Any Legitimate Reason to Reveal Board Name to an SP?

[MissingOne]

Sometimes I make the first contact with an SP via PERB PM, so of course they know my PERB handle.

If the initial contact is not made via PERB, then I don't normally announce my PERB handle. If a lady who participates on PERB asks for my handle as a reference, I see no reason not to tell her what it is. If a lady who does not participate on PERB were to ask for my handle, I would most likely decline to tell her, and might even decide I don't want to see her after all.

 

[Joe King]

I posted about how much I enjoy bbfs some time back and really took a beating from some of the ladies, so I just keep my identity on the down low when i'm meeting someone new with a board connection.

 

[cherise]

This brings up an interesting conversation I had with another local SP yesterday...

It seems that last Saturday, we both had very long dates booked by (apparently) an extremely well known PERB member with an extensive posting history, 100+ SPs reviewed, yadda yadda. Neither of us had met the gent before, but both felt comfortable taking such a long (ADVANCE) booking for him, due to his history. I got messed up with ferries, and was slightly delayed but spoke to him in plenty of time to not leave him hanging and with lots of time to rebook. As it turned out I made it back to the mainland in time that I could have made the date only perhaps 30 minutes later than we'd originally agreed. I didn't hear anything from him further that day; he didn't respond to my PERB PMs (though he was showing as online), ERSlist chats, or texts. According to the other provider, he had her booked for an overnight on Saturday; no show, no call, no email, no cancellation...It got us to wondering if there were any other local women that had appointments booked with a supposed well-known PERBSTER from another province that pulled a no-show on you?

That in turn leads to the question; did someone use this guy's reputation to behave like a dink, or did this guy figure his reputation gave him the prestige to be able to behave like an ass and get away with it?

The world may never know....

missE ....it was him and noone else unless he was hacked, as he contacted both of us via PM here on perb! it leads me to wonder if his opinion DOES mean more than others . and did he really review that many ladies (or rather ,has he actually SEEN all the ladies hes reviewed)

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

missE ....it was him and noone else unless he was hacked, as he contacted both of us via PM here on perb! it leads me to wonder if his opinion DOES mean more than others . and did he really review that many ladies (or rather ,has he actually SEEN all the ladies hes reviewed)

I guess it does...but no one put one over on me TWICE...

 

[sevenofnine]

There are pro's and con's

The biggest con is I think, you post something and guess what a lady you would wish to see thinks your an idoit,
But maybe not, I mean I kind of think or enjoy the relationship so it saves me money and time if she thinks I am an idoit, because we most likely won't get along, so she just saved me.

But if you don't give a shit, then keep it to yourself, some ladies really need to get over themself. I mean they will judge you, on whether you spelled a word wrong or cap i's or have an opinion on gay marriage etc etc, all the time thinking their's is the only opinion that is correct or that matters. so the less said the better

Number two I think you post a lot you get a rep, and when you meet the lady, well sometimes its hard to live up to that rep.
or even ladies will ask to see you, want to see you because you post a lot write a lot of reviews etc ,so they are just using you,
and they can't live up to what you expect.

You can loose your rep quite easily if you get into it, and everyone is reading and judging you,
From a guy who knows,
but you know, even in your darkest hours or mine on these boards, sp's will reach out to you in friendship.

I would rather meet a women who is geniune and sincere and kind,
then someone who is just interested in a buck or two.

So I have put it all out there and always will,
but for some maybe not such a good idea.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I will say this and take it for what it is worth.

I honestly believe that on the whole, the reviews of clients that do not reveal their board handles to the providers are a whole lot more accurate and less biased than those that do.

I think you're right, and having recently been fooled by thinking that an extensive posting history and board membership meant impeccable behaviour (with regard to calling, rescheduling, or just plain showing up!) I'm definitely going to be asking some of my comrades-in-beds to give me intel on those esteemed members!

 

[badbadboy]

I will say this and take it for what it is worth.

I honestly believe that on the whole, the reviews of clients that do not reveal their board handles to the providers are a whole lot more accurate and less biased than those that do.

How does one quantify your theory?

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Purely subjective. That's why I say take it for what it's worth.

Ah. Qualitative analysis. My favourite!

(the YMMV methodology)

 

[uncleg]

Want to protect your handle from misuse...........post your picture on Perb and that way if somebody tries to use your "name" the ladies can check if it's really you when you arrive at their door.

 

[badbadboy]

I will say this and take it for what it is worth.

I honestly believe that on the whole, the reviews of clients that do not reveal their board handles to the providers are a whole lot more accurate and less biased than those that do.

How does one quantify your theory?

Purely subjective. That's why I say take it for what it's worth.

On one hand you are quite definite that people who post reviews but do not book with their forum ID's are more accurate than those who book with their ID's. Then you say it's purely subjective ie your impression or are there reviews you can point to that don't pass your sniff test?

What is one to think about your former RRC or my BBB or Badgerjohn's reviews? All dates were booked under those forum names, correct? Are you implying they are not now accurate representations of those dates?

I'm curious how they could not be accurate vs an anonymous person booking the same ladies?

 

[uncleg]

Like that would ever happen ound:

Really................have you checked ?

 

[badbadboy]

It's an interesting question. Cause or effect?

Maybe accurate was not a good choice of words. A better word would be positive. I suspect it is more likely that a lady will receive a more positive review from a client that books with their handle. This could be for a number of reasons one of which is that the experiences actually are in fact more positive.

Accuracy tends to become a factor when considering whether the experience is reproducible to the average reader of the review.

Does booking with a known reviewers handle increase the likelihood of a good experience and decrease that of the provider having an off day? It's hard to say but my suspicion is yes. I think that when the provider sees our posting style they may well feel more comfortable as if they already know us somewhat. I also think that it is human nature to try to be at your best on days one is likely to be critiqued.

I can only speak directly for myself but I tend to stick with well reviewed ladies that I have done enough research on to hopefully ensure compatibility. Thanks to resources like perb and reviewers such as Badger and yourself my encounters have been almost exclusively positive. As such I stand behind all of my reviews as I am sure you do your own, and rightly so. If I see a glowing review from BBB that goes a long way to helping me make my decision on seeing a lady.

When I look at the gentlemen that take more of the toftt type risks I believe that as a group they are less likely to book with a handle.

When we go into an encounter with our handle known, we are also putting our reputation on the line and are likely more self aware of how we conduct ourselves which in itself could lead to a more positive outcome.

Again, speaking only for myself, if I were to have a just ok or lackluster experience, unless there was a deception or obvious poor treatment by the SP I am likely to chalk it up to bad chemistry or personal preference and omit the review. I am reluctant to potentially harm a good providers business and reputation on my failure to connect with them. I am more likely to err on the side of putting out no information over possibly inaccurate info. Thats just me and I cannot speak to whether you and Badger are of like minds on this practice.

I do know that one thing that is extremely difficult to do is write a negative review when the provider knows exactly who you are. Especially if she was doing her best but it simply did not meet expectations.

In that respect, we are quite similar. I don't go negative since there could be a whole list of things that just didn't work between myself and the SP. If of course there was a gorilla in the room I was unaware of after my research, yes, I would feel compelled to advise the pooning public on Perb. If it was a lack of connection, YMMV Blah sort of date or if I knew I personally didn't bring my "A" game then of course I would just move on.

FWIW I have had some absolutely stellar dates with a number of the Ladies in Red here. I have usually repeated, sometimes many times and every once in a while the "too much shit in MY head" gets in the way of BBB having great time happens.

I just don't go negative in a review. It suits no ones purpose and at the end of the day it would sound like BBB has some issues. Luckily by taking a positive view has served me well so far and mostly positive experiences. I mentioned in my blog that I figure one week in seven my experience is negative but mostly all are quite positive. Maybe I should not poon in that week and go hit a golf ball. Wait a sec, I am not much good at that either ound:

Whatever, I think we are on the same page Chest.

 

[kauffman]

As mentioned, I used to use my handle then decided to stop. I actually wrote a blog post not too long ago addressing the rationale behind the decision. I've pasted it below...

There are some downsides to being perceived as a reviewer. As usual, I had to learn the hard way so I might as well share some of my experiences.

There came a point that while the experiences were still fun, the baggage of being a known perb 'reviewer' was not.

I had to have a good hard look at why I was doing it. In the beginning it was purely for the experiences. But was it still? I honestly would be lying if I said that my own ego was not starting to creep into the picture just a little.

Here's what I had to ask myself..

(1) Are you reviewing the SP or yourself?
It really is a fine line between bragging and reviewing. When a restaurant reviewer posts a review, I doubt there is an expectation of online accolades for simply having chosen and eaten a satisfying meal. You know what I mean, the on line 'high five's , 'way to goes' and 'you're the mans' Its somewhat engrained into the male psyche to treat sex like a conquest. It's a slippery slope for reviewers.

(2) Is it effecting the session?
With certain ladies I was sensing a nervousness or reluctance while with others an almost unnatural enthusiasm and eagerness. I want the experience to be based on our organic connection rather than an impending online judgement or perceived advertisement.

(3) Is it causing drama?
Some of the ladies are competitive. Like any other walk of life there are rivalries and at times hard feelings. The higher profile the reviewer, the more likely you are to fuel these rivalries. At several points I felt I was being treated like a prize in various 'SP wars'. Not even based on who I actually am, but rather the perception of my online profile.

(4) Is it effecting your life?
Like it or not, reviewing raises one's online profile, especially if one books with their handle. The higher the profile the more likely others will seek your personal information. I don't know why this 'nosy perb neighbour' syndrome exists, but it does.

This brings me to an important point.
***perb is NOT real life***

It's supposed to be fun right? If its not, it's time to take a good hard look at why you're doing it.

I stopped reviewing, then I stopped posting, and finally I had my whole profile deleted. I took a small break and reevaluated.

Most of my reviews are now gone. I'll still post one occasionally but it is certainly not automatic anymore. If possible with new ladies I try to book without my perb handle. I think the sessions are better this way and I know that I am happier.

-Reed

Like many new things, when something is novel there is often an overabundance of exuberance when the gates open. I suppose I should just speak for myself here rather than to generalize and presume that I can speak for others..... I tend to jump into new experiences with both feet and become almost ...well not almost... obsessively involved until that fire burns out... Then what often happens is I step back I look at what I just did and feel a bit embarrassed, as I got carried away... as usual. Hopefully after observing myself from a bit of a distance I am able to learn something about myself. That is what i find useful about these forums online and any other interaction or experience I have in the world. Although I allow myself to become overly involved in many things for awhile....I do so because I am enthusiastic (and a bit OCD)... But in the end... a theme raised by Mr Chest, what we write is more revealing of ourselves. ANd as somebody more eloquent than me once said "It is the Observer, and not Life, that Art Imitates"

 

[kauffman]

I wonder if a persons online persona may be a reflection of how they might behave after a drink or two. As opposed to going for brownie points I will generally post what I'm thinking knowing that it may not be popular, while trying to not offend anyone. But realistically I do have internal struggles with this hobby, between hormone needs and trying to do whats perceived as morally right.
Id prefer to see someone thats on the same page as me so I use my board name when booking and if that helps a girl decide than thats best for both of us.

I just wanted to wish everybody a SUPER GOOD WEEK !!!!! That's all...

 

[Cock Throppled]

I think, judging from some of the response it's easy to see some believe using their board name might score some brownie points.

I still think, unless an SP asks for the name as a reference it opens things to abuse.

It also brings up the issue I mentioned of people using reviewer names to buy credibility. I probably only have one fake cock throppled because I rarely review any more, but how many fake badbadboys, badges and hatricks are running around claiming they can do wonders for a girl's business if they just, wink wink, nudge nudge...

I'll bet it happens more than we think.

 

[badbadboy]

I think, judging from some of the response it's easy to see some believe using their board name might score some brownie points.

I still think, unless an SP asks for the name as a reference it opens things to abuse.

It also brings up the issue I mentioned of people using reviewer names to buy credibility. I probably only have one fake cock throppled because I rarely review any more, but how many fake badbadboys, badges and hatricks are running around claiming they can do wonders for a girl's business if they just, wink wink, nudge nudge...

I'll bet it happens more than we think.

I follow up after the initial email by sending a PM through Perb so they know the BBB they are dealing with is actually me. It's pretty straight forward.

 

[BORKO]

I follow up after the initial email by sending a PM through Perb so they know the BBB they are dealing with is actually me. It's pretty straight forward.

I think he might be referring to people don't send a PM and just give a board name. But I'd think if an escort is using it for reference purposes she would request a PM to confirm the identity.

I'd think identity thefting someones fake internet name is generally a rare occurrence though..