Anyone ever date/marry a SP or former SP?

[wilde]

I know several SP/Moms who became SPs because they were single moms and they wanted to have enough $ to give their kid(s) everything but they didn't want to have to leave their kids in daycare all day for a 'regular' job so instead they have a babysitter come over for a couple of hours every evening when the kids are in bed and they go out to 'work'. I knew some strippers back east in the same situation.

Point taken, but whether that makes them good moms is still in question. Chances are they were poor wives given that they are now single moms (and before the angry SP mob starts forming at my door, or they were trying to get away from their "poor" husbands).

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[westwoody]

...I know several SP/Moms who became SPs because they were single moms and they wanted to have enough $ to give their kid(s) everything

I know one right now who is putting her daughter through university. She came from a lousy background and is doing everything she can to give her daughter a good start in life.
And when guys make childish comments about getting it on with a hot chick every morning...do you think all SPs are nymphomaniacs? Don't you think doing it all day with their customers would take a little fun out of it? Do you ever think that they are people as well as hookers?

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Point taken, but whether that makes them good moms is still in question. Chances are they were poor wives given that they are now single moms (and before the angry SP mob starts forming at my door, or they were trying to get away from their "poor" husbands).

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Whew! Talk about generalizing... this one takes the prize. LOL

Yeah, and I ran away from home when I was 12 because my step father was abusing me and I was stealing my mama's sleeping pills and booze and was about to go into foster care. I was recruted by a pimp at a bus station and forced into prostitution and drugs. I'm on my 3rd baby from different dads and I sell their milk to the girl next door so I can buy some whiskey for me and my unemployed old man.

That sound about right? You tell me.. you seem to have it all figured out!

Everybody's got their own story! Yes, I would agree that some were perhaps forced by situations but you don't seem to realize that a lot of sp's make this as a choice.

Do you know how many hours a week a "career woman" working in the corporate world is forced to spend away from her kids? Probably about 50hrs or more.. Doesn't leave much time, now does it?

Now how many hours do you think an sp gets to spend with her kids?!

No offense but that was such an ignorant comment, it was painful.

Besides, since when does being a poor mom make one a bad mom? And using that twisted logic, does having money make someone a good mother..? eeesh..

 

[ladyluck]

Oh My *^&

I am not saying that SPs do not deserve a healthy, normal and even happy relationship. But relationships are hard enough without putting yourself behind the 8 ball. IMHO, SPs make great girlfriends but poor wifes and worst moms.

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You Must have been one the abusive husbands that some girls try to get away from. with your saying we're not good enough to hang on to them as wives,,PLEASSSE!
In my case there was very much abuse. I pulled my kids out of their as fast as it was possible for me to do.
I was a stripper for almost 10 yrs, some of us don't have work experience.
Am I to put on my resume, 92-2001 exotic dancer. Don't think that would go over well with my new employer, Probably hear NEXT!.
I think I'm a damn good mom and heard it from many people that know me.
I have to say Thankyou to the ones who stated that we are here to do a job, and support our kids in sometimes (the only way we know how to).
Back on topic, I've been with the same guy for almost 5 yrs, he was a customer. We fell for each other, but have to say it takes a big man to put up with our jobs. He knows I love him and show it to him more then just in a sexual way.
You know I'm sick of hypocritical peeps that think they know what it's like to live our lives, but Buddy till you have walked in our shoes, keep your opinions about mothering, wife duties etc, to yourself.

 

[wilde]

Everybody's got their own story! Yes, I would agree that some were perhaps forced by situations but you don't seem to realize that a lot of sp's make this as a choice.

Do you know how many hours a week a "career woman" working in the corporate world is forced to spend away from her kids? Probably about 50hrs or more.. Doesn't leave much time, now does it?

Using your child as an excuse to justify your career choice, that makes you a great mom.

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[wilde]

You know I'm sick of hypocritical peeps that think they know what it's like to live our lives, but Buddy till you have walked in our shoes, keep your opinions about mothering, wife duties etc, to yourself.

It's funny you brought that up cause I am quite sure most of the men here have never been an SP. Yet this whole board exists because of our opinions on SPs.

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[Miss*Bijou]

Using your child as an excuse to justify your career choice, that makes you a great mom.

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I'm not sure what your point is with that comment, or if you have one at all but first, I didn't use my child as an excuse to anything because I don't have a child!

I was giving an example of the outcome that can be the result of 2 different choices mothers make. It's not all black or white. My point is that being an sp, a mother has the advantage of having more time to spend with their child, while a career woman is forced to spend most of her time away.

I'm not sure how one making such a choice would be using her child as an excuse - I don't know how you interpreted that way?!
I see nothing wrong with choosing to be an sp in order to have more time with your children & be able to provide them with everything they need! Lots of women make different carrer choices (or sacrifices) based on their children, the amount of time they will have for them and the means they will have to support them, etc..

And actually.. Yes, I do think making a career choice based on your children makes someone a good mother. I'd be worried if the opposite was happening.

 

[ladyluck]

It's funny you brought that up cause I am quite sure most of the men here have never been an SP. Yet this whole board exists because of our opinions on SPs.

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I brought it up cause your opinion was rude!!!
Yes this is a board where some of the men's opinion's count.
Last time I checked it was a review board, and cutting sp's down for what you simply don't have a clue about, ie,, mothering skills, wife duties etc.
I had thought this was about dating an SP? Not critiquing mothering skills or whether we can hang on to a man.
Sp's are human and not all are nympho's. We have family, friends and lives like everyone else. Just have a different job from your usual 9-5. So we tend to be steroetyped as a slut's or even sex addicts, or even have drug problem's. I know quite a few clean and sober SP's who take great care of their children.

 

[wilde]

Ladies, did not mean to offend you at all. Must be the hangover. What I am trying to say is that probability wise, SPs carry more emotional baggage into a relationship than a non-SP would. Given that, it is more likely to fail than a "normal" relationship (hence the 8 ball comment). Most of you will agree that it takes a special man to make a relationship with an SP work, and that most men is not that man.

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[ms.belair]

What I am trying to say is that probability wise, SPs carry more emotional baggage into a relationship than a non-SP would. .

Exchange "baggage" for "experience" and the above statement sounds right. As for sp's needing a special kind of man, don't we all want our SO to be a "special kind of person"?

 

[Smother]

If an Sp chooses this profession whatever reason ...it's her business only.
If An SP and guy happen to get along real good and like each other alot...then why in the hell not shouldn't they give it a shot!!?? That's if they choose to.
Another thing to consider is that....if things work out real well....How do you know that she'll stay in the business?? Nobody knows this answer except her herself.
If it happens....I think that's cool as long as they are up front about things and 100 % honest with each. I don't know If could honestly do it myself but I'm sure long lasting relationships have happened.
I think some of the remarks towards Sp's are pretty harsh here.
Let's not forget....Sp's are people too and they have feelings as well.
Just because she may do this for a living right now....doesn't make her a bad person.

 

[wilde]

Not again, been there, done that, far too many problems.

Ahem, I wonder if that is part the baggage I was referring to?


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[PeterLongwood]

I wonder.......

I think that I could be with an SP as I find myself not that upset by what they do. I mean a job is a job after all.

Who that lucky grrrrrrl might be??

 

[georgebushmoron]

I'd marry an SP. In fact, I'd marry my SP-GF in an instant if I could.

 

[tianna]

ok

here is a question.. how many men out there do, or are invloved in illegal activities, who settle down after a while.. and find them selves a good wife..have a happy family.. so on and so on.. we are no different.. we work in different offices that's all... and for the comment about an sp being a bad spouse or mother.... that is a crock of shit! there are many different types of sp's out there.. and as for us chosing to do what we do... if there was a high demand for men in this type of employment, then I'm sure that loads of men would do it too! Remember we my advertise chit chat.. but when it comes down to it... we answer the calls... we don't dial them and In no way am I condeming those who do call..... just thought I would point that out

 

[CJ Tylers]

*chuckle*

But the invitation to call is implying the expectation to call...

anyways, I'm in the boat that being an SP or not doesn't really have any bearing on how good a mother a woman is. It's just that, after a certain age, it *might* be difficult to answer the question of "what mommy does".

And as for men who engage in illegal or illicit activities...um... *looks around*... I think that pretty much applies to everyone here eh? Or else the cops wouldn't have any interest in busting people Past or current transgressions...everyone has done *something*... like speeding... running a red light...etc

I'll just be happy when I meet a nice girl to settle down with As long as the past doesn't constrict the future, then let the past stay where it is... when you find someone that you really click with, why throw up artificial barriers? It's really hard enough to find someone in Vancouver...

 

[TotallyTouchin]

I have alot of "baggage"

Some are upscale Louis Vuittons, some are just that damn pink suitcase that I lug around with mewith all my hot slutty outfits when I go to the Den. But I know that I fill up the whole closet with my "baggage". Its a real problem for me. Dog carriers, ho wear carriers, regular black generic luggage, my louis vuitton carry alls (my favorite). Lets not get started on the purses. Its a definate undertaking.

So if someone wants to adopt me then yes. Have some closet space. My baggage is widespread and has been a problem in my past.

Thank god the closet space I have now is suffecient.

To date me....lets see. You'd have to deal with ME (bonkers in every way....I think in all GOOD ways...), one very cranky but very willing ho dog, one very horny and happy chihuahua who may or may not hump the shiznit out of your leg and then all my BAGGAGE........I think it would be a hero.

Lets face it. Girls are just princesses who want to be pampered and nobody...even the chick that like measures your shoes at Aldo is all that easy.

It just so happens that we like to bang hotties for dolla-s. If you can get over that....you got it made in the shade of all our BAGGAGE!

 

[TotallyTouchin]

Yes!

NO TURKEY THROWERS NEED APPLY!

If I screw up the potatoes and you get so mad that you throw the damn turkey......BEAT IT! New rule. I forgot to put that one in but very important when dating an sp.

Now....my expectations are low however. Cornish game hen......yeah....that could be okay....if you HAVE to be a poultry-thrower.

I'm good at bobbing and weaving. Ok I'm best at the bobbing part. And its usually on a cock and not out of the way of some turkey or something.

So there you have it. Bags. Dogs. Closet space and NO POULTRY THAT FLIES AT MY HEAD!

Whew! Glad that one got clarrified!

 

[87112]

To cut to the chase-Fuck No, the ones I gotten close to or remotely close have no faith or trust in themselves or you. They hold so much pussy making power they will just abuse you or themselves for a quick buck.

 

[The Lizard King]

A former SP? Not intentionally. A current SP? No fucking way....I have this little policy that the only cock that goes in my GF's mouth while we're dating is my own.