Being stood up. What was she thinking?!

[spoogie]

There are other things in life than work, and fucking, and frankly family comes first.

It's pretty tasteless to sit and debate on weather someone's death in the family was genuine or not. Who cares? Be a decent human being and give a person the benefit of the doubt. Losing someone close is the single worst thing a person can go through.

Getting cancelled on sucks, but let's have a bit of perspective, compassion, and basic decency.

 

[CrazedandAbused]

Don't know Claire but I respect her for standing up and explaining.

We've all been stood up last minute.

It's a piss off but the world doesn't end. Nobody dies.

Let's keep some perspective.

 

[Boobfetish]

Hello Mr. Brown and company,

I think it a just favour to the community at this point to spare people the drama and save your inbox from overflowing so I will admit to my fault.

Yes, I cancelled on you.

Yes, there were family issues and it was a "weird day". Somehow when one gets the news of a sudden death in the family previous obligations seem to fall to the wayside...

Take care,

Claire

My heart goes out to you Clare, and I completely agree. News of a sudden death of someone you love is extremely unsettling and pretty much nothing else matters right then. I got a call from my dad's phone number late one Friday afternoon, I remember being a bit cranky about the timing and wondering what he needed now... My world changed in that instant when he wasn't there...

Professionalism has nothing to do with it, its genuine human emotions and a completely natural reaction to the situation.

Even though we've never met, here is a huge virtual bear hug for you Claire. Wish I could do more to comfort you,

Tim

 

[Boobfetish]

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I believe it.

I recently had a death in the family too and my behaviour was pretty flakey for about a week or so following the news... Sometimes when someone is in shock and grieving their reaction is to just TRY to carry on with their usual routine.. until you realize you can't..

Sorry for your loss Claire.

Summed up very well Miss Tanya. If you are human at all, you really do go into a form of shock when this happens.

For myself I went into auto-organization mode so I could deal with the things that needed to be looked after for my family but I was half zombie, just going through the motions. Man, I just can't imagine someone expecting me to give them "playtime" at a time like that. Nurturing, soul sharing, life affirming sex with someone I'm already close to is an entirely different set of emotions, but meeting up with strangers being expected to care for whatever it is they need? The mere concept that someone might expect that of another human being is somewhat unsettling and saddens me deeply.

Tim

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

What did you expect ? You would scare her into seeing you and she would just get on her knees like a good girl and suck your dick ? No. I'm surprised she gave YOU a second chance after that point.

If you want to write a review go ahead but once you threaten a girl with it as a tool of authority or revenge you've ruined any chance of a sexy hot session with someone who likes you and wants to please you. Especially someone going through a hard time already.

Has threatening someone ever led you to get positive feedback or the results you are looking for from another human being before ? I just don't understand the logic.

God I love smart women.

 

[spoogie]

:clap2: :thumb:

 

[Real Sonny Burnett]

 

[MrBrown]

I'd like to stop the drama and hopefully this was educational to both clients and SPs.
Clients - if you let SPs cancel on you last minute for whatever reason and look the other way it diminishes the value of your time.
SPs - e-mail and phones enable you to give notice. half an hour minimum.

BC_BABE: I didn't threaten. I stated my intention to share my experience here and had no interest in seeing her because the fantasy bubble was burst. Let's assume that the said family situation was true. There's no place for her to say "Lmao if you're a 'board' guy it's so much better I didn't meet you".

Ms Erica Phoenix: I love smart women too. Would compromise for women who don't think I'm stupid, that my time is less valuable or that I grow my money on trees.

Claire Monet: I am sorry you had a bad day last week and that it has further ramifications. I sincerely hope things get better for you and readers here will give you a chance. I have moved on from seeing you that's all.

 

[MrBrown]

We've all been stood up last minute.

Here's some perspective for you:
I got an e-mail indicating all's good 48 minutes before the appointment time and nothing until 10 minutes and multiple texts after the appointment time.

 

[westwoody]

Shit happens, does not necessarily mean that she thinks your time is worthless.

I've had lots of things happen in 38 minute windows, including things a lot worse than a missed SP session.

"This is going on the board" is not a threat? Not fooling anyone but yourself kiddo. OMG my time is so valuable! Someone dissed me! LOLZ

 

[badbadboy]

 

[marsvolta]

its a good lesson...

Independents answer to NO ONE!

 

[Man Mountain]

What did you expect ? You would scare her into seeing you and she would just get on her knees like a good girl and suck your dick ? No. I'm surprised she gave YOU a second chance after that point.

If you want to write a review go ahead but once you threaten a girl with it as a tool of authority or revenge you've ruined any chance of a sexy hot session with someone who likes you and wants to please you. Especially someone going through a hard time already.

Has threatening someone ever led you to get positive feedback or the results you are looking for from another human being before ? I just don't understand the logic.

I disagree with your general analysis. I don't believe that he meant it as a "threat" to coerce anything at that point. He believed that he booked someone who by all accounts is a reputable and well reviewed lady. He doesn't know what the reasons are for why she's suddenly flaking out on him at the last minute and let's be honest, "My hair is wet. I need more time to get ready. It's been a weird day." before being asked to reschedule would sound like he's simply being flaked out on. So, I can understand why in that moment his reaction might be to let her know that he's not impressed by the lack of professionalism she's demonstrating -- reiterating here that he doesn't know the real reason why it's been a "weird day" for her. He was probably pissed at having his time wasted and the knee jerk reaction was to tell her that he would report it on the forum, since his belief that she wouldn't be the type to pull something like this was more than likely based on her positive reviews.

Now I can also understand why you ladies in general find it distasteful when you are told that a review of something like this will be forthcoming, so I could almost understand her mockingly laughing that off in response to him in that moment. But whatever else you believe, to me, for her to sometime later send the following:

Latest txt from her letter by letter: "Lmao if you're a 'board' guy it's so much better I didn't meet you"

Whatever the circumstances, that shows a complete disrespect for the person whose time was wasted and moreover demonstrates a harbored, clear disdain for forum members. As a "board guy", I would certainly now think twice about seeing someone who feels that way about us.

 

[CrazedandAbused]

Here's some perspective for you:
I got an e-mail indicating all's good 48 minutes before the appointment time and nothing until 10 minutes and multiple texts after the appointment time.

 

[MrBrown]

"This is going on the board" is not a threat? Not fooling anyone but yourself kiddo. OMG my time is so valuable! Someone dissed me! LOLZ

1. Some clients see SPs quite infrequently for whatever reason. It may take them research, preparation (physical and emotional), telling their SO a cover story, travel time and maybe a $50 Viagra pill. These same clients may have certain behavioural standards that does not entail having a backup plan or double booking someone else - how would you know?

2. I am not a kiddo. I can probably be the same age as your father.

3. a "threat" is typically used as a conditional action to coerce someone in changing their behaviour, I was telling her what I was going to do on the same board she advertises on. There was no "or else" and it was frankly quite apologetic.

4. Every time I get stood up (happened to me 4 times or so over 6 years) I share it on the relevant board because that is what the *review* board is for.

 

[marsvolta]

don't sweat it, MrBrown. its a free market and we are the market. the girls can bitch and complain but if the service was not up to your expectations then report it.

 

[ddcanz]

Latest txt from her letter by letter: "Lmao if you're a 'board' guy it's so much better I didn't meet you"

So, Claire is a paid advertiser on this Board, yet she throws out a (seemingly) sarcastic remark to Mr. Brown's stated intention- and not a threat in my mind- to post a review of his disappointing non-encounter? Do 'board' guys not actually also support the SP's business as well as 'non-board' guys? Isn't the main purpose of this board- as far as the Perbites are concerned anyway- to post reviews of our experiences to assist others to make informed decisions?
As noted by M M, Claire's remark can be taken as a clear lack of respect for members here. To lump all 'board' guys together into the same pile IS a disdainful generalization.
Regardless of all the circumstances involved- and maybe the text was not received in the spirit it was given (we all know the written/texted word can be miscommunicated or misconstrued-) I'm sure Claire regrets making that crack.
There are a lot of SPs out there for us to invest our time and money with- giving us additional reasons NOT to see a specific SP seems short sighted.
There are even more guys looking for SP action though, so perhaps a lot of SPs really DON"T give a rat's ass.
But best not make that attitude too public though.

 

[Boobfetish]

'Board' guy?

It's hard to believe that someone in a vulnerable situation like this can be further victimized like this. What a pack of arrogant, mean, hateful, rude, self-absorbed, condescending, inconsiderate, intolerable mongrels you all are.

Personally it sounds to me like she is referring to people like you and the OP with your extremely antagonistic attitudes rather than neccissarily lumping everyone into the same kettle. I'm extremely glad she chose not to see the OP and I honestly hope no one on this 'board' ever does.

 

[Man Mountain]

It's hard to believe that someone in a vulnerable situation like this can be further victimized like this. What a pack of arrogant, mean, hateful, rude, self-absorbed, condescending, inconsiderate, intolerable mongrels you all are.

Personally it sounds to me like she is referring to people like you and the OP with your extremely antagonistic attitudes rather than neccissarily lumping everyone into the same kettle. I'm extremely glad she chose not to see the OP and I honestly hope no one on this 'board' ever does.

Welcome to perb, Boobfetish. As you begin your foray into this activity, let me be the first to wish you the very best of luck with the choices you will make. I hope that you never find yourself being stood up at the last minute nor that you ever find yourself in the company of an SP who secretly harbors resentment towards her clientele, whether it's because they happen to be forum members or otherwise. Good luck in your adventures

 

[MrBrown]

I think the professional thing to do when life throws you a curve ball and you are in to much of an emotional state to do your best is to be honest and give the client a chance to save his hard earned cash to spend on an SP who can give him 100% and show up as her best self. It sounds like she couldn't do that for you that day and she didn't take your money to give less then her standards. If guys think I'm a horrible SP or don't care about someones time to think that way well ok. When I have had to cancel it's because I DO RESPECT your time and money and want you to have the experience you deserve with or without me.

Of course as much notice as possible is always best.

Better luck next time.

Thanks BC_BABE. Agree 100%.