I have recently come to realize that it is best to NOT let a provider know that you are a Perb member. Or at least not before you have met in person and hopefully made a good impression that might overshadow their negative feeling towards Perb.
Case in point. I approached a lady that is fairly active on Perb about seeing her last summer. I mentioned that I was a Perb member. I mentioned that there was one particular post I made on Perb I was not proud of. She asked me which post it was, but I thought it better to see her first and hopefully make a good impression before telling her which post I was referring to. Btw, I no longer remember which post I was referring to. I tried looking through my older posts but no specific post came to mind. Long story short, she was not available at the time and then I got busy and did not try again to set up a date until very recently.
She quoted me a price for a specific service. I pointed out that her current ad on Leolist indicated a price of $50 less. Her response was:
"Oh, you got grandfathered at $$$ ".
$$$ was what she had quoted me last summer which was a larger amount. I thought she was being funny but then realized she was serious. I basically asked her what was going on and her response was:
"I've taken a disliking to you for negotiating my rates. It's disrespectful and crass. And when I tried asking you about the post you regret to see if you could use good judgment and employ some self-awareness, you wanted to play coy and hold that out as a carrot to see me. Poor form. "
Needles to say, the date did not happen and unless we run into each other in a bar and get roaringly drunk together and all is forgiven, it likely never will happen.
I thought initially that I really had offended the lady by being so crass as to try to negotiate her rate. But then another SP whose tweets I follow posted a link to an article written by a guest columnist, who just happens to be the lady I am referring to in this post. She wrote in part:
'In Western Canada, we have the archaic and wholly unwieldy Pacific Escort Review Board (PERB.cc) run on vBulletin (you know it’s bad when even academia has left the format behind). On any given day, the old guard of “perberts” post degrading and vulgar comments about providers, their bodies and a scale-ten judgment of their services. Hobbyists take nit-picky circle-jerk punches at “girls with boyfriends” and “girls who have cellulite” and “girls who think they have golden pussies.” They routinely marvel at how providers could even dare to ask them for a deposit. They jostle to outdo one another on their conquests and oscillate between “I think I’m going to quit this hobby” and “I can’t wait until the market pulls the prices back down and these girls get a good idea of what they’re actually worth.” '
I now believe it was more a bias against Perb members and less about me pointing out the pricing discrepancy that ended our possible meeting.
So guys, maybe hold off letting a provider know you are a Perb member until you have met in person.
And, I will NOT be disclosing who I am referring to in this post. So please do not pm asking for her name. I will not reply. My point for writing this article is not to slag the lady, whom I still have respect for. And I also ask that if you do somehow figure out who I am referring to in this post, please do not post it.
JD
