As your leaving an SP asks "what are you doing after this"

[InnocentBoy]

Does that mean she's interested in hanging out if your doing something she likes?
Is it truly a innocent question or is she implying there might be something more?
I always feel weird and have seen a few sp's asking that lately.

 

[jesuschrist]

Does that mean she's interested in hanging out if your doing something she likes?
Is it truly a innocent question or is she implying there might be something more?
I always feel weird and have seen a few sp's asking that lately.

Call their bluff... tell them you're going out to eat at a fancy restaurant and you want them to join. If they decline, then it's just a trick to make you think they're interested in you so you'll book another session.

 

[james1944]

Yeah, I dunno. A SP asked me the same thing, so I asked her if I could buy her something to eat, but she said she had to see a family member. Probably just innocent question and just making light chat, but would like to hear what the ladies have to say.

 

[luvsdaty]

All the time, many of them tell me that i'm the 1st client thats ever made them cum!ound:

 

[newatit]

Will it is likely just a conversation question. These gals often sit around all day waiting for phone calls, and action, and get bored. So I would just take the question as a conversation piece. But by all means ask if they would like to join you if you think it is more than that.

 

[Alix Turner]

.. even if you find an answer you like here, you won't know what a woman was thinking when she asked you "what are you doing later" unless you find out from her.

why haven't you asked any of these women what makes them curious?

 

[newatit]

I used to ask them Alix, and answers were pretty non committal. Usually the answer was "back to work" or going home, things which they were not involved in at the time. But if the body language bespeaks a different tone, maybe they are interested. But for me, never got me further action.
Once in awhile while travelling to the airport, I used to stop in on SP place, and of course when or if thatquestion came up I had gals wanting to come to the airport with me. So many had never been on a plane. One of two even offered to pay for the flight if I took them along. Amazing.

 

[Dgodus]

Sounds alot like something I'd ask others guys after a pick up bball game. I believe it's called small talk.

 

[InnocentBoy]

I think next time I might say that im' going to see another SP just to see the look on her face.

 

[87112]

They are not shy people, if they want to go for you they will be much more direct I think.

 

[Ebenezer Good]

In my experience it is just polite conversation but I think sometimes we would like to think it was more.

Lets face it if you had just bought a TV from some guy in Futureshop and he said what were your plans you probably wouldn't think about asking him to dinner, or maybe you would...?

 

[little sunshine]

Ebenezer is absolutely right, it is just polite conversation and nothing more. I ask clients this all the time as we are winding down as to what there plans are for the evening.
But with that being said it can be very individual.

 

[sonoman]

I believe it's called small talk.

Exactly. Although I did have an SP last week ask me if I wanted to join her for a glass of wine after our session ended (I did; turned into a few).

 

[cheesyname]

I ask as small talk usually after our time together/ as my clients are leaving. I dont spend time out side of my calls with clients, so its just a friendly way to keep the conversation going, same as when I ask if they worked today. I find that it sparks up some sort or conversation at the end, if we aren't already having a great convo.

 

[sweetiepie1]

I think its an attempt to make small talk, as I get that ALL the time from hair stylists, the girl who does my nails, servers in restaurants and so on. I find it annoying myself. I actually think it borders on rudeness, even though I know they don't mean to pry, that's what they're doing. I always want to say, "I"m going to my husband's funeral." Its like they've been taught this one way to try to get the chit chat going and they don't have the imagination to think of anything else. (this is a pet peeve of mine)

 

[cloud_9]

I agree its most likely small talk

The SP's that I have hung out with asked a more direct question, like " wanna go for a drink/bite to eat?"

 

[AA_Train]

I think it's just innocent conversation. Mind you, I had an SP ask me if I wanted to get something to eat afterward. This might of been because she was rather late for the session and perhaps she wanted to make it up to me, but it just as easily could of been because she didn't want to eat alone. I had to decline because I needed to get back home to get some shut eye for the next day, otherwise I would of and would of taken it for what it was, a meal with good company.

 

[island-guy]

I had an SP ask me that once and when I told her "Nothing much, probably going to go home and watch TV" she asked me to give her a lift to the airport.

You never know why someone is asking something if you don't ask them.

 

[Guardian Angel]

I had an SP ask me that once and when I told her "Nothing much, probably going to go home and watch TV" she asked me to give her a lift to the airport.

You never know why someone is asking something if you don't ask them.[/QUOTE

Agree,

It is always good to answer a question with a question. That way the conversation will usually continue. You might just find out it isn't just small talk and things will progress from there. If not then at least you made the effort to find out.

G.A.

 

[deathreborn]

get this question 90% of the time from sp's. means nothing. just something to fill the couple minutes while they stand there watching you get dressed.