Could you see yourself in an interabled relationship?

[Chessmen]

I posted something like this earlier but for some reason few read it. This couple is gaining a lot of media and social media attention and it blew my mind to see such a loving relationship between a beautiful woman and a young man with a severe disability in a wheelchair. She takes care of all his basic needs as well as all the romantic, intimate aspects. Together they compliment each other, as she also loves his personality and sense of humour.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4o30y96kv8

"Shane is diagnosed with spinal muscular atrophy. His girlfriend, Hannah, lives with him and is also his caregiver. This is a day in their life."


Could you see yourself in a long term romantic relationship with a disabled person?
I showed a friend this and he said 'well, love is love! love is blind, you don't control who you fall in love with"

 

[nightswhisper]

I have never respected any two individuals more in my life.

 

[blakealridge]

I mean I have depression and anxiety and have dated guys who have no mental disorders *shrug* it's not really about your ability, it's about who you are, I think.

 

[onslaught13]

aye, once you truely love someone, it wont matter how ill they get you will still love them forever.

 

[Horndog14]

As a person whose sad excuse of a family runs from their so called loved ones
instead of supporting them when a crisis arises these examples of deep loyalty
and love, moves me deeply.

I had a hip problem which hospitalized me from June 70 to Feb 72 so the examples
of non loyalty were obvious to me at a very early age.

 

[jgg]

Along similar lines.

The Sessions.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1866249/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_14

 

[jgg]

I mean I have depression and anxiety and have dated guys who have no mental disorders *shrug* it's not really about your ability, it's about who you are, I think.

As a person whose sad excuse of a family runs from their so called loved ones
instead of supporting them when a crisis arises these examples of deep loyalty
and love, moves me deeply.

I had a hip problem which hospitalized me from June 70 to Feb 72 so the examples
of non loyalty were obvious to me at a very early age.

Family dynamics can be the best support or the worst environment to be a part of.

As the saying goes, you can pick your friends, but not your family.

 

[Rowan Reid]

In my younger days, I found myself falling for a man with cerebral palsy. We dated for several months and amicably broke up due to different directions in life. It was a learning experience and there were more than a few slapstick moments in the bedroom with various mishaps but we both laughed it off, even if it occasionally killed the mood. The worst part was that often when we went out for dinner or drinks there was an unmistakable impression that most people assumed I was his sister/care giver/etc. Like those with intellectual or physical disabilities aren't worthy and capable of loving intimate relationships. That always rubbed me wrong and has long been a bone I'd like to pick with society as a whole.

I am also currently caring for my mother - alternating with hiring a care giver - and I have a newfound respect for those who take on the task of caring for their family members. I worked in long term retirement care for a time and seeing how few family members visit and how the care centres are run for profit (that's a rant for another time) just made me so mad. Now I understand how tough it is emotionally, physically and financially and understand - not agree with - why some opt for a care home or outsourced help.

Whether it's a romantic love or a platonic/familial love, those who care for others should be commended IMO.