Any Legitimate Reason to Reveal Board Name to an SP?

[Cock Throppled]

I can't think of any legitimate reason a pooner would reveal his board name to an SP.

In the past, and still today we seem to get guys trying to backmail girls into giving certain services or more services by threatening bad reviews. So, I assume there is also an attempt by the White Knights or guys who have built a board rep with using their board name as an incentive or introduction.

I can see where it might give a guy some credibility, but also see it more likely open to abuse via subtly introducing the , "how will I be portrayed unless I do more".

The only time I ever revealed my board name to an SP was when a provider told me a guy threatened her with a bad review and told her he was "Cock Throppled on PERB". It was most definitely not me.

 

[badbadboy]

I usually book with my forum name and more times than not it is a good thing.

One recent date the SP said "I always read your posts and enjoy them". That made me feel pretty good and I think the date only got better from that point on

It's a double edged sword though; I have been turned down once by an advertiser here with her saying "I don't think we would be compatible so thanks for asking anyways". I actually really liked the honesty since if she had accepted me and it was a lousy time then I would have felt crappy for the WOM.

A lot of SP's request the forum handle for the reasons Chest outlined above which saves them having to get references from another SP or going through preferred411 etc.

 

[shyboy123]

I have had a few girls connect the dots and email me after my review, and I have booked a few times by PM. I generally prefer not to offer too much information, nor do I ask much. I can understand if she wants to verify or screen.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I have had a few girls connect the dots and email me after my review, and I have booked a few times by PM. I generally prefer not to offer too much information, nor do I ask much. I can understand if she wants to verify or screen.

I enjoy connecting dots! I have had experiences where people have talked to me first through PM, and so I have gotten to know their handles. With others, I have found their handles out afterwards when the reviews were posted and ended up working backwards to put the pieces together. 90% of the time it's been a good thing. If you don't want to tell me your perb handle for an incall I'm happy to be blissfully ignorant.

 

[cherise]

well ,like ms E ,i rather enjoy the game of trying to figure it out

however as of late i am leary of seeing any regulars that i dont know the handle of due to the fact that there is one who claims to be a regular who also frequents an sp i know for a fact is high risk. this scares me that i have asked him not to visit me anymore but have no way of knowing if he is honoring my request

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

As mentioned, I used to use my handle then decided to stop. I actually wrote a blog post not too long ago addressing the rationale behind the decision. I've pasted it below...

There are some downsides to being perceived as a reviewer. As usual, I had to learn the hard way so I might as well share some of my experiences.

There came a point that while the experiences were still fun, the baggage of being a known perb 'reviewer' was not.

I had to have a good hard look at why I was doing it. In the beginning it was purely for the experiences. But was it still? I honestly would be lying if I said that my own ego was not starting to creep into the picture just a little.

Here's what I had to ask myself..

(1) Are you reviewing the SP or yourself?
It really is a fine line between bragging and reviewing. When a restaurant reviewer posts a review, I doubt there is an expectation of online accolades for simply having chosen and eaten a satisfying meal. You know what I mean, the on line 'high five's , 'way to goes' and 'you're the mans' Its somewhat engrained into the male psyche to treat sex like a conquest. It's a slippery slope for reviewers.

(2) Is it effecting the session?
With certain ladies I was sensing a nervousness or reluctance while with others an almost unnatural enthusiasm and eagerness. I want the experience to be based on our organic connection rather than an impending online judgement or perceived advertisement.

(3) Is it causing drama?
Some of the ladies are competitive. Like any other walk of life there are rivalries and at times hard feelings. The higher profile the reviewer, the more likely you are to fuel these rivalries. At several points I felt I was being treated like a prize in various 'SP wars'. Not even based on who I actually am, but rather the perception of my online profile.

(4) Is it affecting your life? (Sorry...obsessive about fixing this error. No disrespect to the intent of the statement.
Like it or not, reviewing raises one's online profile, especially if one books with their handle. The higher the profile the more likely others will seek your personal information. I don't know why this 'nosy perb neighbour' syndrome exists, but it does.

This brings me to an important point.
***perb is NOT real life***

It's supposed to be fun right? If its not, it's time to take a good hard look at why you're doing it.

I stopped reviewing, then I stopped posting, and finally I had my whole profile deleted. I took a small break and reevaluated.

Most of my reviews are now gone. I'll still post one occasionally but it is certainly not automatic anymore. If possible with new ladies I try to book without my perb handle. I think the sessions are better this way and I know that I am happier.

-Reed

This is a great perspective from a very experienced board member! The only time I've ever specifically requested a member give me his perb handle was for Nybeh, because he was my first EVER hotel outcall. He very kindly provided all of the info I asked for, including his name, number, etc., because he understood that I was asking as a way to protect my own safety. I don't take outcalls from 100% unknown quantities. I have no more interest in finding out anyone's real name than I have in anyone finding out my real name! Now, if you choose to provide me with either, I will respect your confidentiality with the same understanding. I am content to let gentlemen continue reviewing me if they wish to after they have seen me, but many of my more frequent visitors are just as happy to keep me as their naughty little secret, and that's OK!

 

[BORKO]

if everything is fine with the session, and the relationship with the lady is good, there's no harm in it and it can make references irrelevant, if she likes your posting history I suppose.

However, I think revealing it causes far more harm than good in reality. clients have been refused service because the lady doesn't like the guy's online persona or writing style. Some ladies consider a customer "property" and get pissed off if a guy reviews another SP, especially on they have a history or conflict with. Others will retaliate for bad reviews and even blacklist handles. Others will take issue even with a positive review and want details changed to make them look favorable or mentions of specific services removed. If the guy doesn't comply, he's refused service or worse. Revealing your handle is fairly stupid in my experience and I will nearly always say "what review boards?" when and if the topic comes up in a session.

As mentioned, I used to use my handle then decided to stop. I actually wrote a blog post not too long ago addressing the rationale behind the decision. I've pasted it below...

There are some downsides to being perceived as a reviewer. As usual, I had to learn the hard way so I might as well share some of my experiences.

There came a point that while the experiences were still fun, the baggage of being a known perb 'reviewer' was not.

I had to have a good hard look at why I was doing it. In the beginning it was purely for the experiences. But was it still? I honestly would be lying if I said that my own ego was not starting to creep into the picture just a little.

Here's what I had to ask myself..

(1) Are you reviewing the SP or yourself?
It really is a fine line between bragging and reviewing. When a restaurant reviewer posts a review, I doubt there is an expectation of online accolades for simply having chosen and eaten a satisfying meal. You know what I mean, the on line 'high five's , 'way to goes' and 'you're the mans' Its somewhat engrained into the male psyche to treat sex like a conquest. It's a slippery slope for reviewers.

(2) Is it effecting the session?
With certain ladies I was sensing a nervousness or reluctance while with others an almost unnatural enthusiasm and eagerness. I want the experience to be based on our organic connection rather than an impending online judgement or perceived advertisement.

(3) Is it causing drama?
Some of the ladies are competitive. Like any other walk of life there are rivalries and at times hard feelings. The higher profile the reviewer, the more likely you are to fuel these rivalries. At several points I felt I was being treated like a prize in various 'SP wars'. Not even based on who I actually am, but rather the perception of my online profile.

(4) Is it effecting your life?
Like it or not, reviewing raises one's online profile, especially if one books with their handle. The higher the profile the more likely others will seek your personal information. I don't know why this 'nosy perb neighbour' syndrome exists, but it does.

This brings me to an important point.
***perb is NOT real life***

It's supposed to be fun right? If its not, it's time to take a good hard look at why you're doing it.

I stopped reviewing, then I stopped posting, and finally I had my whole profile deleted. I took a small break and reevaluated.

Most of my reviews are now gone. I'll still post one occasionally but it is certainly not automatic anymore. If possible with new ladies I try to book without my perb handle. I think the sessions are better this way and I know that I am happier.

-Reed

I think if escorts are getting catty and persnicketty about your internet name and involving you as a trophy in a escort propaganda war, then that's a pretty strong warning sign that the escorts doing this are crazy pants and indicators that you shouldn't be seeing those ladies at all. Especially say if you don't give your internet identity out and she goes internet detective, tracks you down and messages you and makes demands and stuff. Pretty hypocritical for an escort to do that since they allegedly want to maintain a private secret identity too.

I would also agree that I find the thought of giving out an internet name before meeting an escort for the first time a little off putting because of the implied "fuck me better, because I might talk about our sexy times and how well kept your vagina hairs are on the internet" like others have mentioned.

Finally, I'd say seeing escorts isn't real life either, it's all pretend, being internet famous (on an escort review board) and being famous in escort circles isn't what anyone should want...

 

[badbadboy]

If this hobby causes you stress because of using your forum name then maybe its time to get a new hobby or Run Away from The Drama. One sniff of Drama or your perception that you have become a trophy for a few select SP's is not a good thing when this is supposed to be your personal fun activity, right?

It would cause me to change up my batting rotation with some new SP's. :nod:

Sometimes change is good. A fresh face, new perspective and meeting new people is always a good thing FWIW.

If after a while you want to return to the former batting rotation I am sure you can pick up where you left off.

 

[BORKO]

20/20 hindsight my friend.

On the positive side, I've learned that there are some really quality ladies that like to avoid both drama and politics.

Feel free to PM me that list, the rotation can never be too big as bbb says...

 

[badbadboy]

Feel free to PM me that list, the rotation can never be too big as bbb says...

No offence BORKO but PM'ing "The List" in itself adds to the drama. Just my humble opinion.

 

[BORKO]

No offence BORKO but PM'ing "The List" in itself adds to the drama. Just my humble opinion.

Well having this whole chat probably creates drama too, I'd hope that Chest.Rockwell didn't cause himself too much drama from mentioning such a List, since the escorts he doesn't see anymore might think they are implied to be the drama queens (and more likely will if they really are drama queens).

This whole thread does make it sound like sex for money is way more drama filled than it should be...

 

[CLUB78]

I can't think of any legitimate reason a pooner would reveal his board name to an SP.

In the past, and still today we seem to get guys trying to backmail girls into giving certain services or more services by threatening bad reviews. So, I assume there is also an attempt by the White Knights or guys who have built a board rep with using their board name as an incentive or introduction.

I can see where it might give a guy some credibility, but also see it more likely open to abuse via subtly introducing the , "how will I be portrayed unless I do more".

The only time I ever revealed my board name to an SP was when a provider told me a guy threatened her with a bad review and told her he was "Cock Throppled on PERB". It was most definitely not me.

How about because I want to know? It lets me analyze your character, and plus, who doesn't like that whole, "you look/act (or don't) look/act exactly how I thought you would " paradigm shift? Why spoil a person's fun?

 

[toadsub]

Ones board identity sometimes leads others into too much SP curiosity. This forum is really, I feel, from when I look in on this, that much privacy is exchanged between SP's.

 

[UhOh]

How about because I want to know? It lets me analyze your character, and plus, who doesn't like that whole, "you look/act (or don't) look/act exactly how I thought you would " paradigm shift? Why spoil a person's fun?

I wonder if a persons online persona may be a reflection of how they might behave after a drink or two. As opposed to going for brownie points I will generally post what I'm thinking knowing that it may not be popular, while trying to not offend anyone. But realistically I do have internal struggles with this hobby, between hormone needs and trying to do whats perceived as morally right.
Id prefer to see someone thats on the same page as me so I use my board name when booking and if that helps a girl decide than thats best for both of us.

 

[here4fun]

If asked I will give it out, sometime it is the only 'reference' that we have. I do not believe that it has changed a session, but then I may not be that observant.

 

[BORKO]

Why do you feel the need to protect your board identity?

I seem to remember someone dumping their identity, having everything deleted then coming back a month or 2 later and NOT owning up to it. Only to be banned many times for multiple handles and violations.

Why wouldn't you want the ladies to know who you are? That's why we have board names, why we are here and why we review isn't it. It's for the ladies protection.

I send the ladies I'm going to or wanting to see a PM on here. So they know it's me. More often than not I'll include my contact. Email in that PM

Biggest thing I was opposed to was the proliferation of "similar" names on here. Where long time posters were having guys join using these similar names to apparently cause some problems.

I had it happen. With a guy named. Badgersean.

Shaggy, gonzo and many others have had problems too.

Just set up security procedures for yourself to protect yourself. Use PM's, email, text and phone to back one another up. Make sure you have your exact profile name on OTHER sites to protect yourself.

I don't think the main purpose of review boards is so that ladies know who you are, I would think these boards are here primarily for advertising and reviews.

I don't think the board identity is that important, it's just anonymous internet people and that's how it should stay when you're talking about pay for sex identities. Like Chest.Rockwell says, it's not real life, your real identity should be way more important than some internet name you use. If it's for screening methods, I'd much prefer to use a reference where it only goes back to link you to 1 sex worker, rather than using an internet name that can link you to a bunch of sex workers.

I'm also not entirely sure how I would bring up an internet identity when contacting an escort, especially if said identity is unasked for, does the e-mail go something like:

"Hi I am [PERB IDENTITY], you may have seen my perb posts... congratulations you have been selected to be review #69 for me!"

Or something? It kind of sounds like distasteful thing you hear celebrities do to get into clubs when they name drop themselves. That's just my opinion though, how do you guys that bring up your internet personas bring them up out of curiosity?

I wonder if a persons online persona may be a reflection of how they might behave after a drink or two. As opposed to going for brownie points I will generally post what I'm thinking knowing that it may not be popular, while trying to not offend anyone. But realistically I do have internal struggles with this hobby, between hormone needs and trying to do whats perceived as morally right.
Id prefer to see someone thats on the same page as me so I use my board name when booking and if that helps a girl decide than thats best for both of us.

Hm... I dunno how much about me can be gleaned from my 1,358 posts about boobs, Star Wars, Alison Brie's boobs and lego...

 

[UhOh]

Hm... I dunno how much about me can be gleaned from my 1,358 posts about boobs, Star Wars, Alison Brie's boobs and lego...

You may have missed it but I did say "IF that helps". Maybe its a big if but as already mentioned here girls said they were paying attention. Perhaps they have some sort of women intuition

 

[BORKO]

You may have missed it but I did say "IF that helps". Maybe its a big if but as already mentioned here girls said they were paying attention. Perhaps they have some sort of women intuition

Hm... Maybe you're onto something, I think I'd be weirded out by someone that went through all my perb posts, or at least would want a screen name for that purpose and I probably wouldn't want to see that person. Seems like a good way to self screen.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Board Names And Name Games?

This brings up an interesting conversation I had with another local SP yesterday...

It seems that last Saturday, we both had very long dates booked by (apparently) an extremely well known PERB member with an extensive posting history, 100+ SPs reviewed, yadda yadda. Neither of us had met the gent before, but both felt comfortable taking such a long (ADVANCE) booking for him, due to his history. I got messed up with ferries, and was slightly delayed but spoke to him in plenty of time to not leave him hanging and with lots of time to rebook. As it turned out I made it back to the mainland in time that I could have made the date only perhaps 30 minutes later than we'd originally agreed. I didn't hear anything from him further that day; he didn't respond to my PERB PMs (though he was showing as online), ERSlist chats, or texts. According to the other provider, he had her booked for an overnight on Saturday; no show, no call, no email, no cancellation...It got us to wondering if there were any other local women that had appointments booked with a supposed well-known PERBSTER from another province that pulled a no-show on you?

That in turn leads to the question; did someone use this guy's reputation to behave like a dink, or did this guy figure his reputation gave him the prestige to be able to behave like an ass and get away with it?

The world may never know....

 

[alwayshavingfun]

some sp's like to know ahead of time because they like to do their own homework on the man they are going to be intimate with. Just like the guys do homework on SP's before they make contact.