Dateing a SP ????????

[nube]

...Truthfully IMO only I feel many pooners feel a sense of low self worth having to pay for what alot of guy's can get for free.

Whoa there Freaky (like your handle BTW), now I have to qualify first, I have only seen one sp - twice, so I am limited in experience, (but that is in the process of changing )

But, after having the experience of an affair, years ago, I am quite happy to be providing a donation, with no strings, no wondering IF I will get lucky, and with out the time it takes for the pursuit.

Another thing that is quite weird for me, is that my feelings of worth has actually gone up! since meeting my sp....the REAL danger is that the 'free stuff' out there just won't measure up anymore,

 

[seannachie]

I think that in theory relationships are possible and that it is difficult , if not impossible, to avoid having feelings for someone with whom you are intimate, especially repeatedly. The practice of the relationship becomes problematic when one or both partners fantasize and/or play games and/or lie to one another. People get their feelings hurt and everyone loses when a relationship turns out to be a sham.

 

[Lurker 123]

It is very possible to have unlimited love, or to love more than one person at a time, but love is not the only issue in intimate relations. The other one is trust. You can say that one should take another at their word in the beginning acceptance of trust, but the consecration of trust is the willingness to sacrifice. So an SP's potential boyfriend may accept her word at the beginning, but for trust to endure, she might have to make a sacrifice. That sacrifice might have to be that she voluntarily leaves the industry. Trust is not unlimited, nor is it possible to transfer one's trust to another, which is why when trust enters intimate relationships it severely limits the number of people involved in it. Thus trust has always been about sacrifice for something greater.

Well say!That is exactly what happen to my SP GF. Finally she has left the industry without me asking!

 

[freakychef]

You know that often happens as................

I think that in theory relationships are possible and that it is difficult , if not impossible, to avoid having feelings for someone with whom you are intimate, especially repeatedly. The practice of the relationship becomes problematic when one or both partners fantasize and/or play games and/or lie to one another. People get their feelings hurt and everyone loses when a relationship turns out to be a sham.

............even a regular, sp relationship will usually fail when one or both parties realizes that the basis for their shared intimacy is built on a fantasy!!!!!!!! Unless like I stated before that both parties are on the same page and willing to make sacrafices as any couples would to be together.

 

[BC_Boy]

honestly, all of you are making this more complicated than it has to.

 

[trentanator]

I agree, BC Boy.
Relationships are as different as the individuals involved.
There ain't no predicting nothing!
Just go with the flow and hope for the best

yup have to agree here all people are different, and will handle different things in their own way.

everybody's experience is mostly different from other people's and how they react to new experinces will be different as well

it could be a crap shoot about how a sp would react to "hey i really like you, am falling for you, i love you" she may be kind but polite, or she may freak out, or she just may say "oh my god finally you say something, do you know how long i have waited to hear you say that!"

 

[freakychef]

I agree things are way too complicated.................

..............I never play ganes and am always straight up in relationships. For me it should be as simple as this"I like you you like me lets be together" However it is everyones personal experiences and baggage which cloud the issues. Complicated it is that is just life. I been looking my whole life for un-complicated!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[kalel]

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After all the point of views posted here including my own and I can say is if Sps are such bad people why are you paying us???

we don't pay you for the company or the sex. we pay you to leave when it's over. okay, i'm kidding (well mostly) but it's a no strings attached way for me to satisfy a simple urge.

i'm not at all against dating sp's but once bitten twice shy, i can say that i don't care to personally get to know many of them outside of the fantasy character they play when they are in the business. i'm sure there are many that are nice, but many that are selfish.

a better question to ask would be: if an sp is in the business and dating a client, is she okay with him sleeping with as many other women as she is men? and like gbm said the trust issues add up.

 

[apple juice]

a better question to ask would be: if an sp is in the business and dating a client, is she okay with him sleeping with as many other women as she is men? and like gbm said the trust issues add up.

This is the reason why I can't see it working out. Whom in their right mind could put up with this...for long...

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Dating an SP is like buying a vehicle that was formerly a taxi. Taxis serve a purpose in life and they're great for that particular purpose ie getting from point A to point B. I use cabs all the time and use the services of an SP almost as often. Would I buy a taxi to park in my driveway? absolutely not.

 

[georgebushmoron]

Dating an SP is like buying a vehicle that was formerly a taxi. Taxis serve a purpose in life and they're great for that particular purpose ie getting from point A to point B. I use cabs all the time and use the services of an SP almost as often. Would I buy a taxi to park in my driveway? absolutely not.

Great analogy! Well done!

 

[georgebushmoron]

if an sp is in the business and dating a client, is she okay with him sleeping with as many other women as she is men?

This is where it gets perverse. Many an SP have made this comment: that they would not like their BF to go to other SPs for sex. Reason? Because he's doing it for fun, and having sex with men is a job for her, and that he knew what her job was when they first started. If any man can at least pretend to see no holes or the twisted nature of that kind of thinking, please explain. Also what I find astounding is that any human being can think in such a twisted way.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

WOW THATS GREAT!!! loL

Its as matter of fact as the "client" is expected to present an envelope at the beginnning of the session. Please take no offence as none was intended.

 

[freakychef]

Ya the wierd thing is.....................

This is where it gets perverse. Many an SP have made this comment: that they would not like their BF to go to other SPs for sex. Reason? Because he's doing it for fun, and having sex with men is a job for her, and that he knew what her job was when they first started. If any man can at least pretend to see no holes or the twisted nature of that kind of thinking, please explain. Also what I find astounding is that any human being can think in such a twisted way.

.............that sp's are jealous that a long time client and friend would go elswhere for sex. It is twisted as they do see it as work(work they enjoy to) However they(sp's) can be territorial and not want you to see any other women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[nube]

Not quite...

Dating an SP is like buying a vehicle that was formerly a taxi. Taxis serve a purpose in life and they're great for that particular purpose ie getting from point A to point B. I use cabs all the time and use the services of an SP almost as often. Would I buy a taxi to park in my driveway? absolutely not.

That's funny, BUT and there's a big BUT....a taxi is more like a SW and an SP is more like a limo...would I park a used limo in my driveway?? YOU BET!!!

 

[nube]

I understand. I think that I just have trouble accepting the way that people look at us SP's. I see me for you I am, and I think of myself as very compassionate, loyale, honest, and very warm-hearted, and quite a bit of my clients always end up saying "why are you a working girl, you dont seem like one"? Reality is,YA...I have my my slut attire, my thigh high boots, my mini skirts, and fishnets........etc, but that is outter me. A.K.A ( FAKE) Inside though....thats a different story! So when I see mean things written, and people making SP's look like cold-hearted EVIL, DIRTY human beings, I am just blown away, But I have to remeber that theri are some nasty girls out there, or girls who have dashed out on clients, taking their money with out giving a service etc, etc and SHAME ON THEM. .BUT, there are also the SP's that you wouldnt even know they were unless they told you!!!


People think that were so nasty, well what about the people who go out to the bars, and then bring back a drunk chick to thioer place, hotel, vis versa and then you fuck them????

I guess I am just gonna have to suck it up, and deal with this nasty title till I am out. Just 6 months to go


Sorry for babbling on, it is a bad habit!!

Its hard to not take some of this stuff personal. But please remember that not all men look down at SP's. I for one admire the fact that a bright, educated person can think "hey I have some good assets, I might as well invest them" It takes a lot to be an SP in sooooo many ways, physically and mentally. And finally - you do provide a much needed service in society, its too bad that society will not consider this occupation a necessity.

 

[georgebushmoron]

And finally - you do provide a much needed service in society, its too bad that society will not consider this occupation a necessity.

Well I doubt most societies will ever see prostitution as a much needed service, even very liberal ones like in Denmark. Even there they see prostitution as at least somewhat subversive, and requires at least licensing, like gambling. It's a necessary "evil" that society must at most tolerate. Ever wonder why Law Enforcement puts drugs, gambling, pornography and prostitution under the control of Vice Squads or Departments? Because something defined as subversive activity that must be tolerated is exactly what "vice" is.

 

[ashley]

That's funny, BUT and there's a big BUT....a taxi is more like a SW and an SP is more like a limo...would I park a used limo in my driveway?? YOU BET!!!

I like you and the way you think.
Thank you ,because of your optimstic view my smile is back on my face!
I love the way your mind works ...wow I wish that my mind worked like yours just think..... life would be a better place.

 

[blondeluver]

Dating a SP... my 2 cents..

Having dated 3 different SP's in the past and had long term relationship with all of them, this is my 2 cents on what it is like to date one. I also interacted with quite a few of their friends or coworkers and got an insider's sneak peek on the life of SP's. Like all of us, there are many different type of SP's who got into this line of work for different reasons. While some did it to support their addiction(s), most did it to support their schooling, family, son, daughter or even parents. Some kept this job a secret while others were opened about it to family and friends. Some spent all the extras on partying, shopping and having fun in general while some invested it wisely.

For all the ones that I have been with, they were all intelligent individual who got the brain to match the look. Being a SP is a much more stressful job than our regular 9-5 one. At least, that's the case for a successful SP with a lot of repeated clients. You gotta know how to market yourself to the right client, maintain a high service level and a good client/provider relationship with them. They key is to make the client feels like you are his only lover, and not everybody's. This sounds easier to say than done especially on a bad/long day when you still have to keep your mentality "on" for him even though he is not your type or even borderline irritating. On top of that, they still have to deal with the daily chores to keep the incall place going as one lady on here mentioned. Of course, there were also the ones who are gold diggers, bitchy and so on...

It's not easy to date a SP unless both people share a completely trusting relationship with open and honest communication. Yes, it is hard to see that she is free to romp with other men and we can't take out other SP's. Yes, it is hard to think that everything on her body can be had for a price by others. But if you can see past those sides of the business, conquer any jealousy nature that you might have, and actually participate in helping her managing the business, it can very well be a great relationship. The most important part for both people is mutual understanding, have a goal of what needs to achieve and when to quit, then it is no difference than a normal relationship.

 

[nube]

I like you and the way you think.
Thank you ,because of your optimstic view my smile is back on my face!.

Glad to be of service ma'm...(I've always wanted to be able say that to a beautiful woman)

wow I wish that my mind worked like yours.

Ohhhh...I am sure, your mind works just fine!

But thanks for the complement,and I perused your web site....very nice limo