Anyone use SPs as a crutch...

[Rotcod]

I used to think that I pursued this hobby because I could not get any the normal way. Heck, I even lost my virginity (although it wasn't my first sexual experience), to some random girl in a MP. Afterwards I kept going because I was a self-proclaimed "late bloomer", and I wanted some experience under my belt so when I did meet someone, I could at least have the confidence to know what to do when the situation came up.

I did eventually meet a girl (couple actually) who were crazy about me, and one of them literally jumped my bones when she had the chance. Our relationship was not long, but it was very intense, and in the end I was glad I managed to get some 'practice' beforehand.

Presently, its been almost a couple of years since I was in a relationship or even had a one night stand. I have had more than a few girls flirt with me, and a couple that had circumstances been slightly different, could have bedded easily. However, I try not to dwell on my past failures and focus on improving my confidence and mindset. I will admit I am still quite shy when making the first move, but if a girl shows the first indication of interest, its game on!

 

[visioneast]

You are certainly not alone. You have plenty of company. It's not like we
take a course in Relationship 101 in school. I have a middle aged male
friend who has never had a long term romantic relationship though he
has plenty to offer in other departments (he's smart, very loyal and an
all around good person but somehow he's not exactly a chick magnet).

I think you have more than enough to offer but just don't know it yet.
Regardless of your looks, educational background & job status, there
are some traits all women find attractive in men: confidence, a sense
of humor, integrity and good interpersonal skills. Also a mysterious
factor called 'sex appeal' (some people have it naturally, others need
to cultivate it).

No, you are not destined to be alone. There truly is somebody out there
for you.

I feel better now. Misery loves company.

I am 28 now. Maybe someday I will be able to find someone.

 

[AA_Train]

Not at all. I see them to learn more about women and sex. I'm no cassanova but I do ok with the ladies. When I get into a long term serious relationship I won't see them anymore but until then when I have the time and the scratch, I know there are many lovely ladies in this city I can call

 

[kidstone]

Hey I'm going to be 50 this year and I've had very few relationships and little sex.

In my youth there was always some reason why I couldn't have sex. First I was all religious and thinking it would be sinful to have sex.

Then I had terrible hardly even sex with a prostitute, when I was in the navy, and it put me off sex.

Then I carried a torch for one girl who just wanted to be friends. Then I carried a torch (for a very long time) for another girl that just wanted to be friends.

So I wasted my really good years. There were cute girls--maybe not perfect 10s, but nice girls--that probably would have let me sleep with them if I showed enough interest (most girls will tell you they don't want to have sex, because they don't want to appear easy, but a lot of them really do want to have sex, if you put in the effort). And I wasted the rest of my thirties and most of my forties lamenting the fact that I was over the hill and no girl would want me now.

I kept thinking I should just go to a pro. But I always thought that was admitting defeat. And the cost seemed too much.

I contented myself with porn and phone sex and lap dances. But really all the money I spent on those could have got me laid several times with an experienced SP. In truth, I was so out of the game, I was afraid to see an SP because I might humiliate myself.

And frankly when I did see an SP the actual attempts at straight sex were failures, but everything else--the non-traditional stuff--was great fun.

Now, I find myself in a relationship with a girl who takes her clothes off for a living, but we're not having sex. Well, at the club, we virtually do have a kind of sexual relationship, but outside of the club, no. And I'm her sugar daddy (except I'm not really rich enough to be her sugar daddy). And all of this seems to be fine for me--or maybe I'm deluded--because I know that it's a trade-off. She doesn't give me sex, but she gives me companionship and honesty.

In a few months she'll leave for new places. And I think I'm going to be heart-broken, because I really do like her. But one thing I've realized is that it's too soon to give up. I'm happy these days, I flirt with other women (young women) because I don't care anymore. When I used to care if a woman liked me or not I wouldn't dare flirt for fear of rejection. Now that I have my sugar babe who doesn't give sex, somehow I'm free to just have fun.

As men, I think we're pretty lucky, because no matter how old we get we can always eat some young pussy for the right price. I feel sad for the old age pensioners living on fixed income, but I think even they can afford the occasional bit of pussy.

Obviously I don't have any wise words. Clearly I'm not wise. And I'm not rich. But I do have a kind of dumb luck.

 

[jraf]

No, I've never had an injury that required crutches...However, if I did have such an injury, I'm sure an SP or 2 would be better than the wooden kind with the foam caps that seem so uncomfortable.

 

[Steve McQueen]

Hmmmmmmmmmmm

because they can't get laid the normal way?

I haven't so much as touched a girl, and I'm at that age where it's considered weird to not have gone all the way. I remember being 8 years old, and wanting nothing more than to get some girl's panties off and have her play with my weiner... any girl would do. Well, it's now over a decade later, and that hasn't happened. It seems that if you don't look as good as Colin Farrell to a girl and can't keep her wildly entertained for countless hours, then you're basically screwed (not the good kind). So I've pretty much given up, thrown in the towel if you will. I figure the only way I'll ever get sex, much less sex on a regular basis, would be to use SPs. Has anyone else just quit dating or going on the prowl altogether? Do you feel like you're missing out on something, or are you content with just paying upfront and doing it with someone who's probably not even attracted to you?

Every married guy in this city. Can't get good sex at home and not into a relationship outside the marriage. That's life!

 

[visioneast]

Hey I'm going to be 50 this year and I've had very few relationships and little sex.

In my youth there was always some reason why I couldn't have sex. First I was all religious and thinking it would be sinful to have sex.

Then I had terrible hardly even sex with a prostitute, when I was in the navy, and it put me off sex.

Then I carried a torch for one girl who just wanted to be friends. Then I carried a torch (for a very long time) for another girl that just wanted to be friends.

So I wasted my really good years. There were cute girls--maybe not perfect 10s, but nice girls--that probably would have let me sleep with them if I showed enough interest (most girls will tell you they don't want to have sex, because they don't want to appear easy, but a lot of them really do want to have sex, if you put in the effort). And I wasted the rest of my thirties and most of my forties lamenting the fact that I was over the hill and no girl would want me now.

I kept thinking I should just go to a pro. But I always thought that was admitting defeat. And the cost seemed too much.

I contented myself with porn and phone sex and lap dances. But really all the money I spent on those could have got me laid several times with an experienced SP. In truth, I was so out of the game, I was afraid to see an SP because I might humiliate myself.

And frankly when I did see an SP the actual attempts at straight sex were failures, but everything else--the non-traditional stuff--was great fun.

Now, I find myself in a relationship with a girl who takes her clothes off for a living, but we're not having sex. Well, at the club, we virtually do have a kind of sexual relationship, but outside of the club, no. And I'm her sugar daddy (except I'm not really rich enough to be her sugar daddy). And all of this seems to be fine for me--or maybe I'm deluded--because I know that it's a trade-off. She doesn't give me sex, but she gives me companionship and honesty.

In a few months she'll leave for new places. And I think I'm going to be heart-broken, because I really do like her. But one thing I've realized is that it's too soon to give up. I'm happy these days, I flirt with other women (young women) because I don't care anymore. When I used to care if a woman liked me or not I wouldn't dare flirt for fear of rejection. Now that I have my sugar babe who doesn't give sex, somehow I'm free to just have fun.

As men, I think we're pretty lucky, because no matter how old we get we can always eat some young pussy for the right price. I feel sad for the old age pensioners living on fixed income, but I think even they can afford the occasional bit of pussy.

Obviously I don't have any wise words. Clearly I'm not wise. And I'm not rich. But I do have a kind of dumb luck.

I don't want to be like that when I am at your age.

 

[theassman]

I used to think that I pursued this hobby because I could not get any the normal way. Heck, I even lost my virginity (although it wasn't my first sexual experience), to some random girl in a MP. Afterwards I kept going because I was a self-proclaimed "late bloomer", and I wanted some experience under my belt so when I did meet someone, I could at least have the confidence to know what to do when the situation came up.

I did eventually meet a girl (couple actually) who were crazy about me, and one of them literally jumped my bones when she had the chance. Our relationship was not long, but it was very intense, and in the end I was glad I managed to get some 'practice' beforehand.

Presently, its been almost a couple of years since I was in a relationship or even had a one night stand. I have had more than a few girls flirt with me, and a couple that had circumstances been slightly different, could have bedded easily. However, I try not to dwell on my past failures and focus on improving my confidence and mindset. I will admit I am still quite shy when making the first move, but if a girl shows the first indication of interest, its game on!

LOL first of all, been lurking a bit having discovered this board only recently. So hello to y'all

Secondly, I got into pooning for the very same reason - an environment where I can practice and explore without fear of screwing up a relationship that has potential Must say that it did help me so I feel the money I paid was just another tuition