I've been a pooner for several years and have found many great ladies who I've visited multiple time, however there are always a few duds that aren't worth the effort and when a good connection leaves town or the business, it's hard to find another great one.... Well a couple of years ago I posted a casuals ad on CL looking for a regular hookup with a nonpro in return for some financial help on my part.... I lucked into a single mom who's 25 yrs younger than me with her kids either at school or at daycare...I see her on average once or twice a week and help. Her out with what would be a usual SP fee for GFE. Our timetable works as she likes early morning meet ups and she lives 5 min. From me....oh, and she's very accommodating with wearing all the sexy outfits and heels/boots etc. that turn me on! I just. Have to keep from getting emotionally attached which is hard since we've grown to be very close sexually and always have mutually hot sessions....as long as we can continue to be discreet, I'm in heaven!
Anyone else as lucky as me?
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Thanks bbb. ...and it's nice that it's a safe situation....I've had one major scare in the past when a SP's ex husband burst into a room mid session brandishing a knife....besides my life flashing before me, I was wondering how my life would be changing afterwards if I were to survive (alo wondering as to the extent of any injuries I'd sustain)
Sounds like a situation much like my own. Hot little Single Mom, 8 years younger than me with no hang ups about wild sex. Problem was, she became really attached after 4 years of regular visits with her. She actually went a little "Fatal Attraction" on me so I had to cut her loose. Just keep your wits about you.
Just my two cents...
Just my two cents...
I found a "SugarBabeLike" arrangement on CL last year and it has been great too.
She is a mature student at university, single, needed help with finances and expenses, attractive; I proposed the arrangement and she [nervously] agreed.
It's been a super win\win relationship and the sex is HOT!
That's so great that you found an amazing lady to help out and spend some sexy time with! That's especially great that you know it's a safe situation.
The few times I tried a "sugar daddy" type of situation, I really had no luck. It never really seemed to be a mutual win/win, and the guys seemed to be reluctant to really hold up their end of the bargain. Oh well, I think it would be too hard to give up what I do anyway! Aha
I hope your situation stays amazing! Treat her well
The few times I tried a "sugar daddy" type of situation, I really had no luck. It never really seemed to be a mutual win/win, and the guys seemed to be reluctant to really hold up their end of the bargain. Oh well, I think it would be too hard to give up what I do anyway! Aha
I hope your situation stays amazing! Treat her well
Personally something like you described makes a lot more sense, then girls trying to be high volume living out of a hotel room or whatever,
Everyone wonders about emotional damage in this are we or are the girls. Whats going on.
I don't know how you can say trying to fuck as many strange men a day as you can is not emotionally damaging.
But a few regular steady clients, who help each other out, a win win for both, it makes perfect sense to me,
And that is kind of what me and the lady I see have fallen into, she was a pro high volume, but over the years, she realized her mental health is just as important as her fincial health,
its a stress a big stress, trying to be high volume, and satisfy every tom dick and harry that knocks on your door.
low volume much better, help a girl out to make a few extra bucks, not try to win the lottery, and the girl can actually have a some what normal life in the process,
Everyone wonders about emotional damage in this are we or are the girls. Whats going on.
I don't know how you can say trying to fuck as many strange men a day as you can is not emotionally damaging.
But a few regular steady clients, who help each other out, a win win for both, it makes perfect sense to me,
And that is kind of what me and the lady I see have fallen into, she was a pro high volume, but over the years, she realized her mental health is just as important as her fincial health,
its a stress a big stress, trying to be high volume, and satisfy every tom dick and harry that knocks on your door.
low volume much better, help a girl out to make a few extra bucks, not try to win the lottery, and the girl can actually have a some what normal life in the process,
That seems to be an over-general conclusion. If you loved to travel and got a job as a pilot or flight attendant, would you want people saying you're emotionally damaged because you don't have a place you can properly call home? If you loved to drive fast and got a job as some sort of touring race car driver, would you be emotionally damaged?
Yes there can be stress and demands that can wear on a person even when they do what they love. I could say that about my own career in fact, but if you're young -- or not but have good resilience -- it doesn't have to drag you down. Maybe for some people there's a point where it starts to wear you down and maybe then you move on, but it doesn't mean the career itself is intrinsically damaging for everyone at every stage.
As sincere and caring as you're trying to be, you're actually perpetuating the stereotype that SPs are 'lost girls' who are 'damaged' and only do this job as a form of last resort.
Me? I don't live out of hotels at all. Not even when I tour. I have a nice condo and a nice separate incall in a beautiful city. I call it my office and I can sit and watch TV in bed when I want to and enjoy my alone time.
There's nothing taxing about this job on my mental health, aside from maybe being diplomatic in responses to people you just want to flick in the eye. I love what I do. I have an honours degree in the sciences and I could go get a regular job if I so pleased. I'm pursing a higher education because that's what I feel like doing, whether I end up working in the field or not. Maybe this is what I choose to do for my career. I make a good living, I pay my taxes and I get to lead a comfortable life making people happy.
You know what's mentally taxing? Working sub $20/hr jobs, always stressing about where your rent is going to come from, having to bargain shop for food and never getting to do anything that makes you happy. Because you can't afford it. Guess what? I've been there too. I've worked in customer service from basic cashiering to the management level and I can guarantee you that the 'normal' life you describe was a lot worse on my mental health than being an SP is. I don't worry about my rent, I don't worry about paying my cell phone bills and I can go do things (travelling, school, etc) that I enjoy without worrying that I'm going to be out of a place to live because I spent $200 on groceries.
Are there miserable girls in this industry? Absolutely. But don't let a non-majority percentage of the population dictate your opinion of us as a whole.
Eva,
No such thing as too mature to be a sugar baby, my babe is mid 40s, but she looks and thinks young. Yes, most SBs are younger but not all. You have to find the right guy, preferably someone with experience as a "Daddy".
I'm middle aged, have been in a sugar daddy role before and liked it; actually prefer somebody closer to my age.
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BRAVO PEYTON!!
Couldn't have said it better myself
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BRAVO PEYTON!!
Couldn't have said it better myself
Can we get a like button please??
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BRAVO PEYTON!!
Couldn't have said it better myself
Can we get a like button please??
BRAVO PEYTON!!
Couldn't have said it better myself
Can we get a like button please??
During my years in this "biz" I've had the ups and downs that I am certain goes along with any profession, but my 10 years as a Sugar Baby (I didn't actually know that's what it was considered 'til now) was what I considered a self-promotion. So younger or not as young there's a connection to be made if that is what a person really wants and can be quite successful ... subjectively of course.
Chemistry is the science behind it all really. :thumb:
Chemistry is the science behind it all really. :thumb:
I hear what you are saying Peyton, and you have said it very well and that very ability to communicate well is what sets you apart from some less fortunate ladies whether SP's or not.
It is a sad fact that not all ladies find themselves to be as blessed with good fortune and wisdom as you obviously have been.
You have the intelligence, charm, sex appeal and good looks along with a killer body. You are the complete and almost perfect package and you have worked very hard at improving your lot in life.
It is obvious that you have not allowed yourself to fall into the negative spiral of victimization and abuse and you have a very good life to show for the wise choices you have made.
Not all ladies have made the best choices in their lives. Many ladies who associate themselves with someone who turns out to be a bully or control freak for a boyfriend or partner end up paying a horrible price. Life is what we make of it and often, (not always though) it comes down to the choices we make.
So I say to you, go girl!! You have done well and have made some brilliant choices one of which is to educate yourself.
I hope you will always appreciate the freedom and independence you have cultivated through your well thought out choices. May you always enjoy and be grateful for the quality of life you have chosen.
Just please don't forget there are some who are in desperate situations. For those individuals who have fallen into tough times and need help there are some of us men who really do care. Sure some of us are selfish but most of us are willing to help out with finances in return for some regular sexual satisfaction. No harm no foul, both parties benefit and hopefully neither one feels taken advantage of or abused as long as there is balance, mutual respect and maintenance of dignity.
I have been there as a sugar daddy and it got out of balance with demands for more $$$ and ever decreasing intimacy (from her) and repeated shutting down of the sexual favours so I chose to end it. I was burned once and doubt I would try it again unless it was with a respectful and mature lady who is confidant in herself and not into victimization or control games.
It is a sad fact that not all ladies find themselves to be as blessed with good fortune and wisdom as you obviously have been.
You have the intelligence, charm, sex appeal and good looks along with a killer body. You are the complete and almost perfect package and you have worked very hard at improving your lot in life.
It is obvious that you have not allowed yourself to fall into the negative spiral of victimization and abuse and you have a very good life to show for the wise choices you have made.
Not all ladies have made the best choices in their lives. Many ladies who associate themselves with someone who turns out to be a bully or control freak for a boyfriend or partner end up paying a horrible price. Life is what we make of it and often, (not always though) it comes down to the choices we make.
So I say to you, go girl!! You have done well and have made some brilliant choices one of which is to educate yourself.
I hope you will always appreciate the freedom and independence you have cultivated through your well thought out choices. May you always enjoy and be grateful for the quality of life you have chosen.
Just please don't forget there are some who are in desperate situations. For those individuals who have fallen into tough times and need help there are some of us men who really do care. Sure some of us are selfish but most of us are willing to help out with finances in return for some regular sexual satisfaction. No harm no foul, both parties benefit and hopefully neither one feels taken advantage of or abused as long as there is balance, mutual respect and maintenance of dignity.
I have been there as a sugar daddy and it got out of balance with demands for more $$$ and ever decreasing intimacy (from her) and repeated shutting down of the sexual favours so I chose to end it. I was burned once and doubt I would try it again unless it was with a respectful and mature lady who is confidant in herself and not into victimization or control games.
OP here....and, darn, the enviable has happened as I knew it someday would....my sugarbaby moved and ran into an old friend who lives in her new complex...I'm guessing they were attracted to each other before once but we're both in other relationships...but she's in love now and so I've severed any connection with her and wish her all the best...but she assures me that I'll be the first person she'll call if it doesn't work out.....So now I find myself searching again for a regular connection with a discreet young lady in need.....
Interesting in your response Peyton,
I agree some ladies this profession suits them, others not so much,
I very much prefer life long as in career escorts as opposed to those simply passing through or are in a desperate situation.
I think this job is very intimate and personal. estimates from sps of clients they actually like, run from fifty fifty to ten percent.
Two escorts that I have been regulars with said only ten percent of us guys are nice the rest creeps.
The lady I see currently tells me it takes its toll, getting naked and in bed with guys she wouldn't even wanna have a coffee with.
I don't think there is anything really wrong with this profession
but I have seen ladies once and have never gone back for varying reasons.
I can't imagine what it is like to have a client just fall in love with you and keeps coming back and you personally can't stand him.
Im only saying that the pressure for money or to have a good reputation forces you ladies to see guys you would rather not,
and your a better man then I am if you can be naked and have a big smile on your face, with someone you wouldn't even want to be your next door neighbor or sit down and have a tims with. and it doesn't ruin your day.\
I have bad clients and one bad client can ruin my day, and im only shuffling papers around, not getting naked.
yeah, if it doesn't bother you, you are a way better man then I am
I agree some ladies this profession suits them, others not so much,
I very much prefer life long as in career escorts as opposed to those simply passing through or are in a desperate situation.
I think this job is very intimate and personal. estimates from sps of clients they actually like, run from fifty fifty to ten percent.
Two escorts that I have been regulars with said only ten percent of us guys are nice the rest creeps.
The lady I see currently tells me it takes its toll, getting naked and in bed with guys she wouldn't even wanna have a coffee with.
I don't think there is anything really wrong with this profession
but I have seen ladies once and have never gone back for varying reasons.
I can't imagine what it is like to have a client just fall in love with you and keeps coming back and you personally can't stand him.
Im only saying that the pressure for money or to have a good reputation forces you ladies to see guys you would rather not,
and your a better man then I am if you can be naked and have a big smile on your face, with someone you wouldn't even want to be your next door neighbor or sit down and have a tims with. and it doesn't ruin your day.\
I have bad clients and one bad client can ruin my day, and im only shuffling papers around, not getting naked.
yeah, if it doesn't bother you, you are a way better man then I am
Your comments are definitely towards Peyton, so tell me, 7of9, has Peyton had a sex change recently ??????? 'Cause you are referring to Peyton as a 'man'.
In post #14 in this thread, her 'signature' shows 3 alluring pictures of a very sexy lady.---- Mind you, that post is over 4 months old, and a lot of things can change in that time, including a woman becoming a man.
I was thinking of setting up a 'date' with Peyton next time I go over to Victoria, but I hope that doesn't require me to become 'bisexual'.
