boy friend or .....

[the old maxx50]

I admit this is a little about me but it also could be any number of us on this board .

I think that we tread most women better then there boy friends and my even there SO,, and yet we are not considered boy friend material.

I seem to make friends easily with younger women that are in this business or on the fringes of it ,, and may some of that is because i am willing run around , take them out and help them out with with money , with out expecting to be payed back with sex . I am not say i would not mind that and it does happen ,, as well as me just paying for sex with them .. but others i am just good friends with and there is no hanky panky ..

That being said . when i see how the guys they get involved with treat them and are not so up to just doing things for them or handing them money and yet they get all the benefits for free .. I have to as who is better for them us or the one they chose .. I admit they chose these guys .. but they also choose use to hang with or call up when in need .. and yet our availability and a amiable attitude dose not get us on equal par as a boyfriend material ..

I guess that in my case as with others it also is our age .. they are a lot younger then us .. which is fine for us but not them...

Of course then there are girls that go for Heff , and . Clint and Carry Grant, Humfrey Bogats , Spencer Tracy, Picasso .. Clinton... Where can i find what they have .. Carisima and charm and money .. In these cases s mors about money and power or they are good boy friends .. some time I wonder ..





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[Sonny]

No denying it. Your generous and helpful nature makes you a target by these younger women.

You're the older guy who does stuff and is a money tree. You are the freebie. You are being used.

If you like and want the company of these ladies and don't mind doing what you're doing, then keep on going on.
Just do not harbour any desire, or feed any illusion, that you will be a boyfriend. Not.

Not easy getting older, but accept it as you have only a losing battle otherwise.
Without the go-fer-ing and money, do these one-or-two-generations-apart girls have any honest interest in you?

Sorry. I do not mean to be mean. Just look at it, that's all.

 

[Tugela]

I think that we tread most women better then there boy friends and my even there SO,, and yet we are not considered boy friend material.

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You talking about Joe45 here?

 

[the old maxx50]

I am honest with my self Sonny .. But it beats the alternative a lived for many years .. no participation with women ..

I just commenting of what i observe when i know i do this and i see what they get from others .. I cant see where they are happy about it but they put up with it ..There are other perks and i have my fantasies which are still grounded in the reality of it is my choice to do this or not

 

[Sonny]

I am honest with my self Sonny .. But it beats the alternative a lived for many years .. no participation with women ..

I just commenting of what i observe when i know i do this and i see what they get from others .. I cant see where they are happy about it but they put up with it ..There are other perks and i have my fantasies which are still grounded in the reality of it is my choice to do this or not

If you like and want the company of these ladies and don't mind doing what you're doing, then keep on going on.

I understand completely. And it is indeed your choice to do this or not. Go outside and play. Have fun.

 

[yazoo]

I think most FWB treat each other better that those in a relationship. There's less emotional baggage.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I think most FWB treat each other better that those in a relationship. There's less emotional baggage.

...and lower expectations!

 

[Sonny]

It's probably a lot easier to treat someone well for an hour or two snapshot then it is for an entire relationship. I mean if a 40, 50 or 60 year old client was so pleasant all the time, why isn't he already dating?

Someone in their 50s or 60s today and who enjoys the company, spontaneity and fun of younger women cannot fathom dating women in his age group.
Many women 50+ are set in their age-culture, their views and social interaction expectations. Someone from, say 25 to 38, offers a real break from the familiar and boring.

A fellow who has been through a few relationships, successful and not, has developed an understanding of how to please women in an everyday sense. It is the important small stuff and warm attention.
For such a person, it is easy as drinking a glass of water to treat someone nice all the time, to avoid the pitfalls of needless arguements, to abandon the desire to be top dog. It's so much easier when there is no competitiveness.

Younger women are often attracted to a mature gentleman for their courtesy, attentiveness, life experience and sometimes their looks.
If the man is above-average intelligent, the interest in him multiplies. If he has money too, well......

Still, the simple physical attractiveness of the young males, their as-yet undeveloped potential, and their still untamed energy are genetically-coded to be hot buttons for young females looking for mates.
The open unexpected future, the anticipation of making that future together, and raw passion are trump cards most of the time.

Tough for the older fellow who is not attracted to his own generation spread, so he does not date them, and who is beyond the excitement of his youth, so he cannot date, at least for long, younger women.

And there is the unrelenting truth that one day he will be much older and past his present attractiveness.
To be cared for by someone 20 years his junior... well, it is not something he wants for that always younger woman to do for the rest of his life.

 

[Tugela]

It's probably a lot easier to treat someone well for an hour or two snapshot then it is for an entire relationship. I mean if a 40, 50 or 60 year old client was so pleasant all the time, why isn't he already dating?

Lol, because he wants 20 something women, and women that age won't date him.

 

[the old maxx50]

All the above might be perfectly true if every thing is so black and white ,, I not wearing rose colored glasses. Just need glasses to read .. lol like what you posted filmgeek..
All the women i know these days .. are ex SPs.. or only were working very little so I am not paying as per say for there time I see them as a friend ,, they call me or i call to see how they are . We go out ,eat , shopping . as an acquaintance If I d0 have sex with them .. ( and pay for ) and that is may be once every few month.. Many time they have not had any for a month or two them selves .. so at the time there is no boy friend .. It is When They have one That i just notice .. they are not treated as well as i do .. I just saying a good boy friend should not hesitate to do at leases as much as i do for them when they ae in a relation ship and they need to impress more so But then may be not... Where I knew i was not in a relationship because most knew how i felt about them . and i knew how they felt about me .. i am just a friend .

As for death .. yes we all have an expiratory date .. I accept mine .. it will happen one day ... But I think I worry more about others dieing and i won't be able to see them any more I enjoy the company of the younger girls . if they don't mind hanging with me .. But I all so worry about losing them to early because of things that sometime do.. or just the unknown tragic events of life .. So I try to get every day I can with people i know and care a bout ..

As for the mirror.. it reminds me .. that I am losing my hair, need to do something about that ester fat on my gut.. and That I am better then i ever was .. because when i was .. 20, 30 , 45 .. I did not know any pretty girls, or go out with them at any time .( maybe one a few times ) I had no sex and could not afford to pay for if i wanted to... So If i died to morrow i would only regret that i could not of done it for longer .. just the way it is now .

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I admit this is a little about me but it also could be any number of us on this board .

I think that we tread most women better then there boy friends and my even there SO,, and yet we are not considered boy friend material.

I seem to make friends easily with younger women that are in this business or on the fringes of it ,, and may some of that is because i am willing run around , take them out and help them out with with money , with out expecting to be payed back with sex . I am not say i would not mind that and it does happen ,, as well as me just paying for sex with them .. but others i am just good friends with and there is no hanky panky ..

That being said . when i see how the guys they get involved with treat them and are not so up to just doing things for them or handing them money and yet they get all the benefits for free .. I have to as who is better for them us or the one they chose .. I admit they chose these guys .. but they also choose use to hang with or call up when in need .. and yet our availability and a amiable attitude dose not get us on equal par as a boyfriend material ..

I guess that in my case as with others it also is our age .. they are a lot younger then us .. which is fine for us but not them...

Of course then there are girls that go for Heff , and . Clint and Carry Grant, Humfrey Bogats , Spencer Tracy, Picasso .. Clinton... Where can i find what they have .. Carisima and charm and money .. In these cases s mors about money and power or they are good boy friends .. some time I wonder ..





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One thing for sure, I've learned over the years is the less you worry about it the better things work out. There's no substitution for a combination of helping a woman out, and being able to make her laugh. If you can do those two things and you're remotely interesting, have some intellect, and are in reasonably good shape and are confident and comfortable about who you are..you'll do fine.

 

[Sonny]

One thing for sure, I've learned over the years is the less you worry about it the better things work out. There's no substitution for a combination of helping a woman out, and being able to make her laugh. If you can do those two things and you're remotely interesting, have some intellect, and are in reasonably good shape and are confident and comfortable about who you are..you'll do fine.

Amen to that.

 

[CorriGuy]

And I was speaking from my perspective. I would not consider someone that I can say, "...hey, can I come over today and instead of watching True Blood with you, can I pay you to put my penis in your mouth?" to my friend. Much the same way that I would not consider asking one of my friends today that I don't have sex with to have sex with me for money.

Do you have electrician or plumber or carpenter casual friends? When you're renovating your bathroom, do you ask or expect them to come over to do the work that they have skill for, for free? I know it's a bit of a stretch, but maybe that's how old maxx etc look at it - I have a friend with some serious skills. They became my friend because I hired them for their skills; and now when I want to make use of those skills, I will pay them for their time, experience, service, and well, skills.