these things

so the so called public view on providers lumped into one box so to speak does present some concerns

of course this may not apply at all to an individual case and the "pair" relationship that provider might have with a significant other

reality is that dating a provider is probably on the complicated side and the advice offered at the beginning of this thread being treat the provider with respect and as a normal person (emotional) is good advice, the treatment of logistical issues would probably take some understanding and tolerance and require the right sort of person

 

[Alabama Blaze]

Britain and it's punter culture generally frowns on clients and SP's dating. It's considered unprofessional and a conflict of interest. A lot of punter boards tend to shun reviewers who are dating an SP even when they are not reviewing their girlfriends. British Agency fire any escorts dating their clients.

The Brits aren't mean in anyway. They don't care if you want to date a guy who was previously a client. They're very adamant about maintaining the integrity of their reviews. They have high expectations of professionalism. They look at Escorting as profession.

The UK had a lot of issues with boyfriends pimping out girls 16 -19 year old girls back in the 70's in Ireland and Wales. They worry about those issues cropping up again. There's some momentum from the House of Lords to change the laws in Britain. There's a very long and complicated history in the escorting world in the U.K. If you're dating a client there, you definitely wouldn't want to make it public over there.

Punter cultural is all about keeping it simple and uncomplicated.