A little backstory, im 27 mixed Chinese and Austrian. In pretty decent shape etc. Overall I'd give myself a 7 or 7.5 out of 10. Okay so I went to a new escort I've never been to before today. Cute Japanese girl probably in her early to mid 30s. We kept on talking the entire time even partially during sex. We connected on different topics and were vibing really well. It seemed like we were genuinely into each other. Although I know it's her job to act interested it seemed real. When i mentioned going to take a shower and heading out she seemed a little sad and kept me back to chat and kiss more before I eventually left. After changing we sat on the bed a bit longer to chat some more and she asked me if she could mag me on her private #. She told me her real name and told me she was single and wanted to hang out sometime. We chatted a bit more and she said sunday was probably good for her. After I left she did msg me on another # and we chatted a bit and she said we should keep on touch. Keep in mind her english is fine but not great. Anyways my logical mind is telling me that this is just business for her and she wants more money but the other part of my brain is confused because it felt so genuine. Would appreciate your thoughts, anyone been in similar situations?
Can't tell if she is genuinely interested
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Had the same thing happen myself not too long ago. She asked if it was okay to text me and we ended up going for drinks on the weekend and then lunch the following week. I really had no intentions going into it and of course covered the bill when we went out. I told her right off the bat that I wasn't looking for a relationship and so far things have been pretty good. We meet up now and then to get stoned and I guess you could say have become friends.
As mentioned above, don't go with the intention of dating. She may just want a friend since you both connected. Also don't be a cheap ass and go into it wanting free sex. My advice would be to let things happen naturally.
As mentioned above, don't go with the intention of dating. She may just want a friend since you both connected. Also don't be a cheap ass and go into it wanting free sex. My advice would be to let things happen naturally.
I’ll say from experience that the previous comments are pretty accurate.
I do the whole rating myself thing too and I think for most woman, so long as you’re reasonably in shape, well groomed/hygiene, and you don’t look like phantom of the opera, it is all going to come down to two things:
1. She is open to meeting someone
2. You’re her type / she’s intrigued
I’m not a woman or a mind reader but if the above two things are a yes for her, there is the potential for something to happen. The rest will come down to how things progress.
If you like her, are interested in exploring things with her, then go for it. I don’t think she is playing you however keep your head straight and see where things go.
I’ve dated a few woman in this profession and it is very much a real thing. My sort-of girlfriend of recent is in the business.
I will say this. If you do like her, it’s best to take a slower approach. It can be weird to have sex with someone then try to get to know them without that agenda. Of course if she’s inviting you over to have sex who are you to deprive her?
Let us know how it goes. I’m always curious about others that have been in a similar situation as me.
I do the whole rating myself thing too and I think for most woman, so long as you’re reasonably in shape, well groomed/hygiene, and you don’t look like phantom of the opera, it is all going to come down to two things:
1. She is open to meeting someone
2. You’re her type / she’s intrigued
I’m not a woman or a mind reader but if the above two things are a yes for her, there is the potential for something to happen. The rest will come down to how things progress.
If you like her, are interested in exploring things with her, then go for it. I don’t think she is playing you however keep your head straight and see where things go.
I’ve dated a few woman in this profession and it is very much a real thing. My sort-of girlfriend of recent is in the business.
I will say this. If you do like her, it’s best to take a slower approach. It can be weird to have sex with someone then try to get to know them without that agenda. Of course if she’s inviting you over to have sex who are you to deprive her?
Let us know how it goes. I’m always curious about others that have been in a similar situation as me.
Sometimes our fellow pooner, a cigar is just a cigar.
Or if that expression is too old for you, sometimes things are exactly as they seem.
Go for it.
We all want a full report.
Or if that expression is too old for you, sometimes things are exactly as they seem.
Go for it.
We all want a full report.
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Good for you, bro! Please, come back here with a full report in 2 years. Don't forget to name the kid PERB. You never know 🤷♂️!
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
Phrase coined oddly enough by a guy who got face cancer from smoking cigars.
Happened a few times for me. Never took it any further for philosophical reasons.
I could never fathom the jump from an sp relationship becoming a girlfriend.
If you cannot picture yourself beyond the short term casual fling, is it fair to her? The answer I always concluded was no.
This does happen, more than you think. Escorts are human just as you are and some make genuine connections with their clients. I'm in my 50's, totally out of shape. I drink too much and smoke too much, but I've always treated ladies with respect and have made honest connections with some. A couple of ladies I've known for 25 years or more, who have long retired, still chat me up on social media. Before covid, we would meet for beer and pizza, and sometimes a roll in the hay just for old times sake. I met one lady a few years ago and we hit it off. She was the totally opposite to me. She had tattoo sleeves, punk hairdo, pretty much a pin up girl. I'm a t-shirt and blue jeans guy. The second time I visited her, she asked if I was busy. I said no, she suggested we go for a beer. She bought the beer and the nacho's. Afterwards she invited me up for some smoke. It was her weed. After that we texted almost everyday and met for a beer at least twice a week. I offered her cash for her time, she was offended. She said "I thought we were friends." I said yes we are, but I don't take my friends for granted. We made a pact. The bar was playtime, the bedroom was pay time. I've also had some ladies texting me just to set up another date. In my experience these ladies aren't looking for a friend. Which is fine, if I enjoyed our time together I would see them again. Keep in mind, I never tried to foster a friendship with any of these ladies. They came to me and all seemed genuine. Hope this helps.
It's easy to form an emotional attachment to someone especially if you've connected physically. The fact that you are asking this seems to me like you are interested in seeing her outside of a business relationship.
I will always encourage people to pursuit what they want as long as it's not for selfish reasons, but my advice would me to do it without expectations. Unrealistic or unmet expectations are a recipie for heartbreak. You'll know soon enough whether she's genuinely interested. Good luck.
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The same thing happened to me with a long time regular. We never dated but we have similar interests and we became friends.
