I agree with that too but I'm trying to get to the closest approximation of real, civilian sex so I'm sticking to their preferred baseline, not trying to push up against restrictions just because I'm allowed and it's their job.
When it comes to random hookups your approximation of real civilian sex is not as plain jane as you might believe it is. The menu might not be an all you can dine buffet all the time but from what I know it can be pretty wild with how open random people can be sexually and its crazier scary in the civilian world because safe sex is not a given like it is in the provider world.
I remember a hookup where this lady said I could do anything I wanted before I even had a chance to say or do anything. She wanted every hole explored. It was a real system overload moment. I didnt push or ask for this outcome she just guided me down a path of what she really wanted. She wanted it all. I later asked where can I finish? and she said anywhere you want! My brain was seriously glitching out!
She was like - my ass, my pussy, my mouth, face, my tits....I wanted to replay that moment again and again so I could do it all. It was wild!!!
Its also not considered pushing it if they are the ones allowing or wanting it through a mutual discussion. The same goes for it being listed on a providers menu. If they have it listed as available why would you restrict yourself from exploring? I would get so bored if it was the same path everytime because I automatically believed they hated it if I were to explore for more of their listed offerings.
For many providers the preferred baseline would be to do nothing sexual and still get paid. It would be a dream for providers if all they had to do was talk to us. I have experienced many sessions where this so called preferred baseline you speak of felt like they wanted it to end as soon as possible. If providers had a choice of fs constant work load or relaxing, chatting and getting to know eachother what option would be picked the most? Of course it would be the relax and talk option. If you want the real answer to most providers preferred baseline it would be to get paid to do the least amount of work possible.
I am scared to ask what a providers preferred baseline is because I dont want to end up feeling bad where I am left giving her a massage for the full session. I go by the menu and break it down as it goes. Finding out her pleasure zones and speed tempo is a great way to break it down. This all can be talked about.
