Iwron, if you are just looking for friendship....
first jaggerman sorry for the partial hijack, in answer to your inquiry, i have not seen you dancer, but i have not been there in a few years.
Iwron, you sound like a nice dude. if you TRULY just want to be FRIENDS (ie. not a sexual relationship), then ask her to have coffee (at any coffee shop on Jasper, only 2 blocks from Chez, say 1/2 hour BEFORE one of her shifts).
if she wants to be your friend for REAL, then there you go. and you can spend 20 minutes talking with her for $10.00 (two premium lattes) instead of $200.00 for 10 dances or whatever it works out to.
you have to remember when she is dancing, she is WORKING every dude in the place and this might hurt your feelings, but she is an ACTRESS on stage when you are paying her to be in you lap.
you can be friends with her, but i am not sure if you really mean NOT SEXUALLY because you can ask her for coffee like a normal person. the only diff is she won't be gyrating on your dick in the coffee shop.
peace.