Cancellation etiquette?

[BonerHardBiceps]

so I know how you're supposed to cancel if you can't make it but I've had this situation occur a couple times:

-call preferred SP to book, she says she's not available for another couple hours.

-Call back up SP, she says she's available, tell her you'll call her back in 10 mins to confirm (incase SP #1 changes mind).

-Preferred SP calls you back and says she can see you right away.

-Call back up SP and tell her you can't make it.

I hate not calling the back up SP because she would probably block my number and I wont be able to see her in the future. Hows a good way to go about dealing with this?

This happened to me yesterday and the back up SP went ape shit when i told her I can't make it because I had just booked with another SP. Sent me a novel long text telling me her life story and how I should be a ashamed etc.

 

[hiddencloud]

Yeah that's just silly.

Just call/email the backup SP and say you can't make it anymore. If you need an excuse blame work or a family emergency. Ladies have clients cancel all the time. Her feelings won't get hurt.

 

[Poseidon]

Yes, telling her the truth was a big mistake. I don't even call a backup SP until i'm 100% sure that my 1st choice is completely a no go.

 

[hiddencloud]

This happened to me yesterday and the back up SP went ape shit when i told her I can't make it because I had just booked with another SP. Sent me a novel long text telling me her life story and how I should be a ashamed etc.

By the way, you should be ashamed. Not of double booking but for telling her that she was your number two choice. You basically made it personal when it should always be just business. You turned your cancellation into an insult and she had every right to get upset about it.

 

[Elmore]

By the way, you should be ashamed. Not of double booking but for telling her that she was your number two choice. You basically made it personal when it should always be just business. You turned your cancellation into an insult and she had every right to get upset about it.

Give me a break. If I call one perb advertiser and tell her that I am interested in seeing her because another wasn't available, I've made it personal? So what she was my second choice. Maybe after the session, that escort will be my first choice in the future.
The OP didn't handle it properly but an escort knowing she was not the first choice isn't a reason for a client to be ashamed.

 

[Caramel]

usually if they do that to me i tell them "ok no worries" and block them, because if they have to say that to me, then they are probably big time retarded idiots that would become a problem client during the session. I just learn from past mistakes.

 

[hiddencloud]

Give me a break. If I call one perb advertiser and tell her that I am interested in seeing her because another wasn't available, I've made it personal? So what she was my second choice. Maybe after the session, that escort will be my first choice in the future.
The OP didn't handle it properly but an escort knowing she was not the first choice isn't a reason for a client to be ashamed.

If you tell her upfront then no. She has the choice to be a backup or not. After the fact though is impolite. Sure it should always be just business but even in business there's rarely a reason to be impolite.

 

[BonerHardBiceps]

Yes, telling her the truth was a big mistake. I don't even call a backup SP until i'm 100% sure that my 1st choice is completely a no go.

I usually go on erslist on my phone when im out and am super horny, i dont plan for days before going to one.

 

[BonerHardBiceps]

By the way, you should be ashamed. Not of double booking but for telling her that she was your number two choice. You basically made it personal when it should always be just business. You turned your cancellation into an insult and she had every right to get upset about it.

you know you're the one paying $200+ for less than hour of their time right?

 

[nfldwoodchuck]

Cancellations happen all the time and the ladies are used to it but none of them have resigned themselves to like it. All ladies get PO'd when they get a cancellation for even a legit reason like sickness/emergency but to be told they are being cancelled on so that you can see another "preferred" lady is suicide and will get you blacklisted. I'm not surprised this happened to you. Double booking is a risky game if you want to stay on the good side of the ladies. As has been said before just don't double book, wait until your first confirms that she can't see you before you book the second.

If I'm in this situation I'd have told my "preferred" when she called me back, "Thanks for offering to see me right away but unfortunately when you couldn't see me I booked with another lady and it would be awful to cancel on her now, sorry maybe next time. Have a great day!" (If she's a decent lady she'll appreciate that you operate on the up and up and consider you a possible good client , not a canceller) and then go see your "second" and have a great time.

Just my humble 2 cents.

 

[Elmore]

If you tell her upfront then no. She has the choice to be a backup or not. After the fact though is impolite. Sure it should always be just business but even in business there's rarely a reason to be impolite.

I hear what you're saying.
I spoke with a lady after one session and she commented that she normally doesn't see last minute appointments and was curious about the circumstances that led me to call her last minute. I told her that the lady I planned on seeing had to cancel and I wanted to see her for a while anyways so I took a chance. She was happy to hear that so it really comes down to the situation. I think most women in this industry have solid self esteem and wouldn't be offended to know that they were not a guys first choice.

 

[Feenix]

Give me a break. If I call one perb advertiser and tell her that I am interested in seeing her because another wasn't available, I've made it personal? So what she was my second choice. Maybe after the session, that escort will be my first choice in the future.
The OP didn't handle it properly but an escort knowing she was not the first choice isn't a reason for a client to be ashamed.

Elmore, why do you feel it is necessary to tell #2 she is #2? Call and simply make an appointment, with no explanations. If you have to/want to cancel ten minutes later, then do it.

You would probably be pissed of if #2 cancelled you because her next caller wanted a confirmed appointment now. IS she going to hold your spot open if you are iffy in the first place. I wouldn't if I were in her shoes.

Reverse the roles for a moment. A lady calls you and tells you she has a tentative date, but would like to see you if the tentative date falls through. Can she call you back in 1/2 hour to confirm her date with you? What would your reaction be? How committed to her would you be?

At least you did the right thing and cancelled #2 after #1 confirmed your date.

 

[Elmore]

Elmore, why do you feel it is necessary to tell #2, she is #2? Call and simply make an appointment. If you have to/want to cancel ten minutes later, then do it.

You would probably be pissed of if #2 cancelled you because her next caller wanted a confirmed appointment now. IS she going to hold your spot open if you are iffy in the first place. I wouldn't if I were in her shoes.

At least you did the right thing and cancelled #2 after #1 confirmed your date.

I didn't say it was necessary to tell #2 that she was #2...I was speaking more hypothetically as it relates to how I or anyone should feel if I've intentionally or unintentionally made it aware that she was not my first choice. Though I can't imagine calling and outrightly saying that she was my backup plan.

But as I mentioned above there has been a circumstance where I informed a lady that she was not my first choice...I was not too worried about offending her. I can assure you she had zero self confidence issues and did not take it personally even the slightest bit.

 

[Elmore]

I doubt very much that a significant number of SPs think themselves the best of the best of the best, but there really is no need to rub it in and say "You just came in second place in a race with two entries".
I know you wouldn’t actually say that, but still, some ladies may hear it that way so why risk hurting someone’s feelings when unnecessary?

You are right...I would be much more tactful than that.

But it is sort of the nature of the industry. For those guys who go to massage parlors and the 1st woman is trying to rush someone into a room and he asks to see who else is working, he is letting her know that she is not his first choice.
And in other cases when a guy walks when an escort comes to the door, he is letting her know she wouldn't be chosen even if she was the only choice.

I try to avoid those situations since I don't really go to parlors and I try to do my homework before I see a lady so I feel pretty certain she will meet my expectations physically but cases of outright rejection occur in this industry.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Sure, no lady likes cancellations. She's been running around, getting ready for your visit, and now it's for nothing.

But it is the nature of the beast. If the gentleman in question sounded nice enough to book with him, and if he was thoughtful enough to call and let me know that he couldn't make it, I'd rather try and save the relationship for the next time he's feeling frisky. He'll likely remember that I was nice and understanding.

I certainly wouldn't take offence that he's seeing someone else, rather than me. I'm just one lovely lady of many, and there's typically enough to go around. And this is another reason to be very careful with our money in the beginning of the month, since we never know how the end of the month is going to go.

Hope you and she both ended up having a good day!

 

[badbadboy]

so I know how you're supposed to cancel if you can't make it but I've had this situation occur a couple times:

-call preferred SP to book, she says she's not available for another couple hours.

-Call back up SP, she says she's available, tell her you'll call her back in 10 mins to confirm (incase SP #1 changes mind).

-Preferred SP calls you back and says she can see you right away.

-Call back up SP and tell her you can't make it.

My approach would be to say to SP #1 "thanks, maybe some other time", then follow through with SP #2.

Then you haven't lied, haven't upset SP #2 by looking like a flake and there will be another day to see SP #1. No harm, no foul.

I have had some great times with the backup and in hind site the first choices have been higher volume SP's which is not my preference.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Polite cancellations always make the grade" its when upi pull a no show , that gets you blacklisted permanently!

Exactly. When I get the cancellation call, I just wanna jump up and down and kiss them through the receiver, and say THANK YOU for calling to let me know! (well, maybe not quite, but you get my drift!) It's been a long time since I had a no-show but it has happened!

 

[Caramel]

Exactly. When I get the cancellation call, I just wanna jump up and down and kiss them through the receiver, and say THANK YOU for calling to let me know! (well, maybe not quite, but you get my drift!) It's been a long time since I had a no-show but it has happened!

lol i totally agree with this, cancellations are much much better than being quiet and hiding and pulling a noshow - especially after they have your address, ladies refer to these types as "address collectors"

and yes of course its fine guys have other choices, this is pay for play...its not like he is coming over to wife you lol. But like someone else said in this thread, when a guy purposely does it as an insult, then he is probably an ass and deserves to be avoided.

 

[kauffman]

Yeah that's just silly.

Just call/email the backup SP and say you can't make it anymore. If you need an excuse blame work or a family emergency. Ladies have clients cancel all the time. Her feelings won't get hurt.

Dont use such a typical excuse. That's lkike adding insult to injury.

 

[Tugela]

The proper thing to have done is if the first lady could not give you a commitment, and you went to the second option, then when the first SP called back you should have politely told her that you made other arrangements in the interim.

You should not have cancelled the second appointment, since you never had the first one to begin with, and you most certainly should not have told the second SP what you told her.

We expect the ladies to not be flakes, and they have just as much right to expect that of us as well. You failed on that score. How would you feel if the SP you booked with called you up and told you she was cancelling because a better client wanted to see her?