Contacting an escort after the date

[black ace]

This might be a dumb question but I saw someone recently (will leave the name out of it) and didnt quite get the mileage I was expecting. It didnt come across as someone who advertises something but delivers less as a scam (and I certainly wouldnt describe her as a scam) but the girl I saw hasnt been around for too long and perhaps what she gave was what she offers. Is it wrong to send her a message and ask if it was me ? I liked her and if she offered a little more I would likely see her on a regular bases.

Or should I just move on ?

 

[twoblues]

Tough to say. Sometimes just moving on is worthwhile and don't bother with her again. You don't want to feel like you were screwed twice...well, screwed out of service twice...

Personally, I would most likely just move on. Contacting her will come across as you complaining unless you word it very specifically...it's in her interest to get you to come back a second time so she may say things to get you to come back.

I dunno...I'm no help

 

[black ace]

It's tough. Does her website specifically say "YMMV"?

Probably, most do.

I dont want to insinuate I had a bad time. I would likely see her again but there are others out there who would probably give me more mileage. If I thought I was ripped off or didnt have a good time I would never think about going back.

 

[tantalizeme]

This might be a dumb question but I saw someone recently (will leave the name out of it) and didnt quite get the mileage I was expecting. It didnt come across as someone who advertises something but delivers less as a scam (and I certainly wouldnt describe her as a scam) but the girl I saw hasnt been around for too long and perhaps what she gave was what she offers. Is it wrong to send her a message and ask if it was me ? I liked her and if she offered a little more I would likely see her on a regular bases.

Or should I just move on ?

Hey black ace,

Here's the way I see it...If you just move on you might lose out on delightful possibilities with this lady; plus, you deprive her of constructive feedback that might benefit her and other pooners.

Surely there's nothing easier than writing her an upbeat little message:

"Hi [her name]

Just a little note to let you know, I appreciate what we shared—and I'm thinking of seeing you again.

You're a sweetheart and a beautiful person all around. I hope you don't mind my telling you that I missed not being able to______[do DATY, get a BBBJ, kiss you more passionately etc, etc].

That left me wondering: is it just me that made you not want to do those things, or is it something you're just not comfortable offering?

Please let me know. But whatever you decide, I'm keeping you fondly in my memories anyway."

 

[EvilPettingZoo]

I like tantalizeme's approach and would take it a little bit further by keeping your request 100% positive. eg. "I enjoyed our time and noticed you might be open to ____, which is something I really enjoy. If so, is there anything I can do to make this more pleasurable for you?"

That creates a win/win, making both of you happier from the result. (Even if you find out you were mislead or mistaken about _____.)

Good luck!

epz

 

[black ace]

Sorry, I just re-read that and it may have come across as stand offish.

I'm sure you're a great client, if you're already wondering and contemplating that shows you are a considerate person. I just think you might be happier in the end if you put your energy towards finding someone that you can have an incredible session with as opposed to figuring out why a past session did not work in your favor.

No offense at all.

I am leaning towards seeing her again but if the service I got was because she found me grotesque then its probably in both our best interests that I just move on.

If I saw her again and the service was exactly the same then I might not see her a 3rd time. If she allowed a little bit more than all would be good.

 

[Tugela]

Hey black ace,

Here's the way I see it...If you just move on you might lose out on delightful possibilities with this lady; plus, you deprive her of constructive feedback that might benefit her and other pooners.

Surely there's nothing easier than writing her an upbeat little message:

"Hi [her name]

Just a little note to let you know, I appreciate what we shared—and I'm thinking of seeing you again.

You're a sweetheart and a beautiful person all around. I hope you don't mind my telling you that I missed not being able to______[do DATY, get a BBBJ, kiss you more passionately etc, etc].

That left me wondering: is it just me that made you not want to do those things, or is it something you're just not comfortable offering?

Please let me know. But whatever you decide, I'm keeping you fondly in my memories anyway."

The problem with that is most of the ladies would be reluctant to commit anything along those lines to print for a variety of reasons. So you would be putting the SP in a potentially uncomfortable position and probably would get a non-commital response.

 

[DiscreetOG]

Very interesting subject. I also like the approach by tantalizeme. Be respectful, tactful, and be positive about your experience. Having said that, I sometimes think a first contact, or date, is sometimes a "feeling out"(ha ha) process for both parties. She does not know if it's a one night stand or if she will ever see you again. I've almost always found, that if I liked an SP, and saw her a few times, the menu seemed to expand....
Perhaps a few SP's would like to give their opinion on this subject. Good luck!

 

[sevenofnine]

move on. unless well hard to put this into words.

but one of my all time favorite ladies our sessions were awkard at first. but there was a certain something about her, class, style i don't realy know, but i wanted it, so i kept on going back even though our first couple of sessions weren't anything to write home about we worked it out still see her

another lady had a terrible session with one and only one session, never went back even though she emailed me and told me she was passing through. i just saw what she had to offer as a dime a dozen i could pick up anywhere or find anywhere, less hassle less money then she put me through.
so i guess it depends on how bad you want or value what you see in this girl. there are alot of sps out there. all of them can be good or great, depends on really what you want the chemistry between you, etc etc,

 

[luvsdaty]

Move on dude, life is way too short for 'what ifs'.

 

[treveller]

Seems to me that things can change on subsequent visits or just because both of you are in a different space on any given day. You have to decide whether or not it is worth another visit or two and getting to know one another better. Keep working on the communication and respect and you have a good start.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

This might be a dumb question but I saw someone recently (will leave the name out of it) and didnt quite get the mileage I was expecting. It didnt come across as someone who advertises something but delivers less as a scam (and I certainly wouldnt describe her as a scam) but the girl I saw hasnt been around for too long and perhaps what she gave was what she offers. Is it wrong to send her a message and ask if it was me ? I liked her and if she offered a little more I would likely see her on a regular bases.

Or should I just move on ?

One of the pro's, or con's, depending on how you look at it of looking for the type of girl who wants a SB relationship is that they are relatively new to the whole buying sex thing. As such, you will often encounter various restrictions not normally associated with escorts. For example one girl I saw didn't want anything to do with oral activies of any kind. So the point I'm making is that in terms of milage it may not have anything to do with you at all, rather it may have to do with her either being new to the industry or just choosing to engage in activities she enjoys doing.

Personally, I think it's a bit much to expect someone who may not find me attractive to also engage in intimate activities she doesn't enjoy. That said, I think her restrictions should be pointed out to you before engaging in her services.

 

[black ace]

Thanks for all the advice. I was hoping to get a few providers insight but perhaps its not something they feel comfortable discussing.

I think part of the problem for me is that I like to have a regular girl I see who then gets to know what I like. I am not looking for FS just a nice long BBBJ but I am quite difficult to finish. A big part of why I do this is the feeling that I get when I am lying in bed naked with a hot (usually younger) girl kissing her all over her body. Holding her hair back as she gives me a BJ. A couple of times I have had a great time but the girl was unable to finish me off.

The last 2 girls I saw I saw probably 5-6 times each over a period of around a year. I havent seen anyone in about a year so I was probably expecting a new girl to be as good as the others were when I saw them last. I am probably going to see her again and right now am leaning towards sending her an email to see if I can improve things next time.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I am probably going to see her again and right now am leaning towards sending her an email to see if I can improve things next time.

Hard to imagine any downside to something like this. Communication is almost always a good thing.

 

[cjac7214]

I have to say that I would move on - there are many escorts that will make you feel like there is a genuine connection, and I also believe that you can have a genuine connection. If you don't feel it the first time, you will probably only be more disappointed the second time. I have never repeated where I have felt the slightest bit disappointed (which has been rare luckily). Do your research, trust your instincts and ask for what you want beforehand.

Happy trails!

 

[black ace]

I sent her an email. I probably wont post what she replies (if she does). I decided that if she doesnt reply I will move on. Otherwise I probably will see her again.

Will post a review of both visits if I see her again.

Thanks for the advice.