Any SP's have a boyfriend/husband that knows what they do?
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It is probably not only difficult for you but also for her. She is most likely thinking about you more often than you might believe. Even though it is work for her she is still being intimate with other men, which makes things complicated. My best advice is to try to take the frame of mind that when she is with a client she is merely at work and when she is with you it is relaxation time. If you feel as though you are not being treated correctly by her then you should let her know and discus things with her but also try to keep in mind the situation she is in. Would you put work before her or would you expect her to put you before her work? These are things that should be talked about. Although this job has a different style of its on unfortunately it is hard to grasp a routine. Ask her is she is planning on doing this for a long time or if she is hoping and has a plan to get out of the biz. If she is not then it would be good to set up a way that wont interfere with each others schedual. Set up dates. Or ask her to set up dates that she will not work so you two can spend time with each other where she will not have her work phone. I am just basing this off of a new relationship, which in a way this is. I do not know how professional she is or what her style of work is but that is the best info in mind. If you feel like you are not getting enough attention, talk to her about it when you both have the time, no one should be ignored. Just talk, and try to keep an open mind.
It is probably not only difficult for you but also for her. She is most likely thinking about you more often than you might believe. Even though it is work for her she is still being intimate with other men, which makes things complicated. My best advice is to try to take the frame of mind that when she is with a client she is merely at work and when she is with you it is relaxation time. If you feel as though you are not being treated correctly by her then you should let her know and discus things with her but also try to keep in mind the situation she is in. Would you put work before her or would you expect her to put you before her work? These are things that should be talked about. Although this job has a different style of its on unfortunately it is hard to grasp a routine. Ask her is she is planning on doing this for a long time or if she is hoping and has a plan to get out of the biz. If she is not then it would be good to set up a way that wont interfere with each others schedual. Set up dates. Or ask her to set up dates that she will not work so you two can spend time with each other where she will not have her work phone. I am just basing this off of a new relationship, which in a way this is. I do not know how professional she is or what her style of work is but that is the best info in mind. If you feel like you are not getting enough attention, talk to her about it when you both have the time, no one should be ignored. Just talk, and try to keep an open mind.
What is it you wanna know exactly?
let me ask you a few questions.
When it comes to sex do you think your "the man"?
(every guy brings something different to the table,size, shape,fantasy, desire)
How confident are you with yourself ,body image, cock size?
(if you have doubts about yourself confidence your in trouble)
Can you picture her getting laid and having a good time doing it,without you?
(ride em cowboy)
Could you be there and TALK ABOUT HER DAY?
(its not always good times, some guys can be assholes, aggressive,demeaning..etc...or theres the other side, could you listen to how she took it up the ass and loved it?)
Can you deal with her out earning you by a large margin?
(even if you earn a glarge sum of cash working, she will more than likely earn in a hour what you make in a day)
Theres also running into clients when you are out with her!
getting the idea.
let me ask you a few questions.
When it comes to sex do you think your "the man"?
(every guy brings something different to the table,size, shape,fantasy, desire)
How confident are you with yourself ,body image, cock size?
(if you have doubts about yourself confidence your in trouble)
Can you picture her getting laid and having a good time doing it,without you?
(ride em cowboy)
Could you be there and TALK ABOUT HER DAY?
(its not always good times, some guys can be assholes, aggressive,demeaning..etc...or theres the other side, could you listen to how she took it up the ass and loved it?)
Can you deal with her out earning you by a large margin?
(even if you earn a glarge sum of cash working, she will more than likely earn in a hour what you make in a day)
Theres also running into clients when you are out with her!
getting the idea.
thanks for all the replies. i just wanted to see who was out there in a similar situation. we are open with each other and we do set up date nites and talk about work and the bad dates etc...... i am comfortable with my self image and she is a sweet girl. i;m ok with her making more money. i do however prevent her from showering me with a lot of gifts cause she does have to work hard for the money. it just helps to have some feed back. thank you all for letting me know what ur opinion/situation is.
He says his wife and girlfriend are both SP's. He displays a contempt for women and despite his projection of self awareness and confidence all his questions only prove how conflicted and bitter he is. just my opinion.
I think dating an SP would be hard. I couldn't do it simply for the fact I'm too selfish.
its okay HB40.....they will always tell you they love you as long as you keep paying them..lol...i guess its a good thing your opinion doesnt matter,sweetheart!
Just a observation...you opted to reply to a post you have know experience with or about only to slag me.....lmao..i love you to.xoxoxox
I have experience and know all about the difficulties having a relationship with an SP. The difference is my experiences have been rewarding and left me with a respect and affection for women.
But as I said I am selfish. What defines my character is I'm an instinctive protector and provider. I like to fuck women but I need to have one woman I can care for and claim as my own. I don't want anyone giving her what I am responsible for. Now obviously that is hypocritical and sexist but it is just the way it has to be with me.
and you're fun to slag....love you too
You're screwed. If you are on this board then your head is messed up in this/her business.
The reality is that nobody knows for certainly what your SO is feeling. Is her work 100% acting? 99% acting? If, 99% then what about that 1%? Is that cheating? Does she have one client where the sex is better than with you? Does she see aspects in various clients that she wished you had?
Because you will never know than you will never be able to settle this in your mind. If you have an open relationship where you are okay that she fucks other men for work and pleasure than that may be the only situation that this could work.
Generally, the seeds to relationship failure are there.
dating SP's
I have dated SP's since my teen years and just passed the half century mark. It is straight chicks I have a hard time dating. My now grown daughter's mother was an SP, my best friend is\was an SP and I have many SP's that I consider friends young and old. And yes I still pay many SP's for their services, well because I like woman and variety. However, when dating an SP I am a one woman man for fear of losing my nuts.
I find it almost natural to date an SP. They are almost all I have ever dated in my life, and no I have never lived of an SP's labours; I have always had a decent job myself. I also like dating SP's because they are sexually experienced and adventurous. When you try something different in the bedroom they don't stop you and say "what the hell was that", they say, "that was fun and let's do that again"
I have found over the years that because of my experience with the business it gives her someone to talk to about the biz, which in many cases has proven to be therapeutic. I find SP's make the best girl friends. If you show love, respect and understanding, then you would be hard pressed to find a woman that can take care of her man any better.
As far as worrying about what she does, who she does it with and how many times, why bother. Give her a hug at the end of the day, draw her a bath and show her that someone cares for her as the person she is and not the person she pretends to be for work. JMHO
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I have dated SP's since my teen years and just passed the half century mark. It is straight chicks I have a hard time dating. My now grown daughter's mother was an SP, my best friend is\was an SP and I have many SP's that I consider friends young and old. And yes I still pay many SP's for their services, well because I like woman and variety. However, when dating an SP I am a one woman man for fear of losing my nuts.
I find it almost natural to date an SP. They are almost all I have ever dated in my life, and no I have never lived of an SP's labours; I have always had a decent job myself. I also like dating SP's because they are sexually experienced and adventurous. When you try something different in the bedroom they don't stop you and say "what the hell was that", they say, "that was fun and let's do that again"
I have found over the years that because of my experience with the business it gives her someone to talk to about the biz, which in many cases has proven to be therapeutic. I find SP's make the best girl friends. If you show love, respect and understanding, then you would be hard pressed to find a woman that can take care of her man any better.
As far as worrying about what she does, who she does it with and how many times, why bother. Give her a hug at the end of the day, draw her a bath and show her that someone cares for her as the person she is and not the person she pretends to be for work. JMHO
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This is very great advice.I have dated SP's since my teen years and just passed the half century mark. It is straight chicks I have a hard time dating. My now grown daughter's mother was an SP, my best friend is\was an SP and I have many SP's that I consider friends young and old. And yes I still pay many SP's for their services, well because I like woman and variety. However, when dating an SP I am a one woman man for fear of losing my nuts.
I find it almost natural to date an SP. They are almost all I have ever dated in my life, and no I have never lived of an SP's labours; I have always had a decent job myself. I also like dating SP's because they are sexually experienced and adventurous. When you try something different in the bedroom they don't stop you and say "what the hell was that", they say, "that was fun and let's do that again"
I have found over the years that because of my experience with the business it gives her someone to talk to about the biz, which in many cases has proven to be therapeutic. I find SP's make the best girl friends. If you show love, respect and understanding, then you would be hard pressed to find a woman that can take care of her man any better.
As far as worrying about what she does, who she does it with and how many times, why bother. Give her a hug at the end of the day, draw her a bath and show her that someone cares for her as the person she is and not the person she pretends to be for work. JMHO
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You said she started after you met her; why would she start now, what was she doing before? Or is she returning to work she used to do? I ask because it is an odd line of work to start up in out of the blue, especially when someone is in a new relationship. It isn't work that one just happens to find out about, or fill out an application.
For best results, you need to open your mind. Women are different from men -- they rarely equate the physical sex with love or emotion. Men feel neglected and unloved if they don't have sex; women feel neglected and unloved if you don't pick up after yourself, go for a walk or kiss them goodbye/hello.
Don't make the mistake of thinking that if she has an orgasm with one of her clients she is going to run off with him -- unless he wants to watch "Bridges of Madison County" with her on a Sunday afternoon, it ain't going to happen. She could not care less if he is younger, bigger or hotter than you -- she would prefer (like many other women in relationships) to have a bf who doesn't see sps. So right there, someone she meets as a client is not going to be considered better than you.
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But her coming home fucked out from doing a few other guys with a mouth full of cum isn't a slap in the face
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What a rude thing to say.But her coming home fucked out from doing a few other guys with a mouth full of cum isn't a slap in the face
I think if you are in a relationship with an sp, you have every right to expect her to practice safe sex, including no bbbj's, so there would not be any cum in the mouth.
Not at all. You think it is some kind of assault on your masculinity or whatever and I think it is just sex. You talk about an SP\Girl Friend\Wife\SO coming home all fucked out as if it is denying YOU of something. How dare she!!!! Does she not know my dick is waiting lmao.But her coming home fucked out from doing a few other guys with a mouth full of cum isn't a slap in the face
Like many hobbyists. you look at SP's as objects and I look at them as woman. Was it not you who said in the post asking if SP's had Orgasm's, "Don't know don't care. You pay escorts to go not cum! I only make an exception for squirters because its entertaining for ME!"?
I am no expert on Women, I would be very rich if I was, but in my humble opinion you need to look long and hard at this from the SP's perspective and not from your dick's. Woman look at things so differently than men and the first thing to learn is to an SP, when she is working, it is just Sex. But when she has committed herself to a relationship with someone who cares for her and vice versa, it is something way beyond just Sex
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