Lefty, at least once a month, a newbie makes a similar post. If you had done a search for BBBJ, you wouldn't have needed to ask.
There will never be a consensus on BBBJ. Everyone agrees BBFS is way too risky, but the majority of hobbyists I know will always take a BBBJ over a CBJ. Also, far more ladies perform BBBJ than they let on. Many don't want it mentioned publicly because they may not provide it to everyone, and they don't want it to be an expectation.
Here's the result of a poll on TERB (it's still running - 256 votes at the time of this posting). About 60% consider BBBJ to be essential; 30% prefer BBBJ over CBJ, but will accept CBJ if that's all that's offered. I believe it's representative of the hobbying community in general, not just in Toronto.
How necessary is a BBBJ (vs. CBJ or no BJ)?
BBBJ is the whole point of session. 56 votes 21.88%
BBBJ indispensable part of foreplay. 97 votes 37.89%
BBBJ appreciated, but not necessary, CBJ is fine. 77 votes 30.08%
CBJ is preferable to BBBJ. 20 votes 7.81%
BJs of any kind are disliked. 6 votes 2.34%
Total: 256 votes 100.00%