if you say your doing "nothing"...... you`ll likely be giving her a lift to the mall..... its happened to me at least a half dozen times.....i`m serious
As your leaving an SP asks "what are you doing after this"
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Don't know if you recall me personally, or not, but we had a nice discussion afterwards. Just a few minutes, but mostly about your apartment and neigborhood, which is great, so close to the park. I don't think you asked what I was doing afterwards, but I think sometimes SPs ask that when it's noon and they figure they have just been the peak of the guy's day! Which they probably have been, LOL.Ebenezer is absolutely right, it is just polite conversation and nothing more. I ask clients this all the time as we are winding down as to what there plans are for the evening.
But with that being said it can be very individual.
I was asked that once before by an sp... I told her I was going home to relax.. she then asked if i could give her a ride somewhere... I agreed... when i dropped her off she asked me if i wanted to meet up for dinner.... She told me to call her... i felt weird about it any never did.
Not if you don't want to.
Guys seem to read whatever they want into a ladies comments or actions. I personally don't have any interest in spending time with an escort outside of our session. If that was what I was after, I would have a girfriend. A vague question like "what are you up to after?" should get a vague response.
But I guess some guys are wishful that there is something more there so they begin to wonder if they stand a chance.
I think 95% of the time it's just conversation...and I asked a few to join me for a meal or go for a drink. I've given two girls rides home, then we exchanged numbers. In the end, it was just to have me as a regular since they would ask, when I called..."when are you coming to see me??" I would suggest meeting up somewhere else, and they would have some excuse...
It's best to reply with something silly...and just get a reaction like...Going home to the wife and 7 kids...I told the wife I was heading out for some donuts for the kids.:clap2::eyebrows:
It's best to reply with something silly...and just get a reaction like...Going home to the wife and 7 kids...I told the wife I was heading out for some donuts for the kids.:clap2::eyebrows:
While I think most of us do see this question as being nothing more than the small talk that it's meant to be, the fact that a fair amount of guys have questioned the intent should demonstrate to the ladies who ask the question that whether you mean to or not, by asking it, you may be sending out a mixed message to some of your clients. Maybe they're less experienced in the scene or are the types that try to be more "open to possibilities". Perhaps it's time to rethink the posing of this question and think of other conversational ways to wind things down at the end of a session.
And guys: Next time an SP ask you this, maybe we should get into the habit of asking, "Why do you ask?" That way we can put them on the spot that they don't seem to realize that they may be making us feel like we are on when they ask us this (inadvertent as it may be).
And guys: Next time an SP ask you this, maybe we should get into the habit of asking, "Why do you ask?" That way we can put them on the spot that they don't seem to realize that they may be making us feel like we are on when they ask us this (inadvertent as it may be).
Saying "I'm just curious" is just as annoying as asking in the first place. I think SP's do this on purpose to get repeats, I thought the whole point of seeing an SP was not having to answer deal with awkwardness.
