Just wondering if there are people who would reveal their pooning ways? Either to a future girlfriend, wife etc. The seasoned veterans are probably taking their secrets with them to the...end. But for others would you confess? I am a younger gentleman so i am not sure what i would do when the time comes. What would the masters do? Input from SPs would be greatly appreciated too. I am not ashamed of my actions but i don't think everyone can understand.
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That is why i would rather be in a relationship with someone i know from the business .. then we all know about past lives .. then there is nothing to confess or regret , and don't have to tell any lies We all know when the other is lieing
Threesomes . .. foursomes or just know that there are other options for both ..
Threesomes . .. foursomes or just know that there are other options for both ..
keep it to yourself. like the others said for several reasons, its only doing yourself good, not so much for the person hearing it. and also most people cannot understand this or agree with this, you are potentially going to ostracize yourself from the people you reveal this to. be careful, if you cant deal with this dont do it, its not for everyone.
i generally believe in the truth is best always.
unless its only purpose is to hurt someone
im married and have occasionally thought of telling my wife, but what purpose would it serve but hurt her possibly destroy my marriage ruin my relationship with my kids.
somtimes people just don't need to know
unless its only purpose is to hurt someone
im married and have occasionally thought of telling my wife, but what purpose would it serve but hurt her possibly destroy my marriage ruin my relationship with my kids.
somtimes people just don't need to know
It's my hobby and I have never been in a confessional with no need to start now. 
Who knows, maybe there is a book, movie script with fame and fortune down the road. Til then, these are mostly very happy memories for me.
Who knows, maybe there is a book, movie script with fame and fortune down the road. Til then, these are mostly very happy memories for me.
It's unfortunate pooners and SPs alike have to be so secretive about this, as it's definitely not something to be ashamed of, and personally it's something I'm proud of. Whenever I decide to stop I would tell a SO that I did it in the past, and if they can't handle it they're not someone I want to be with. But that's just me. Also, pooning might get different reactions, and as much as it'd be nice to say you'll only date someone very open-minded, that may not work for everyone. I believe what's in the past is in the past and who cares, but some people disagree, and therefore why hurt them?
... And even then, I'd say,"Hmmm, a threesome... sounds interesting dear,.. uh, what do you know about "hookers" ????"
I'm pretty open about it. I've told most of my gfs that I've pooned locally and have traveled extensively for the sole purpose of pooning. You'd be surprised how many chicks are totally ok with it providing you're open about it.
I told my old partner that I worked with for the past year (and a couple other friends, that enjoy vices of a different sort - meaning they understand). Stopping over to see his new house after a session, his gf promptly answered the door and asked "how was she?" Her and a couple of her friends were very interested and had a bunch of questions (not questions which showed a pre conceived notion either, but genuine curiosity questions). Lots of people I work with (travelling tradesmen) are mostly divorced or clinging to failing relationships (If I dont take a vacation soon my wife will divorce me!! type relationships) all of them advocate just "renting" a gf from time to time and then just worrying about yourself the rest (Not people I'm telling what I do either, they just support it willingly, hell some even suggest it!)
That's a pretty absolute thing to say. There are misgivings a guy could have about his SO being a former escort, not all of them are something that should disqualify him.
Mostly I wouldn't shy away from being honest if the subject is broached, but I wouldn't go waving it in someone's face in a "what do you think of that" manner - I know that's not what you mean, but there is a time and a place for everything. I would never want a gf to suddenly just sit me down and say "I used to be involved in prostitution" not because I care but it feels like one of those "I'm testing you" moments which I dislike, just allow things to come out naturally, if it's important it'll surface, if it isn't....well just better to let sleeping dogs lie.
It may be absolute, but for me I mean it. I've been with guys who are totally okay with it at first, yet had a few misgivings that despite the best answers and reassurances I could give them, they never were totally convinced. People let their pre-conceived notions get the best of them, instead of just listening to the person (me). I'm not saying they can't have questions, but they do need to be 100% okay with it or it's never going to work. This is not just another job for me, it's something I feel strongly about and is definitely not all of who I am, but it's an important part. The other thing is, I don't intend to have a monogamous relationship any time soon, if ever (leaning more towards never, but you should never say never lol). So in my mind there is little difference between this and plain polyamory, so I would need to find someone who's okay with open relationships anyway. So it's non-negotiable that they be totally fine with open relationships and my being an escort present or in the past. This is why I say this is my mindset, but I understand it may not be for others.
Someone can be ok with open relationships and/or their partner being an escort while having misgivings (or maybe a better way to say it, a few insecurities about it). It's not a matter of being needy, in fact I dont think there is a person alive that is 100% confident 100% of the time - everyone needs some reassurances at some points, everyone suffers from a doubt or two now and again. Escorting is a job which can provide a focal point for that from time to time for an SO. To label someone as insecure over every now and again needing to be reassured would mean that the vast majority of women I've ever met could not be labeled as "secure" and that includes alot of escorts (from shorter ones standing on their toes while we stand and talk, another hiding a couple extra lbs in her mid section through body position and hand positioning, another giving off the sense she's concerned about her age and going forwards in the business).
I'd have a concern with dating an escort, and it's centered around the fact a big part of the job is convincingly stroking a man's ego, if she's very good at it how can I believe her all the time (not that she's sleeping with other men, that part is actually obvious), how do I know I'm not being placated (ooooo I hate being placated!!). It's not something that would be ever present, but caught at certain times the thought may be hard to shake off.
What's the difference between my having a need to occasional be reassured "no I'll always be honest with you (when it really counts, lol lets face it, over insignificant stuff....it's better to lie at times)" to someone else's occasional need to be reassured they're making the proper career choices and they can succeed if they work diligently. There really isn't a difference (as the expression goes "same crap just a different pile"), and you'll find that every person, no matter how confident and secure in who they are occasionally needs to be reassured about something sometimes. That's why I say it's terribly absolute, too black and white, no grey area.
Besides, if you were in serious relationship wouldn't you want your SO to "need" you in some way, or would you really want someone who literally could just pack up and head out without missing a beat in their life?
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I'd have a concern with dating an escort, and it's centered around the fact a big part of the job is convincingly stroking a man's ego, if she's very good at it how can I believe her all the time (not that she's sleeping with other men, that part is actually obvious), how do I know I'm not being placated (ooooo I hate being placated!!). It's not something that would be ever present, but caught at certain times the thought may be hard to shake off.
What's the difference between my having a need to occasional be reassured "no I'll always be honest with you (when it really counts, lol lets face it, over insignificant stuff....it's better to lie at times)" to someone else's occasional need to be reassured they're making the proper career choices and they can succeed if they work diligently. There really isn't a difference (as the expression goes "same crap just a different pile"), and you'll find that every person, no matter how confident and secure in who they are occasionally needs to be reassured about something sometimes. That's why I say it's terribly absolute, too black and white, no grey area.
Besides, if you were in serious relationship wouldn't you want your SO to "need" you in some way, or would you really want someone who literally could just pack up and head out without missing a beat in their life?
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All really good points. You're right, certainly it's normal and expected that even the most confident will have misgivings or insecurities occasionally, but so long as it's not a common or persistent issue then that can be dealt with through communication, which is important in any relationship.
The issue of how genuine an escort is gets brought up on here a lot, and I find unfortunately a lot of men are more cynical then they need to be. Even if you're not the most mind-blowing sex maniac ever, that doesn't mean you're anywhere near bad (it is actually pretty hard to be bad in bed lol), and you're probably better than you think you are. Any good SP will focus on what a client is good at, and it's different for everyone. I just notice whatever a client's good at and let him know that, everyone's good at something so there's really no need to lie. This is something I pride myself on, I think you can still be nice and complimentary while being honest, you don't have to lie.
In terms of a relationship, you probably know that person well enough to know when they're lying. If not, then you just have to trust them. If you don't trust them, the relationship probably isn't going to work, not because she's an escort, but cause there's no trust. Maybe that's oversimplifying it, and it may sound as if I'm talking in absolutes. There's definitely a grey area, and you should definitely compromise to some degree, but you do still want to stand behind your beliefs.
The issue of how genuine an escort is gets brought up on here a lot, and I find unfortunately a lot of men are more cynical then they need to be. Even if you're not the most mind-blowing sex maniac ever, that doesn't mean you're anywhere near bad (it is actually pretty hard to be bad in bed lol), and you're probably better than you think you are. Any good SP will focus on what a client is good at, and it's different for everyone. I just notice whatever a client's good at and let him know that, everyone's good at something so there's really no need to lie. This is something I pride myself on, I think you can still be nice and complimentary while being honest, you don't have to lie.
In terms of a relationship, you probably know that person well enough to know when they're lying. If not, then you just have to trust them. If you don't trust them, the relationship probably isn't going to work, not because she's an escort, but cause there's no trust. Maybe that's oversimplifying it, and it may sound as if I'm talking in absolutes. There's definitely a grey area, and you should definitely compromise to some degree, but you do still want to stand behind your beliefs.
I've told a few of my close female friends, and their reactions have been varied, from very interested, to angry - but I would never tell my SO, not in a million years...
I've actually pooned with a few female friends - they needed the money, and offered their services. I guess it was different when it was someone they knew. Good times were had....
I've actually pooned with a few female friends - they needed the money, and offered their services. I guess it was different when it was someone they knew. Good times were had....
