Anita - this is how you get yourself into trouble ... you where doing fine there for a while then all of a sudden you say this.
Perb can be addictive, it's like we get to view other peoples lives without really knowing them. In a strange way it's kinda fun, and yet disturbing. I guess that is what makes it addictive.
Avarice, these statements are why Massagelady got her feathers ruffled. And honestly I would too. It's one thing to let the boys take the bet, it's a whole other kettle of fish when a lady does. We're in this biz together, and no one here is competition, believe me !! Everyone will see the majority of these gentleman sooner or later. Lets stick together as ladies instead of coral ling with the dudes.
The new gal will read and read and read just like most of us did when we started. Some will find another gal to help while others won't.
Massagelady is concerned about the new gals safety, which is why she suggested the agency route. However, sooner or later the new gal will have to learn how to protect herself.
There are tons of ways to do that without outing herself to her family or friends.
1 - take a cell phone with you and regardless if you are on the phone or not with someone act like you are talking to them.
2 - remind the gent you need to make a phone call at the 45 min mark, so he knows someone out in the world knows where you are. Regardless if it is true or not.
3 - confide in a friend, leave a note at home - do what ever you are comfortable with to secure your peace of mind.
Agencies for the most part will only take half you money, give you a steady income til you are ready to be on your own.
Personally the whole agency thing is to close to a pimp for me, but that doesn't mean it's bad - it is a good stepping stone. And you will learn tons, but you will learn it regardless if you are indy or agency.
Do what you think is best for your life, try to ignore the crap and keep your chin up.
Biggest thing to do ... find someone you feel safe with to talk to !
Good luck young lady you will do fine