Balancing security and privacy... a question for pooners and sp's

[HoneyHunter]

Iz sweetie,

You already have a solid rep, a great site, lots of regulars so I wouldn't be too worried about setting boundaries you are comfortable with. I think your plan to compromise is good. If they don't want to give you their last name, then they should be cool if you want to have a look at them before you let them in. If they can't respect that you value your privacy as much as they value theirs.... too fucking bad for them, they aren't worth seeing anyway. I know you have a line up of guys dying to see you, don't bother with the losers they don't deserve you.

The one thing that no one has said is that if say your father's best friend does show up.... he can always say "I thought that might be you, but wanted to make sure before I told your father." He doesn't have to stay to play he can just rat you out.

I think you are wise to be careful as I know your concern is more about protecting them, than maintaining your personal privacy or "screening" clients based on looks. I know you aren't one to discriminate on the superficial details anyway or else you wouldn't spend so much time looking at my ugly mug.

Any you know I'm in the neighbourhood and only a phone call away if you ever need me. Take care Sweetie and enjoy your freedom!

 

[nube]

The one thing that no one has said is that if say your father's best friend does show up.... he can always say "I thought that might be you, but wanted to make sure before I told your father." He doesn't have to stay to play he can just rat you out.

Yep he could do that alright, hadn't thought of it that way..But a friend like that who is rating on a guys daughter who is 20 plus - isn't much of a friend or a man for that matter.

The daughter is old enough to make life choices - and if he is a father as well, he should know that there are some things that parents need not know about their children.

But at the end of the day - Isabelle has to do what she is MOST comfortable with - and really isn't that all any parent can hope for in their kids?

 

[TotallyTouchin]

What's up baby girl!

It's so funny because it's like you and I changed places...I'm at the Den and you're Indy now and that's all good.

When I was first indie I was like "yeah...what's your name and what's your number and can call you back?" and all that jazz right?

I eventually realised that being independant really makes things alot more intimate than say an experience through an agency where THEY have the company regulars and you see random people.

It may have taken up alot of time, but I did get a chance to yap with the people on the phone for a while...likes, preferances, past experience, the weather....WHATEVER and I just had a regular client base after a while (which I KNOW you have), and I am sure you will find that in fact even if you ASK for a last name...chances are that you won't either a) get one or b) they probably won't provide you with the real one anyway unless you are visiting a hotel suite.

Basically, alll I can offer you from my experience is that it's great to have a building with a video cam downstairs just to ease your mind. If you don't, then let the gentlemen know ahead of time that you are very discreet and will screen them through your peep hole as you are a high profile individual.

Most men are super understanding about discretion and will understand that though you do not ask for their full name, you still are concerned for your own discretion as well as their own.

I wish you all the very best my big tittie chickie with your indie career and I am sure you will find your appropriate comfort level. Lots of love

Tiffers

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

I think warning them ahead of time is a bad idea cuz 99% of the time you won't know them, and the guy will be worried of investing the time to be turned away.

But by all means when they buzz in it's ok to say "I'm sorry but I think we travel in the same circle so I'm very sorry I can't see you since no one knows that I do this on the side." That way he won't be afraid that you will tell anyone, without ever knowing who outed him.

Fantastic Idea. THANK YOU.

Ok guys problem solved. I'll play it by ear.

For the record I do want to make a few things clear. I DO NOT discriminate based on age, ethnicity, weight or attractiveness. EVER. Some of the clients I have enjoyed most and grown very fond of are not necessarily hotties but that doesn't matter at all to me. Being a kind and considerate person is the key to a good session with me.

The only time I will not allow someone in is for the following reasons:
-If I know them
-If I think they are a threat to my security
-If they are dressed like bum. I don't mean someone coming in dirty work clothes from a construction site. I mean FILTHY, Ratty clothes. If you can afford my services, you can afford to dress decently enough to not draw attention to yourself.

The only times I will ever ask someone to leave:
-Bad hygiene. If you are just coming from work and need a shower that's fine, but people who chronically fail to maintain basic hygiene are just gross. (You have no IDEA what some of us girls have had to put up with at the den!)
-Rudeness, excessive roughness, nasty comments or generally being a dink.

Is that asking too much? 99% of clients I have seen where just fine... I'm a pretty easy girl to keep happy. And a happy Isabelle mean far more fun for you guys ;-)

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Basically, alll I can offer you from my experience is that it's great to have a building with a video cam downstairs just to ease your mind. If you don't, then let the gentlemen know ahead of time that you are very discreet and will screen them through your peep hole as you are a high profile individual.

Most men are super understanding about discretion and will understand that though you do not ask for their full name, you still are concerned for your own discretion as well as their own.


Tiffers

Thanks Tiff! Good call. I Miss you girls at the den! And I never got to burry my face in your beautiful cleavage.

 

[TheRater]

This is facetious, but how about travel instead? Fort McMurray would welcome you. Well, I sure would at least.

- TR

 

[Mr.O]

I'll give a dollar to see that!

Thanks Tiff! Good call. I Miss you girls at the den! And I never got to burry my face in your beautiful cleavage.

I think you & Tiff should do that with an audience!

As for your decisions:

You had a tough scenario to deal with & my previous post WAS intended to shake your tree a little!

You obviously put some thought into it & I commend U on the way in which you responded.

You can never lose by proving yourself to be a "Class Act"

Not to complain here, but U did not mention yer method.

Cheers & Licks!
.

 

[nube]

This is facetious, but how about travel instead? Fort McMurray would welcome you. Well, I sure would at least.

- TR

I suggested that she see only people for out of town, like us, she didn't bite But I didn't ask if she'd travel Hey how about kelowna...there's another thread talking about the desperate situation we have here...It's hot and DRY here we need you to come and make it hot and WET...

On my knees praying to the greatest...Xarier....(some might know who I speak of...)

 

[EZ-Dozet]

I to am glad that I am not in your friend circle because one day I wouldn't mind sticking my face in your incredibly succulent breasts.

And I agree with allot of the advice that people have mentioned here.

The only other thing I wanted to say and no offense by it is. You chose this profession (which I am glad you did, me being selfish) and we chose this hobby.

We the pooners & escorts, sp's, sw's, all of the above understand what comes with this. I do feel for the women more because of the amount of men they see. I am sure you one day out in the real world might bump into the guy you did the night before. Shopping, going to a movie....who knows how and where.

I believe what happens in your bedroom, stays in your bedroom. I think people are typically smarter and understand the circumstances involved.

just my 2 pennies.

PS. Please save a spot for me

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Hi Boys and Girls,

Thank you all for the advice and info.

What I have decided to do it just let people know that I'll be screening at the door. If I know you I won't see you plain and simple... which really works for the best anyway as it would just be awkward.

I do want to state EMPHATICALLY that I do not screen for things like age, size, attractiveness, race etc. I'm not that kind of superficial person. The only time I might turn someone away at my door is if they are totally unpresentable and would draw attention to themselves coming into my building (as in dressed in filthy ratty clothes and look like a homeless person... if you can afford to see me, you can afford decent clothes).

I will be getting an alarm system with a panic button after reading the recent events involving Angel. Angel if you are reading this... take care of yourself girl and I hope you are well. *hugs*

Seem fair?