Carrot dangling

[LC18]

When I used to require references as part of screening, I would see that term quite often.

Some clients were labelled as carrot danglers. Let me put you in context:

“Hi so&so, X says that he has seen you in the past. Can you vouch for him?”

“He’s an easy client but he’s a carrot dangler. He often promises things and doesn’t deliver.”


What does that mean?
When you exchange messages with a sex worker and start promising things such as but not limited to:
I’ll buy you a gift card
I’ll bring you a gift next time I see you
Tell me what you would like and I’ll buy it for you
Can I spoil you?
Do you have a wishlist?

It creates expectations that won’t be met and it can quickly deteriorate the relationship you have with the provider. You also lose credibility and you risk the sex worker not wanting to vouch for you.

It is totally ok if you don’t have the means to spoil a woman you see every now and then. I have said many times that tips/gifts are never expected but always appreciated.

Are you intentionally doing that or did you just not realize how annoying it could be?

 

[vitaminD]

Thats interesting, I didn't realize many guys actually did that kind of stuff. Personally, I've never understood the whole idea of giving gifts, tips, or extra stuff during an SP visit.
I'm sure there are tons of guys who can be super flakey with bookings and all. and guys who will often set up appointments as backup plans, but then end up canceling last minute, that must be really frustrating.

I've totally come across providers who try to lure guys in with false promises or incentives. They'll dangle carrots like offering extra services on the next visit, giving discounts for positive reviews, or even acting as a reference if you repeat with them a certain number of times. It's just their way of getting guys to keep coming back. And then there's the constant issue of carrot dangling with inaccurate pictures, age, and all that. It's a topic that's been talked about countless times, but it seems like it'll never change.

 

[LC18]

giving discounts for positive reviews

I believe this goes against perb, terb and merb community guidelines

 

[MB Mod]

I believe this goes against perb, terb and merb community guidelines

It most certainly does, I’ve nuked several accounts for it.

 

[stressless123]

I personally don't leave tips even with my regulars. I don't promise gifts or anything else either. I have bought deserts and chocolates on some occasions but thats about it. Sometimes if I don't have exact cash on me I will end up slipping the next higher note I have on me obviously not expecting the change back lol (you could count this as a tip, I just count it as the cost to my laziness). If both of us are treating this as a business then there should be no expectations of anything extra from either side.. keep it simple and straightforward

 

[MRGREEN]

I've only promised to be on time have good hygeine and a good attitude, be engaged and let things play out as they do. Seems like a good enough carrot to me.

Peace
MG

 

[Steve_French]

I bought many gifts for an provider I used to frequent, off her wishlist. I didn't do it for favours or anything else, just liked her at the time and she seemed to need the help. Though in hind sight it was a massive waste of money because she turned out to be quite a rotten person. But making promises of gifts and then bailing just seems like a dick move to me.

 

[too timid]

When I used to require references as part of screening, I would see that term quite often.

Some clients were labelled as carrot danglers. Let me put you in context:

“Hi so&so, X says that he has seen you in the past. Can you vouch for him?”

“He’s an easy client but he’s a carrot dangler. He often promises things and doesn’t deliver.”


What does that mean?
When you exchange messages with a sex worker and start promising things such as but not limited to:
I’ll buy you a gift card
I’ll bring you a gift next time I see you
Tell me what you would like and I’ll buy it for you
Can I spoil you?
Do you have a wis

When I used to require references as part of screening, I would see that term quite often.

Some clients were labelled as carrot danglers. Let me put you in context:

“Hi so&so, X says that he has seen you in the past. Can you vouch for him?”

“He’s an easy client but he’s a carrot dangler. He often promises things and doesn’t deliver.”


What does that mean?
When you exchange messages with a sex worker and start promising things such as but not limited to:
I’ll buy you a gift card
I’ll bring you a gift next time I see you
Tell me what you would like and I’ll buy it for you
Can I spoil you?
Do you have a wishlist?

It creates expectations that won’t be met and it can quickly deteriorate the relationship you have with the provider. You also lose credibility and you risk the sex worker not wanting to vouch for you.

It is totally ok if you don’t have the means to spoil a woman you see every now and then. I have said many times that tips/gifts are never expected but always appreciated.

Are you intentionally doing that or did you just not realize how annoying it could be?

Does a snake know or cares if it hisses and slithers? People's actions are the truest display of their real character but we are often blinded by our own ambitions, arrogance, ignorance and/or desire and miss the obvious.

For me, the challenege with human interaction is actually being a bit vunerable and giving an unknown person a bit of ' credit ' and space allowing for them to dangle a carrot and not deliver. i am pretty naive (and timid) so i am leery when anyone promises anything. If one's actions are truely genuine they are accuated/fullfilled and not just broadcast for the sake of being said or heard. (was bumped several consecutive weeks with an unknown to me provider and she fullfilled her promise to make it up to me, some people are true to their word)

People speak the language they use the most, i do think that overpromising, underdelivering, carrot danglers are intentional in what they are doing (short, opportunistic, manipulative,
soft con) and they do not care how annoying it is.

 

[Sonny69]

I bought many gifts for an provider I used to frequent, off her wishlist. I didn't do it for favours or anything else, just liked her at the time and she seemed to need the help. Though in hind sight it was a massive waste of money because she turned out to be quite a rotten person. But making promises of gifts and then bailing just seems like a dick move to me.

I have done the same and had the same experience. I will not repeat. All I do is round up the price and that’s my tip. Carrot dangling works both ways.

 

[angry anderson]