Blindfolds - To See Or Not To See, That Is The Question?

[myboy]

I have thought about this every time that I've sessioned with my Mistress.
With that said, I've often wondered what others think about the use of blindfolds or other types of sight control / sensory deprivation restrictions?

For me, I guess, I like it both ways.....
Since I am a bondage lover, being bound so that I can't move, and then watching a candle over my body, knowing that at any second there would be a splash of hot wax coming down onto me, or watching as a nipple clamp approaches, knowing that at any second it will be attached to me and that there's nothing that I can do about it, except to look up at my Mistress, and emphatically plead with Her, "Please, No!!"
But, with no effect.

Or being blindfolded and just wondering what is going to happen next, when it is going to happen, and how long will it last?
I will not lie, my mind definitely starts to go wild when I cannot see!
I once thought that it was boiling water being poured out onto me, when..............in reality, it was actually hot wax dripping down onto me.
Or is my Mistress still there waiting for me to relax before doing something else or does She just walk away, quietly?
The loss of sight really makes me and my mind go wild!!

I'm wondering if it is the same for others?

 

[hoeneydevil]

I love wearing a blindfold when I am in the dungeon. I can't see but can hear and smell her. What did Mistress pick up? Paddle or cane? Soon I will know.
When I was branded the first and second time I was blindfolded. You didn't where the hot iron was until it was close and you could feel the heat and then the iron it self.

 

[Man in Submission]

I am open to pretty much anything and don't like to limit Goddess in any way. I'm not categorically against blindfolds, but I definitely prefer not to wear them simply because I love to see Goddess as much as possible and watch Her do Her thing. It's a huge turn on to look up at Her and into her eyes as I worship and/or endure for Her from below. It's not a fear thing ... heck, I've been hogtied pretty good but that doesn't bother me. Your scenario does sound intriguing though myboy!

 

[myboy]

Ten Things You Need To Know Before You Blindfold Your Partner

Last year, the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon lead to an unprecedented rise in the sale of any sex toy that was mentioned in the book.
The vast majority of women who got off on Fifty Shades have yet to pitch up at a FetLife convention and there are, undoubtedly, countless unused Kegel balls rolling around in knicker drawers all over the country.

However, EL James particular brand of BDSM lite succeeded in demystifying and publicising the potential joys of restraint and submission. Beginners bondage is more satin and Swarovski than gimp hoods and chains, but it certainly makes sex more sensual. You don't need fancy props or products. Just a simple blindfold will do the trick...

• Eliminating one sense heightens the other. Not being able to see makes you almost entirely reliant on sound, touch, taste and smell. By eliminating visual cues you don't know what to expect and this dramatically increases sexual anticipation.

• Because men rely more on visual cues, wearing a blindfold can decrease their arousal. It tends to have the opposite effect on women. Wearing a blindfold makes them feel less inhibited and they find it easier to fantasise which boosts their arousal.

• Using earplugs to eliminate sound can heighten the excitement and the introduction of different textures such as feathers, fur, or soft fabrics such as satin, velvet will increase the sensory overload.

• Though wearing a blindfold is not dangerous, it requires an element of trust. Some people find it frightening, particularly those who have a tendency to be claustrophobic, so be sensitive to signs of stress.

• Blindfolds should be snug, but tightening with brute force can damage the eyes and leave marks on the bridge of the nose. It can also be painful for the ears. If you are tying a double knot in any blindfold do it at the side because it will dig in to the back of her head if she lies down on it.

• More and more people are experimenting with blindfolds. In 2008, the Durex Global Sex Survey reported that 27% of women and 19% percent of men had used a mask or a blindfold during sex. In a 2013 survey of 2,500 people by online retailer Lovehoney, 69% of people said they had played with blindfolds.

• That explains what there are so many fabulous blindfolds on the market. Current favourites are the Jimmyjane Wink silk and suede blindfold (£45), the Ophelia Midnight Blue Silk Eye mask (£33), Lelo's Intima Black Silk with elastic adjuster (£40) or Coco De Mer's 'Always be Desired' embroidered navy silk blindfold (£25.50).

• You don't actually need to spend any money though. Items of clothing such as nylon tights and silk scarves can be used to make impromptu blindfolds.

• And you don't just have to have sex. Spread a rug on the floor. In the centre, set a tray of aphrodisiac delights. Oysters, figs, honey almonds, chocolate, champagne, and the mandatory vanilla Haagen Daz. Get naked. Blindfold your partner. And feed them with your fingers. Mmm.

• Finally, on a practical note, make sure that the room is safe and your partner won't bump into things or fall over. And when you remove the blindfold, dim the lights so that your partner can adjust to the light gradually.

 

[PuntMeister]

Punt says:

Blindfolds should be used, but not over-used. A few minutes for some sensation play, then let the visuals take over (especially for men). If there is a sense that the domme is hiding behind the blindfold or doesn't want to be seen, then it's a turnoff. So limit time in darkness, and be confident and godess/god-like after restoring vision, then it's a turn on. Women may enjoy the blind sensation play longer, especially if they are strongly submissive, but unlikely I would do a whole session without sight, even if requested.

The soft silky blindfolds are nice, as are sleep masks--just don't do a lame-assed job of it so the sub can half-see. Nothing worse than milk-toast bdsm for the vanilla crowd! If you are going to take someone's sense away, take it away fully. Some of the leather hoods and blindfolds can really hurt the bridge of the nose or head if tightened up hard. Some discomfort can be fun in bdsm, but facial discomfort can be very distracting and inhibit arousal / ruin the effect of subtle sensation play. Maybe try this for a change--throw your pantyhose over the sub's head and wrap the legs around the eyes--done right you totally lose sight and get a little bonus aromatherapy lol.

Don't be so sensual that you dumb-down the domination. Say somthing like: 'I am going to take your sight away. I want you to know that I own your vision, as well as every other part of you. So you will experience whatever I want you to experience. I will take pleasure in playing with you, and you won't be able to see a thing. Not a thing. There is nothing you can do about it either. Oh yes, it is going to happen. etc etc.' and later when you take the blindfold off, demand that they look you in the eyes, thank you for taking their sight away, and restoring it with an image of dominant beauty as the first thing they see. Sure, use sensation play and sensory deprivation, but remember, sight or no sight, working the grey matter is what matters most. So do it right, as part of a total pleasure package. Come here, I will show you.

Punt.

 

[newkind]

I might be generalizing but seems like blindfolds are something women like more than men, men being the more visual creature and women being more sensual, generally speaking

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

My eyes and My voice are two of My greatest assets...and I very much enjoy ordering a submissive to 'show Mistress your pretty eyes' while I am riding his/her face. Eye contact is so visceral to Me.

Now wearing a blindfold myself is a whole different matter...

 

[myboy]

Something to think about....

I love wearing a blindfold when I am in the dungeon. I can't see but can hear and smell her.

They often say that removing one sense heightens the others.
I’m sure he’d like to be able to see what is right in front of him.
It looks like it’d be a very special view.
However, if losing his sight heightens his sense of touch, taste, and smell, then maybe it won’t be such a bad trade-off.

And he thought that his Mistress had used him several times last night.
It was only later that he found out that She had some friends over, and they each had their turn with him.
There were several orgasms in the room last night, but none of them were his.
Ohh, and She didn’t tell him beforehand because,….well,…..he's just a toy!

 

[LalaniElectrica]

I know I get a great many requests to not be blindfolded, so I do not use blindfolds as much as I would like… When I go to a public party, I enjoy using them as it helps the sub become less inhibited and more aware in every way. The more senses you deprive, the stronger you are able to feel the sensations… When I use a blindfold, it is never to hide, only to become more in-tune through touch… to each their own though, I do enjoy holding people in tight bondage so they are unable to move even an inch..