Biggest Eye-Opener You've Had About the Industry

[Cock Throppled]

Gentlemen, what were the most surprising things you discovered about SP's that you didn't know before you started in the hobby?

Ladies, what were the biggest differences about what you thought about clients of SP's before you started in the profession and after?

For me, I guess I had bought into all the BS and was surprised that most SP's were just ordinary people and not drugged out, man-hating or pimp-controlled like I was led to believe.

 

[InTheBum]

A lot of SP's just need the money, and are really just normal females...but at the same time, many are extremely greedy...and/or don't want to work their whole lives in some lame job. (not that I blame them)

Girls on the streets are usually on drugs or controlled...and I am not sure why any guy would bother picking up a street walker.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I've seen two sides of it. I've seen the side where you meet an SP and she's absolutely amazing..you died and think you went to heaven. And yes, the one's I've seen have been drug free and independent, and for the most part seem to like what they're doing.

Then you hear about them telling you about death threats etc..from some pyscho client and you realize how much scum is actually out there.

I use to very close with an SP and I found out a lot of unpleasant stuff that is hidden from the average pooner and was heartbreaking in many ways.

 

[jnewton]

I use to very close with an SP and I found out a lot of unpleasant stuff that is hidden from the average pooner and was heartbreaking in my ways.

As have I. I will always remember some conversations I've had with SP's, conversations that were eye opening and heartbreaking. As I have acknowledged before, I am sure there are some ladies on here who really do enjoy what they do but the most telling comment I remember was this: "Do you think any of us would be doing this if we had a million dollars in the bank?"

 

[Puddlegurl]

Ladies, what were the biggest differences about what you thought about clients of SP's before you started in the profession and after?

Good Question,

For me I was always intriqued since I was little about the "pin-up girls" "playboy bunnies, strippers and "escorts" , watched countless hours of Miami Vice when I was young with my dad and always thought this world was going to be dark, angry, abusive and that the men would be mean, angry woman hating monsters portrayed on tv and movies..

Man was I ever wrong, You're every kind of man, woman loving, sensual sexual yummy men who just can't get enough of woman's minds and bodies.
Every single day I'm amazed at how lucky I am to spend the time I do with the men I get to. And the varied kinds of sessions, going from hard core porn style to just cuddling and making out.
Yes there can be a dark side if drugs or mentally unstable people are involved but that's across the board in every job or even walking down the street. And DO NOT have to be part of this world whatsoever IMO...

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Gentlemen, what were the most surprising things you discovered about SP's that you didn't know before you started in the hobby?

That working girls are so predominantly geared toward just facilitating men getting their rocks off, and then moving on to the next guy. It is unfortunate that "GFE" sort of touching is so foreign to a lot of working girls that it makes them uncomfortable. This leaves some of us seeking relatively 'gentle' experiences in the company of people who have in large numbers been pre-conditioned to expect (and be most familiar with) being somewhat mercilessly used and abused at most encounters with men of any sort.

Mind you, I understood this many years ago, but it still counts as perhaps my most surprising realization about SP's (that I didn't know before I started in the hobby).

 

[Cock Throppled]

As I have acknowledged before, I am sure there are some ladies on here who really do enjoy what they do but the most telling comment I remember was this: "Do you think any of us would be doing this if we had a million dollars in the bank?"

Doesn't that apply to about 98% of anybody working any kind of job?

 

[tantalizeme]

Gentlemen, what were the most surprising things you discovered about SP's that you didn't know before you started in the hobby?

For me, by far the single biggest surprise in this hobby has been the intensity of erotic excitement that’s possible with SPs.

I used to think loving sex was incomparably better than commercial sex, and that my problem as a highly erotic person was simply to find a matching partner whose sex drive could keep up.

Guess what, I was wrong. I've come to think that to rely on exciting sex from the person who supplies love doesn’t usually work, in the medium- to long run: the sexual spark is entirely different in origin from love & affection.

Sad perhaps but true…mutual sexual desire between long-term lovers is an enormously fragile thing that ebbs and flows, and an intense erotic spark is more likely to exist between two near-strangers like an SP and a pooner.

So, paradoxically, emotionally unencumbered "meaningless" sex with SPs has become, for me, some of the most exciting sex and, therefore, surprisingly meaningful. I think it has made it possible for me, for the first time, to enjoy a stable relationship without chafing against the inevitable limits of relationship sex.

 

[badbadboy]

A few surprises for me.

First off my early preconception about the industry was I would only encounter SP's interested in $$ in the door and clients out the door as soon as possible. I soon found out I was very wrong.

What I found were some women who without being religious are quite spiritual, multifaceted with interesting hobbies and genuinely nice to hang out with in and out of the bedroom. Women who communicate their likes as well as their dislikes to make a rousing tryst mutually enjoyable.

Best of all, they have upped my game and given me a new awakening.

 

[MissJasmine]

My biggest eye opener is that we are all so multifaceted and that whats considered "normal" and whats actually "common" are quite different.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

the biggest eye opener for me is hearing from sp's how erroneous some of the reviewers on here (and other places) are in their reviews

one sp even said that the first review she got on this board was from a high post count dude that never even had sex with her - he just paid a $20 cancellation fee, chatted with her for a while, then came on perb with a glowing bbbj, hour long fs fuck session type of review

my eyes were opened... and i've never read a review the same way again

 

[Papa Chongo]

hmm, very interesting question,

I have had a few revelations, maybe the first was the fact that many of them are ladies that if you met in public, you would never expect their line of work, I never expected to develop feelings for one, I never expected the incredible human side of the industry, cuddling and talking after the session, laying ther with Kristi of North Van last week was awesome, we chatted she stroked my stomach, I was in Heaven!

and the last one may be that I need to quit, get out with all of my good experiences before a terrible one happens or something worse ( wife )...can I do it, well not yet I expect!

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Gentlemen, what were the most surprising things you discovered about SP's that you didn't know before you started in the hobby?

the biggest eye opener for me is hearing from sp's how erroneous some of the reviewers on here (and other places) are in their reviews

one sp even said that the first review she got on this board was from a high post count dude that never even had sex with her - he just paid a $20 cancellation fee, chatted with her for a while, then came on perb with a glowing bbbj, hour long fs fuck session type of review

my eyes were opened... and i've never read a review the same way again

We're guessing that's because your eyes have never really been 'open'.

 

[Holly Taylor]

I think my biggest eye-opener was the fact that the men who partake in this activity are very normal, everyday men from all walks of life.

Before entering the profession, I used to think of clients as fitting into 1 of 2 categories. Either they were visiting street prostitutes and paying small amounts of money, or they were wealthy executives flying around in jets visiting 10,000/hr call girls.

I had this idea that it was either extremely low-end, or extremely high-end. I don't know why, although I speculate it's because this is what I always saw in the media. I would hear about men being arrested for having sex with street sex workers in cars or alleyways, or I would hear about these Burlusconi type cases.

Now I understand that clients are and can be anybody - all kinds of ages, income levels, and ethnicities.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

We're guessing that's because your eyes have never really been 'open'.

you read one part of the op's post, i read another part of the op's post

Biggest Eye-Opener You've Had About the Industry

i'll stick with my response

i won't say anything about yours

 

[the virgin gary]

As have I. I will always remember some conversations I've had with SP's, conversations that were eye opening and heartbreaking. As I have acknowledged before, I am sure there are some ladies on here who really do enjoy what they do but the most telling comment I remember was this: "Do you think any of us would be doing this if we had a million dollars in the bank?"

for a million dollars you'd see me in a movie called "the virgin gary blows his uncles" starring the virgin gary and his real uncles.

paraphrased.

 

[jnewton]

This work has also opened my eyes in regards to how many people are so lonely in these supposed "Perfect" marriages/relationships and are almost starved for affection (Which I happily provide). I have realized even more so, how crucially important communication is within a relationship ...

I may be wrong in this but I believe the industry as a whole has seen a big shift towards GFE service instead of simple FS. If that is true, then I'm sure what you wrote is a major reason for the shift. And you're right, it is like starvation, only in many ways worse because it isn't the body that wastes away, it's the soul.

 

[sevenofnine]

i guess i have to echo what every one else said. but would add, a few comments and maybe make a post about it one day or not.

how easy it is.
one email two and there i was knocking at a ladies door dropping my pants and asking her if she can take care of this problem i had.
i was a university student and never got laid,
i was that stupid i was saving myself for the right women yeah im stupid ok,

now im in my fifties and if i want an email or two and i can have a hot university student delievered to my door. its just that easy,
amazes me still something as simple as money and i can have a women of my choice sucking my cock with or with out a condom

next i guess that women wanted me to come back they found i was a nice guy at least that was what they told me,
surprised the hell out of me that i could fool around with a womens naked body and she would want me to come back and do it again
didn't believe it,

forgive my ego, but now i guess i do, one of the hottest women around regularly asked me to spend the night, not a big deal she is single and alone, she asks me to stay she could ask any one to stay.
i read her reviews and they went, great women but a clock watcher, and her she was asking me to stay, that and a few other things,
led me to believe that when she and other women said i was a great guy, they meant it.
again forgive my ego but it is a hell of a surprise still is, im a nobody, not even a great lover, but i get on well with the women for the most part.


i guess the next and last surprise and the most important for me, and maybe one day i will write a long post about it.

how humbling this experiance has been for me.
i thought i was a proper married man family marriage honor charecter all that stuff was and is important,
but here i was paying a hooker,

i had a fight with an sp i behaved badly, i am quite ashamed of myself. how i lost it and things just esculated. not good.
surprised my self and humbled me, and shamed me,

happy ending i guess, me and that sp made up. got over it. and i have seen her after our disaggreement. and had some great times, but still i feel badly.
and its private between us even though this is a review board.
just as a personal note and observation,
i will never have a fight with an sp again it just isn't worth it. even if im dead right,
its her body its her business you have nothing to gain, by insisting that your right and she is wrong, even if its true.


and im not talking about this incident in particular me and this sp settled it its over, and i have seen her quite a bit actually after we have had this disagreement,
im just talking in general terms i have been in this hobby almost a decade, i have been stood up had things happen and you can politely ask a lady what gives and she can out and out lie to you but to be honest the best answer is ok and just move on,
don't bitch about it.
serves no purpose,

and thankfully in a decade almost of pooning bumps in the road have been few and far between,

 

[Surrey's Jewel]

This is a great thread ! I've been suprised by how supportive and caring the other ladies are to each other. You would think there would be more rivalry and competativeness amongst us but that is not the case (that I've seen anyways).

 

[I Hate CBJ's]

What's surprised me is how many SP's offer BBFS when you figured they would never do that. Talked to my buddies and they've had the same thing happen, and not even offering for extra, though that happens, but forgetting the condom and assuming a position, or straight-up guiding it in, and you're like, "No, no... I'll be using that condom, thanks." I'm not talking about a bit of contact, either. I'm talking penetration, "Fuck Me," etc... had it come up a few times now, especially on second visits.