Clients Falling In Love With Working Girls

[badbadboy]

It's pretty pathetic that a guy starts a legitimate conversation that you don't want to hear or has a different opinion and you get him banned. This is the part of the review boards that makes them a playground for the small minded.

There are some good posts since the banning, some generalizations and usual tripe but it's a valid lounge discussion.

Which of you little boys is going to flag me?

How do you know any of that is actually what happened.

Mods are checking posts of all whose first posts are of a trollish or controversial in nature.

I'd bet $$ that the OP was a banned former member and the IP matched.

Usually guys first posts are in the 411, questions in reviews and even post their own reviews and not posts in the Lounge.


And no I didn't flag him as you say.

 

[sevenofnine]

it isn't I think what most people think it is.

I mean as sp a decade or two in this, I would venture to say if she is smart with her money she is well richer then most of her clients.
so the question is or becomes who is the gold digger,

I have been to my sp's house and all I can say is wow.


and I think again, if your here to find love, god are you fucking nuts.
if your single and free and looking for romance shit your in the wrong place.

but it happens, I mean I'm relatively happy in my life in my marriage chasing the grand kids around and all that, just need something a little extra on the side. not love shit no.
but dam were easy together comfortable all that and more.

so now your juggling two relationships. relationships are hard, none are perfect, they take work understanding patience etc, etc,
all of that times two.

it isn't at all what you would imagine.

much easier to just fuck a women and be done with her but some of us that is not the way were wired, its easy for us to enter relationships and make them work, well not easy, but we work at it. were not good at one night stands or quick weekends, were made for the long haul.

 

[billiards11]

I can see clients falling in love with working girls and vice versa. Especially when they spend a lot of time together and end up clicking.

I personally wouldn't fall in love with a working girl because I know they are trained to make you feel like your the most wonderful person in the world.

Plus If I was in a relationship with one I would want both of us to work. A lot of girls in the field don't have much education past high school so they can't really get a decent job. But she could have saved and invested a lot of money from working in the industry. Some girls are really smart with their money, others not so much. Regardless, I still wouldn't allow it to happen. Just my personal preference.

 

[summerbreeze]

many are highly skilled manipulators who know the right buttons to push

the trick is to determine whether sincerity or exploitation is the agenda, pushing your buttons for the right reasons is not all bad

 

[alsmooth]

There is a huge difference between lust and love. I'm pretty sure we might get caught up in the moment. Probably not a good idea wouldn't work out

 

[Caramel]

I can see clients falling in love with working girls and vice versa. Especially when they spend a lot of time together and end up clicking.

I personally wouldn't fall in love with a working girl because I know they are trained to make you feel like your the most wonderful person in the world.

Plus If I was in a relationship with one I would want both of us to work. A lot of girls in the field don't have much education past high school so they can't really get a decent job. But she could have saved and invested a lot of money from working in the industry. Some girls are really smart with their money, others not so much. Regardless, I still wouldn't allow it to happen. Just my personal preference.

trained by who?


and depends how much work you put in, if its just casual/part time, then probably not...girls have to work like rabbits to make it big

 

[a0011a]

I find this notion stupid.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

You were clearly talking to a low rent scam artist. Please don't paint us all with that brush. Many girls are very respectful of the gentlemen they see and treat their feelings delicately. I don't know any lady in my personal circle that would ever take advantage of someone in that way. Not to mention that we are all very healthy physically, mentally, emotionally... I mean... Me n my other working girl friends go for green juice and yoga and talk about how to better spread love and happiness....

Exactly, and beautifully put! Thanks, Cami!

For sure, there is no one way that this biz goes down. The successful ladies, those who are still around a few years in, are obviously making men happy in a variety of ways. Scam artists and users just cannot last. Both sides know that there is a certain amount of fantasy in the get-togethers but, seriously, if you don't like the people you're spending time with, and are not happy within yourself, it could get ugly. If you're here for the right reasons, everyone wins and everyone parts happy, until next time...

 

[sevenofnine]

you really go for an emotional ride when you cross the line into friendship with an sp.

I was just thinking today I have been seeing my sp for more then ten years,
and during that time we have seen four family members pass away.
illness court cases,
life happens.

I don't think you can honestly say you love each other while your still exchanging money. it gets in the way buying and selling sex is not love.
but then its not love or sex your buying, your paying in a sense for them to leave you alone, when your done. its a safety net or love on training wheels.

its easy, actually making it work is the hard part.

 

[erber]

It could be worse if he didn't know she was a SP at all, until he got her pregnant. Voila!

Another important thing of being in a romantic relationship with a SP is, he has to deal with her unnatural being besides as a SP.
All of her dangerous habits, questionable friends, encounter with laws, and the likes.

 

[SpeedStick]

I agree with everything u just said, even as I agree... Sadly I am falling for an sp and although I am quite aware she's saying what i want to hear. I'm stupidly getting caught up and aware of this but just kidding myself. This hobby is not what I expected when I started, falling for sp was furthest from my mind. This is like picking up a gambling habit as a hobby for fun in black jack game or slots and turns into something ugly. Or occasional drink to full blown alcoholism. Wish I could have ur mind frame. I think for my best interests I should cut ties with this sp!

Honestly what advice would u have fellow pooners? Can someone who was in my situation let me know how they dealt with this? Please be harsh and direct. My brain is clouded and I need a serious reality check.

I can see clients falling in love with working girls and vice versa. Especially when they spend a lot of time together and end up clicking.

I personally wouldn't fall in love with a working girl because I know they are trained to make you feel like your the most wonderful person in the world.

Plus If I was in a relationship with one I would want both of us to work. A lot of girls in the field don't have much education past high school so they can't really get a decent job. But she could have saved and invested a lot of money from working in the industry. Some girls are really smart with their money, others not so much. Regardless, I still wouldn't allow it to happen. Just my personal preference.

 

[TSDebbie]

I can see clients falling in love with working girls and vice versa. Especially when they spend a lot of time together and end up clicking.

I personally wouldn't fall in love with a working girl because I know they are trained to make you feel like your the most wonderful person in the world.

Plus If I was in a relationship with one I would want both of us to work. A lot of girls in the field don't have much education past high school so they can't really get a decent job. But she could have saved and invested a lot of money from working in the industry. Some girls are really smart with their money, others not so much. Regardless, I still wouldn't allow it to happen. Just my personal preference.

Sorry billiards11... but "Trained"... Really?
All of us "working girls" come from different social and economic backgrounds as well as educational levels. MOST of the girls I know, and/or have met in this "field", DO have a post high school educational background or are continuing their education "past high school". As far as a "decent" job... What do you consider a "decent" job?
Any service provider in ANY field that provides a service for those in need of that service, is doing a "decent job"... don't you think?
Just for reference... I hold an AME M1 licence (Aircraft Maintenance Engineering) and a PET degree (Petroleum Engineering Technologist).

 

[Caramel]

Sorry billiards11... but "Trained"... Really?
All of us "working girls" come from different social and economic backgrounds as well as educational levels. MOST of the girls I know, and/or have met in this "field", DO have a post high school educational background or are continuing their education "past high school". As far as a "decent" job... What do you consider a "decent" job?
Any service provider in ANY field that provides a service for those in need of that service, is doing a "decent job"... don't you think?
Just for reference... I hold an AME M1 licence (Aircraft Maintenance Engineering) and a PET degree (Petroleum Engineering Technologist).

he is confusing "trained" with how good it feels when they perform the simple task of having sex with him and that is enough to make him feel like the "most wonderful person in the world".

 

[sevenofnine]

its silly really,
confusing as hell,

but in some ways its your own dam fault if you get suckered,

I spent a beautiful day with my sp at her home which is really really nice and relaxing place to be,
been seeing her for eleven years, now. it only cost me a pizza and a bottle of wine, not that it matters but some guys its all they can think about is money spent what does it cost.

if that is all your thinking about is money your spending and what your getting in return. your setting your self up for failure. or to be disappointed some where down the road.

I spent a lot on my sp supper dates long supper dates, paid every minute for her time, and got ridiculed for it. sometimes we didn't even do nothing rare but it happened. we liked each others company so to be together that was enough.
like I said if you treat a women like a whore or a gold digger that is what your going to get.

I don't know where me and my sp will end up, not worried about it either,

she is going a way for a brief holiday, I know the security codes to her place, she told me I could use her place, and dam it is nice,
but I am not even tempted. silly to be there with out her,

its more about ones attitude then anything, the lady trusts me, were friends.

sad but some people really don't even understand the concept.

 

[westwoody]

A local retired sp and her former client just celebrated their 26th wedding anniversary.
But keep on generalising...it is easier than treating people as individuals.

 

[Larry Storch]

I've been down this road and it rarely ends well. Financial and emotional disaster. I'm still dealing with it after almost 9 years.

(snip)Honestly what advice would u have fellow pooners? Can someone who was in my situation let me know how they dealt with this? Please be harsh and direct. My brain is clouded and I need a serious reality check.

I'd recommend:

(snip)
Option C ) Don't say anything and never talk to her again. Totally fine.

Then try this for a few months:

Option D ) Stop seeing escorts all together. A lot of people just aren't cut out for this industry. Really emotional / sensitive souls might not thrive well with the whole escort thing and be better off not to engage. Not all people are capable of casual sex being a healthy part of their lives, paid for or not.

Best of luck to you SpeedStick

Then try dating civvies, if you want an emotional connection. No I'm not saying the ladies in this business are not capable of this; but they are in business after all. Few will give it up unless actual love is involved and paying her is no way to find out if she loves you.

 

[87112]

I would say there is a 5-10 percent chance you could live a normal life of saving money, clipping coupons and her happy with 9 to 5 life with you. I assume both of you have to work since housing in BC is not Cambodia's prices. I tried it once and jeez one sniff of being a regular person and trying to save a buck and she was out the door.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

I would say there is a 5-10 percent chance you could live a normal life of saving money, clipping coupons and her happy with 9 to 5 life with you. I assume both of you have to work since housing in BC is not Cambodia's prices. I tried it once and jeez one sniff of being a regular person and trying to save a buck and she was out the door.

allow me to suggest a revision of your figures to '0.1 - 0.5 percent chance...' just sayin'

 

[sevenofnine]

Here is my best advice.

When entering into a relationship with either an SP or a civvie, look at her relationships with her own family, longtime friends, her general stability. If she is tight with her parents, siblings, has had close friends for years, and a drama free life, then it bodes well for a personal relationship and she'll probably treat you the same.

Clear your mind. Use your best judgment. Good luck to you!

have to agree totally, we are reflections of the life that circles around us. were part of it, sustain it enable it create it.

look at a persons life, their friends their room, all of that around them reflects what is going on in their mind.

its fun to watch people listen to people

 

[clu]

have to agree totally, we are reflections of the life that circles around us. were part of it, sustain it enable it create it.

look at a persons life, their friends their room, all of that around them reflects what is going on in their mind.

its fun to watch people listen to people

Friends maybe, but I give a pass on relationship with family. You can't choose your family and the drama may not be that person's doing.