Busted! Need alibi.

[Sonny]

Indulgence and selfishness is a prerequisite to free will and the creative act.

The most creative acts have been ones of giving.

The greatest acts of love are in giving selflessly.

The greatest inspirations are not self-centred.

What free will do you think folks have when they are driven by compulsive behaviour based on embedded programmed desires, preferences, dislikes and hatreds? Cravings and fears push people and they think their response to the world is their free will?

You want to act unconditionedly? Eliminate all of your cravings, clingings, aversions and hatreds. Gradually learn to see things no longer through the dark glass of these interferences and maybe then the true nature of choice will become apparent. Personally I have faith in the unconditioned true nature of all beings, that if folks were to awaken to it, the world is a better place.

OK, I feel like I'm really about to go tip toeing through the tulip field, so let me take a breather and ponder a little more.

My comment in a most positive sense is "good idea".

 

[littlejimbigher]

As far as the woman and horny thing goes, a typical guy is most horny at about age 18-19 and a typical girl is most horny at about age 36-39. It's all about hormone levels.QUOTE]

The problem is that the 18-20 guys don't want the 36-39 gals.
And the 18-20 gals don't want the 36-39 guys.

 

[JustAGuy]

Now does she not have that same right....when it comes down to it....you only know what she tells you. She may desire or maynot desire another man or woman. Alls I am saying is if it is alright for one spouse....it should be alright for the other. Not trying to fight the reasons why people do it. Not saying to come clean with the spouse either. Just do not be a hypocrite. Ask yourself....Do I think my spouse knows that I am pooning....chances are most will say no.....Now ask yourself How do I know what desires or secrets your spouse has? People only know as much about you as you let them know! I am not judging no one just wondering how one spouse can think it is ok for he/she to do it BUT if they catch their spouse doing the cheating then the Marriage or relationship is over?????

It's called a double standard. Most men in a relationship subscribe to the notion that what's okay for them to do is not okay for their spouse to do when it comes to sex outside that relationship. It's always such a hoot when some guy who believes in the double standard becoming a cuckold. Many years ago I got into an affair with a married woman and her husband had no clue about what was going on until she left him and moved in with me. He'd been just fine with the idea that it was okay for him to run around but he flipped out when the shoe was on the other foot. He filed for divorce and I especially enjoyed standing up in court at the divorce proceedings and acknowledging that yes, I had committed adultery with Ms So and So, all the while looking right at him. I'm sure he was incapable of changing his character (i.e. stop running around on his spouse) but I'll bet he paid much closer attention to what wife #2 was doing in her spare time.