Sometimes clients may ask or insist on not using a condom. This can be a tricky situation to negotiate. Insist on condoms before any action happens. Put the condom on the client once he has an erection without discussion or comment.
However if you have to persuade the client to use a condom, here are some strategies that have worked for other women.
*Explain that it is for both your protection and the client`s
*Say that you are really concerned about pregnancy (your real concern may be something else)
*Say that it makes it easier for you to relax and work and that you will feel anxious or frigid instead of sexually aroused or excited during sex if a condom is not used
*Use emotional coercion and make a pitiful face if the client doesn’t want to use a condom
*Make the client believe that he will feel sorry for you if a condom is not used
*Make up a reason you feel comfortable with even though your real reason is to protect yourself
Sometimes clients give reasons why they cannot use a condom. Here are some solutions.
*Reason: Client claims latex allergy. Solution: Use a polyurethane condom.
*Reason: Client claims he is unable to enjoy sex with a condom . Solution: “Sell” the positives of
condom use (e.g. longer lasting encounter, introduce the unique design of a condom (e.g. dots, ribs)
which will bring about rewarding sensations)
If the client persists, tell him
*I’ll give you six good reasons: Hepatitis, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, warts, syphilis and HIV. Now can you give me six good reasons why we shouldn't use a condom?
*I'm sorry. I don't negotiate on this matter.
*I’ll just leave, shall l? Make it clear that you will not have sex if condoms are not used.
Other tips include:
*Use and make sure you always have your own condoms
*Make condom use more enjoyable by using “fun” condoms (e.g. studded, coloured, or flavoured)
