Bachelor party rules.

[bcneil]

I am planning a bachelor party. Its going to be in Vegas. Its a mixture of very heavy partying guys. Then several husbands/dads who very rarely do anything fun.

Now most bachelor parties I have been to, we cover the grooms everything.
His flight, room, golf, food, someone picks him up to drive to airport, lap dances, whatever.
Usually the guy has been responsible to only need money to gamble.

Is this normal??

Bunch of these guys think they should buy him a drink or a dance, but not the rest.

The groom to be, attended the bachelor partys of two guys coming, where everything was paid for.
Now the same two guys dont want to pay for the next guy.

 

[CJ Tylers]

It really depends....I have done the expensive trip, and I've done the inexpensive trip.

If the cost is very reasonable, then nobody should take issue to covering the grooms basics:

Flight, room rental, any kind of group travel and entrance to anything that the group agrees upon. For your every day sort of meals, everyone covers their own. If it's a special night out, then you cover the groom. If he orders his drinks, then the onus is on him to pay...if you buy him drinks, that's self explanatory... the usual understanding is that the groom doesn't do any ordering - but he HAS to drink whatever is ordered for him. Guys will usually buy the groom lap dances, but you aren't under any obligation to pay for his dances. Gambling is totally on his own dime.

Now, with all that said above... sit the groom down with the group. It's no good to have an unhappy wedding party that feels like it's spending above and beyond what it can... I had more fun on the BP that was under $500 than the one that cost me nearly $2000 :| So keep in mind, money doesn't buy happiness (in this case).

Finally, something else to consider, more and more bachelor parties are forgoing the Holly Wood glamourized BP's and going with something either more intimate or more memorable. Since you're in Vegas, hit up the gun range and fire a 50cal, or maybe drive a tank. Go sky diving, go karting at ridiculous speeds, or take in some other crazy things. In all honestly, the more you stay out of the gambling halls, the strip clubs and the Bunny Ranches, I think...the more fun you'll likely have & the more memories you'll make - let alone ones you can share and feel ok about in 10 years

 

[the old maxx50]

I only see a few BP .
The ordinary working man the guys go out to the bar and sot the BS and buy some drinks ..

As a escort driver i saw some where they hired a few escorts ?dancers .. had it at a house with 20 others or hotel rooms if they all are from out of town ,,and even on a boat cruising the inner harbor with a naked girl dancing up on the observation deck .. I am sure every one chipped in for that .. I figure just the one party night ..

One other group flew in from all over to a floating cabin ,, partied for a few days . and ordered a few girls up for a few hours .. ..

Any thing more i think is way over the top .. is marriage that bad that you have to get in more in at one party then you did in all your life and make a ass of your self too

 

[CJ Tylers]

I agree with Old Maxx, the days of making an ass of yourself and potentially cheating on your loved one are supposed to be behind you... why curse your new life with throwing in something like that at the very beginning of it?

At least encourage the groom to wait until the first fight before he goes and hangs out with peelers.

 

[Tugela]

I am planning a bachelor party. Its going to be in Vegas. Its a mixture of very heavy partying guys. Then several husbands/dads who very rarely do anything fun.

Now most bachelor parties I have been to, we cover the grooms everything.
His flight, room, golf, food, someone picks him up to drive to airport, lap dances, whatever.
Usually the guy has been responsible to only need money to gamble.

Is this normal??

Bunch of these guys think they should buy him a drink or a dance, but not the rest.

The groom to be, attended the bachelor partys of two guys coming, where everything was paid for.
Now the same two guys dont want to pay for the next guy.

It depends on who is doing the planning. Just because you can dump a ton of cash to party doesn't mean everyone can, especially the guys who are married. If it is modest then no doubt everyone would be happy to kick in. But if it is an elaborate status affair that is going to cost a small fortune because that is what you want to do, then it is not realistic to expect everyone to contribute equally. Some of the married guys may be on a budget, and their wives might take a dim view of spending the family's vacation money (or whatever) for some other guy to get 20 lapdances.

 

[badbadboy]

I am planning a bachelor party. Its going to be in Vegas. Its a mixture of very heavy partying guys. Then several husbands/dads who very rarely do anything fun.

Now most bachelor parties I have been to, we cover the grooms everything.
His flight, room, golf, food, someone picks him up to drive to airport, lap dances, whatever.
Usually the guy has been responsible to only need money to gamble.

Is this normal??

Bunch of these guys think they should buy him a drink or a dance, but not the rest.

The groom to be, attended the bachelor partys of two guys coming, where everything was paid for.
Now the same two guys dont want to pay for the next guy.

If you guys have already set up an accepted protocol that's the way moving forward I say.

I go to Vegas a few times per year with a few other guys and at least we are all on the same page when we go. Dinners out at nice places, going to some nice show lounges, and a few 'extras'. If they want more than that its on their dime.

 

[blazejowski]

The groom to be, attended the bachelor partys of two guys coming, where everything was paid for.
Now the same two guys dont want to pay for the next guy.

I can't stand idiots like that...

 

[bcneil]

Always 2 or 3 idiots who spoil it for the other guys.

Split cost cheapen the time for the groom. Flights to vegas are cheap if you go out of Bellingham. book hotel and flight together save even more..

Each guy should bring about at least 750-1000 (plus $250 each for the groom) for a weekend. Visa Mastercard Amex too it you've got them. Bare Bare Bare minimum.. Depending on how many guys are going.

Its even going to be cheaper, its just a Friday and Saturday night 10 days before XMAS. Everyone agreed to this weekend.
Flights out of Bellingham under $200 RT, 2 per room staying at Mandalay Bay, about $170 a night, after tax and resort fees. So $370 each. One nice dinner Saturday, other meals probably buffets or something simple. So Maybe $500-$550 a man. 7 guys besides the groom, so not a great deal of money. $70-80 each, plus 2-3 drinks each.

I can't stand idiots like that...

So what do you do about them.

 

[storm rider]

Tight wads, can't stand them. If they can't pay 70-80 bucks for a buddy, then they shouldn't be going. That's pathetic! :doh:

Lay down the law bcneil, layeth the smack down!

Fuckin A Hunka I agree....tell the cheapskates to fuck off.

On a side note I suggest to do something that is cool/fun that the soon to be departed(the groom) wont be "allowed" to do once he is married....something that totally rocks...something that he will not be
"allowed" to do again when the yoke of marriage is placed upon him....fuck man make it memorable.
Slipping down to Costa Rica and doing not only some whoring/drinking/gambling but also strapping
in and catching a 150 pound swordfish comes to mind.

Make it good and not just a boring trip to Vegas.

SR

 

[Tugela]

Tight wads, can't stand them. If they can't pay 70-80 bucks for a buddy, then they shouldn't be going. That's pathetic! :doh:

Lay down the law bcneil, layeth the smack down!

It will cost a bit more than 70-80 bucks for what they are talking about.

 

[blazejowski]

So what do you do about them.

You say, "Look, you tightwad douchebag - the groom paid for YOUR stag, what the fuck gives you the right to say no? Be a man and pony up...."

(calling them on their lack of manhood will help)

 

[joho]

I have been to several bachelor parties in Vegas. The bachelor never had to pay for anything, but we had about 8 to 10 guys splitting the cost. Have a great time