Blue Balling yourself? Suggestions?

[badbadboy]

I have had a couple of dates in recent memory where after an enormous amount of foreplay and pleasuring each other I have found myself in a position where I just couldn't cum. WTF? BBB stands for bad bad boy not Blue Ball Boy ound:

I have gone from usually getting a MSOG in 60 or 90 minutes to not popping at all.

Now let me preface this statement that in both cases the women were attractive to damn hot and they were real troopers who did go the extra mile to make sure BBB had his release. i.e. this was not a service or attitude problem but something in BBB's head (big head) that would not allow the little head to fire. I am thinking that I may have had too much foreplay and denied myself the pleasure while pleasuring the ladies. I used to get a shot off in the first 20 - 30 minutes and then have another towards the end of my chosen amount of time.

Now luckily, this has not happened every time out but twice in two weeks is some cause for alarm in my mind.

Anyone who has gone through this mental shit have some ideas?

 

[VanessaofBC]

I have had a couple of dates in recent memory where after an enormous amount of foreplay and pleasuring each other I have found myself in a position where I just couldn`t cum. WTF? BBB stands for bad bad boy not Blue Ball Boy ound:

I have gone from usually getting a MSOG in 60 or 90 minutes to not popping at all.

Now let me preface this statement that in both cases the women were attractive to damn hot and they were real troopers who did go the extra mile to make sure BBB had his release. i.e. this was not a service or attitude problem but something in BBB`s head (big head) that would not allow the little head to fire. I am thinking that I may have had too much foreplay and denied myself the pleasure while pleasuring the ladies. I used to get a shot off in the first 20 - 30 minutes and then have another towards the end of my chosen amount of time.

Now luckily, this has not happened every time out but twice in two weeks is some cause for alarm in my mind.

Anyone who has gone through this mental shit have some ideas?

You just left yourself wide open for this one BBB.

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#5 - Now we know who one of the two people are.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

When guys hold off for a long time to make the pleasure last longer for the lady, it's quite common for 'mature men' to have difficulty orgasming when they finally want to.

It's like your penis has been impatiently chomping at the bit for an hour already and you won't let it cum, then all of a sudden you decide it's time and your penis looks at you and says, "Wha ...??" and refuses to cooperate.

what she said ^ ^ :thumb:

bad boy when this starts happening you have to either start scheduling earlier releases during your encounters, or plan on not achieving physical release during an encounter at all. a real tantric practitioner can do without physical releases every time but still achieve 'sexual nirvana' (whatever that is, lol!)

but i hear ya on this topic - you ain't alone... this is where multi-hour sessions come in handy

 

[badbadboy]

You just left yourself wide open for this one BBB.

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#5 - Now we know who one of the two people are.

Really? I voted for number three because I had over a 100 dates in the past year with a mere two Blue Balls.

Things I have considered that could lead to the problem.

Too much shit in my head. i.e. Business related, personal shit, what do I have to do after this, did I bring my shopping list, how about those damn Canucks and of course - geezus she is hot WTF is wrong with me?

Like I said, the two SP`s in this case were golden and extremely nice about it. They were apologizing and taking it personally which I shut down right away. BBB is responsible for his own shit and if I can`t bring myself to pop after all they have tried and done for me then its obviously a trigger in my head that is not switching ON.

I think next time I book a 90 minute or 120 minute date, I will be more selfish and pop sooner than later. Then I will focus upon enjoying the SP`s satisfaction.

Be back next week to report :nod:

 

[PlayfulAlex]

snip...I think next time I book a 90 minute or 120 minute date, I will be more selfish and pop sooner than later. Then I will focus upon enjoying the SP's satisfaction.

I 100% agree with this course of action, once you've found yourself in the situation you describe (even though it's an irregular occurrence). Going with the flow and allowing the orgasm to happen earlier, rather than forcing its delay, will undoubtedly leave you with better feelings about the session overall. Even if your body doesn't fully cooperate for a second round, there's lots of fun to be had in the process!

 

[toadsub]

i seem to have this problem as well. i figure that it's my age. i also think that the elaborate things i do to get myself off sort of have to be replicated by the the SP.

 

[badbadboy]

You're absolutely right. Even the most extreme activities become familiar and boring, and if you're used to watching hard core group sex lesbian porn with all the audio-visual stimulation, vanilla sex with your SO usually isn't going to stimulate your brain enough to get you off.

That is one of the reasons I have basically given up on watching Porn. Though not completely but I have cut back substantially. I do like the occasional hot Lesbian porn because I like watching DATY done by a woman as it has given me a few different ideas :eyebrows:

After all with this hobby, I do like to create my own spank bank memories versus watching something created in a warehouse in Northern Los Angeles.

 

[Jessica James]

You only know your cock I have known many and no it's not normal to have a painful erection without cumming with an escort . The escort knows you might need to cum but she doesn't have the confidence to be able to handle herself if you cum after 15 minutes into the session .You studs on the most part need to cum so do it ! Don't hold back , cum 100 x !

Argue till the cows come home . You want to believe your an old man who's dick isn't working right ? I'm here to tell you it's the attitude of the adventure that explosions are born and then make a bit of a fabulous mess all over the place .

This is no disrespect to those gfe types because god knows I accomplished much with these kind of session requests . I came to realize how limiting these kinds of sessions are and really began listening with my body and everything changed one explosion at a time .

The older a man gets the better he grooves and moves . Older men are good lovers wether they are soft or hard . It's a fallacy older means problems in the penis department . Don't buy into any bullshit about age it's stupid and untrue . Love letter email , text, phone calls all tell me how great it feels to be older and fuck your brains out .... To completion !

Get in get on and get the hell out ! Lolol yippppeeeee
Xox
May all you oldies but goodies have a sexy messy day !

 

[hornygandalf]

enjoyed your comments Jessica J. Thank you.
I'm not old (though there are some close to me who would disagree), but this gives some encouragement for the years ahead.

 

[Lurker 123]

I am so glad that BBB raised this problem. Sometimes I was so concerned with myself as if I had ED. However I discovered it only happened when I met the girl the first time. This is one of the reasons why I prefer to stick with my regular sps. Usually my regulars know how to take care my little brother!

It must be my age, one night stand is not working for me anymore. Two times in a row a few weeks ago my little bother turned me down. As soon as I went back to my regular, I was up again without problem. However both sps managed to finish with a hand job!

I agree with a longer session help. I personally prefer a two hours session or more. In an hour session as if one has to finish your high school assignment within 60 minutes. Otherwise you are a failure. That is too much pressure and given me no time to enjoy.After all, sex and climax do take times to develop.

I still remembered those days when I could afford, I totally enjoyed those over night sessions with my regular. I never regret the money I spent. I also believe with our age, it will take us longer time to bring up our arousal!