"Are You Going to Come for Me?" UUGGHH!!!

[Bad Santa]

I don't know how many sessions I've been in with SPs where everything is going along swimmingly and then she pops "that" question, "Are you going to come for me??" UUGGHH!!!

To me that's almost an insult and a big "turnoff." She might as well be saying, "Can we get this over with?"

Please girls, let things run their course naturally. We pooners know we're running on a "clock" but we don't like being reminded of it!

 

[mistressfreyja]

I totally hear you. It can seem that that phrase has an aspect of finality to it.

But, not to disagree, but isn't that the endpoint you seek? I totally agree that we as SPs need to be cognizant of providing a quality service, especially at whatever pricepoint. However, I recall having said this specific phrase before, and I'm certain that I was seeking more information.

Perhaps you aren't seeking release...(which I always assume, but have been wrong a few times), maybe you would prefer to prolong the 'O' b/c there are further activities to take place and you shoot once and need some reloading time, perhaps you are taking advantage of time...and god knows we get paid for it, maybe my fingers or a toy are up your ass and you can't come via prostate, or can only cum with your feet in the air doing a headstand while smoking a cigar...etc. My point is, we don't know.

I, myself, am just asking for more information as to re-evaluate the scenario and session.

It doesn't necessarily mean, time to leave, but rather I just need some input.

I hope that makes sense, and doesn't come off as confrontational. The latter is not my intent.

Kind Regards, BadSanta.

 

[johnperb]

You don't get the fake orgasm?

 

[Bad Santa]

Good questions, MistressFreya. I'm in my 50s and sometimes it can be difficult to hit the big O in the alloted timeframe. Especially if you're feeling pressured.

I've actually had awesome sessions with ladies without coming. It's not always the endgame for me.
I would never expect a girl to let me go over the allotted time. But sometimes they're already popping that dreaded question 10 minutes into the session. Sheesh!!

 

[sweetcherry]

I don't think I've ever said that to a client. It just seems so awkward @_@. I do have clients saying that to me all the time though. I get all flustered and embarrassed about it.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Yes that phrase can break the mood. I think it depends on the timing. If you are well into your session, and your lady says it with a sexy tone, then it can add to the mood. Then again, when Little Buddha is stubborn, I can fully appreciate the question. I say it is ok to ask when:

1. You are a two shot guy and each of you knows what is about to take place.
2. You have been frolicking around for some time and the atmosphere is not hindered by the question, " are you gonna cum for me"
3. When you know the phrase is meant as a compliment because she knows it will be a great finish and you are both waiting for the eruption.

By the way, there have been times when I know it isn't going to happen and take the initative to say so, but generally this takes place after a lot of effort by my sweet lady.

G.A.

 

[jim]

But sometimes they're already popping that dreaded question 10 minutes into the session. Sheesh!!

EXACTLY. 10 mins into the session and that includes the shower. That is went it is a total turn off.

 

[HubbaHubba]

" She might as well be saying, "Can we get this over with?"

LOL............no "mights" about it

 

[steverino]

I also find it is contextual. If the client indicates, in one of several ways, that he is ready then it can be a supportive comment. When done to "prematurely" end the session it is a real turnoff.

 

[HB40]

I don't know how many sessions I've been in with SPs where everything is going along swimmingly and then she pops "that" question, "Are you going to come for me??" UUGGHH!!!

To me that's almost an insult and a big "turnoff." She might as well be saying, "Can we get this over with?"

I don't normally get bothered by it, kinda makes me laugh actually, I usually just assure them I'm trying...I'm trying!!

What intimidates me a little is when they assert that I better not cum! I see a couple of girls like that and it's always me that has to finally ask the question "is it my turn yet?" Lanya at Elite Retreat is like that and she always wants it doggie first, that is like the hardest position for me to hold off and I have to plead with her please not that position first. Eden and Lilith can be a little self serving too but don't get too upset with me when my attention span is a little short. One of my other faves got a bit frustrated with me I think, her question was always "you didn't cum did you?!?" How are you supposed to answer that one.....with an I'm sorry???

On a related topic, why do girls get so exasperated when we ask if they came?

 

[imanewbie]

ive been told that i take a long time to cum. But is it really?

Im usually out the door at the 40 minute mark.
5 min - shower
5-10 min massage
5-min finishing shower.

time for main course: 20 minutes including BJ. Acutally fuking is probably like 15 minutes.

and im told im taking too long? what the hell do they expect.. seriously, blow in 5 minutes..?

 

[twoblues]

I dated this one girl once who could whisper in the sexiest throaty voice "Are you going to cum, I want you to cum"...and bingo-bango, I would suddenly have a very hard time holding on.

Said correctly and with the proper amount of sexiness, I have no problem at all...I even get off on it. Said in a business-like manner (like I had with one gf who needed to get to work) and it can definitely kill the mood.

 

[Surrey's Jewel]

I am not a lover of 'marathon' sessions. I know there is an old stereotype that guys should have stamina and last a long time but these days women know their bodies a lot better and can come a lot faster and easier. I prefer lots of foreplay and lots and lots of oral .. and then a short blast of bumping and grinding. I don't think I ever say anything like 'are you gonna cum for me ?' but last summer in that 40 + degree weather I ran into a record number of marathon men. Thats just not my thing !

 

[Rotcod]

To any of the ladies who have said this, or have even thought about saying it to their boyfriend/husband/lover/client, I have this to ask:

How would you feel if you were having great sex/so-so sex/horrible sex, and you were just on the verge of your big 'O', and out of the blue your guy says something like that?

I have been one of those 'marathon men' on occasions and completely understand that a lot of women can get quite sore after a certain period of intercourse. If you are having sex with a guy and he is taking too long then just say so and move onto another activity, or let the guy finish himself off if he was getting close to it.

 

[Muffdiver69]

I dated this one girl once who could whisper in the sexiest throaty voice "Are you going to cum, I want you to cum"...and bingo-bango, I would suddenly have a very hard time holding on.

Said correctly and with the proper amount of sexiness, I have no problem at all...I even get off on it. Said in a business-like manner (like I had with one gf who needed to get to work) and it can definitely kill the mood.

exactly. will try to track down the porno but its said in a scene there. so hot the way she says it .. almost in begging sort of way. big turn on for me.

 

[colossus]

ladies dont say it......

I dated this one girl once who could whisper in the sexiest throaty voice "Are you going to cum, I want you to cum"...and bingo-bango, I would suddenly have a very hard time holding on.

Said correctly and with the proper amount of sexiness, I have no problem at all...I even get off on it. Said in a business-like manner (like I had with one gf who needed to get to work) and it can definitely kill the mood.

very good point 2blues.....in that sexy voice and she wants you to shoot all over her face,or breasts or inside...whoah that is definately hot...... rather than 1 experience i had a few months back where the sp had a client waiting, so she was like, "ok YOU CAN CUMM NOW!"...made me feel 2 feet tall, was i ever upset - needless to say i have not been back to see her, and probably wont go back