The OZ stuff is rape, not sex of any kind! It's a power thing. Two guys can have as romanitic a relationship as two women or a man and a woman...
oberon
oberon
Anal sex?
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Great Headline
The Supreme Court Tries Sodomy
I wonder if they enjoyed it.
http://slate.msn.com/id/2080746/
The Supreme Court Tries Sodomy
I wonder if they enjoyed it.
http://slate.msn.com/id/2080746/
Oh now that's cruel to play on someone's fears and phobias like that, I like it...adventurer said:
oberon
Re: Time for some Education
Have tried it several times since with the same on and off, hit and miss experiences. It is all about technique, technique, technique.
You are so right about this warbler. The first few times I tried anal sex it was horrible. I though I just did not like it. Now I realize that it was how it was being done. A couple of years back I was with a friend who knew what he was doing. Before I knew it (not sure how to say this and still sound like a Lady...lol) but he was in my back door pounding away with me having one of the best orgasms of my life!warbler said:
Have tried it several times since with the same on and off, hit and miss experiences. It is all about technique, technique, technique.
Thanks SPinVIC
SPinVIC, thank you for your post relating your experience. It's objective, credible and, most importantly, it's from a woman's point of view. Hope you guys have your antennae up.
I would encourage other SPs on this board to offer their thoughts on this sensitive subject too. It only serves to help the menfolk.
One other point that I'd like to make is this. It is a myth that women, SPs or otherwise can only enjoy anal sex as long as the guy's dick is small or average - this is totally false. To the guys who get that line from women all the time, and buy it, I say, "time to start concentrating more on your communication, foreplay, and technique."
Cheers,
W
SPinVIC, thank you for your post relating your experience. It's objective, credible and, most importantly, it's from a woman's point of view. Hope you guys have your antennae up.
I would encourage other SPs on this board to offer their thoughts on this sensitive subject too. It only serves to help the menfolk.
One other point that I'd like to make is this. It is a myth that women, SPs or otherwise can only enjoy anal sex as long as the guy's dick is small or average - this is totally false. To the guys who get that line from women all the time, and buy it, I say, "time to start concentrating more on your communication, foreplay, and technique."
Cheers,
W
Getting "pegged"
Visaman,
Good point. Hmmmmmm......I'd have to say by the continous references (i.e., male receiving it) that you should just give in and go for it . Either the real thing or a strap-on. It's time to take one for the team, as it were.
Make sure he/she uses lots of lube and that they give you something to bite down on.
W
Visaman,
Good point. Hmmmmmm......I'd have to say by the continous references (i.e., male receiving it) that you should just give in and go for it . Either the real thing or a strap-on. It's time to take one for the team, as it were.
Make sure he/she uses lots of lube and that they give you something to bite down on.
W
No Dildo for me
Ok, lets get this strait, what i meant by exploring anal sex when "receiving it" is by the woman rimming me or stimulating my prostate with her fingers via anal insertion. I'm not into the dildo up my ass. Although some of you may like that, and to each their own.
Ok, lets get this strait, what i meant by exploring anal sex when "receiving it" is by the woman rimming me or stimulating my prostate with her fingers via anal insertion. I'm not into the dildo up my ass. Although some of you may like that, and to each their own.
Good web-site Warbler. I had not found that one yet.
Like you, it's my experience that it's all about technique and knowledge. So then here's my ass-primer for ya.
1) The physical reality. Learn all you can about the anatomy. It will pay off big time. Top things to know are this:
- There are two ring shaped muscles back there. As I call them, the outer ring and the inner ring. Every time you wipe, you feel the outer ring. It's easily controlled like any other muscle and opens freely with slight pressure (as we all know when wiping our asses). The inner ring however is much different. Normally under the control of the body you can learn to control it but if you exceed the comfort level of the person, the body will take over control again. This inner ring is the one that gives the tight feeling during anal sex.
- Direction of plumbing. This is the number one mistake by most new to anal, going at from the wrong direction. The bowel is pointed up towards the belly button from the ass. Going at an angle towards the spine, or even straight in can cause severe discomfort.
- Nerve endings. One of the highest concentrations anywhere in the body. Be gentle and get them all used to something going in versus going out. Remember, if they sense pain they body will take over and slam that inner ring tight. From that point on, it's just more pain for the receiver. Stop immediately and let the nerve endings settle down.
- Membrane thickness. It's surprisingly thin back there so be careful. This is why you hear about lube, lube, lube.
2) Trust. It's all about the trust. Ass sex is the one thing you can't fake. If the person does not trust you then that inner muscle is not going to open on it's own. Of course you can just force it in there, but then you are probably in jail already or should be there. Even those women who have learned to control their inner ring will tell you that at some point if they don't trust the person or if too much pain occurs, the body will just reclaim control.
3) Covered before but it's just so important. LUBE LUBE LUBE.
4) Especially when just starting out with ass play, you have to take your time. Start small and work your way up. Foreplay is paramount to relaxing the receiver and getting that inner ring to relax. After a while, the receiver can learn to just take it up the ass which can be a whole other world of fun and pleasure but that does take some time and trust. It will take some time before you can just bend the receiver over the couch and pound till the cows come home, but when you get there.....OH MAN it's amazing.
5) Monkey see, monkey do. Number one easiest way to get your partner to try it is if you also agree to try. From the male perspective, it's the number one over looked pleasure zone. No one says you have to go out and take some dude up the backside to prove your point. But let your partner play around there and I'm sure you will discover a whole new world of pleasure. Besides, the male G-spot (prostate gland) is accessed from back there. If you have not tried a BJ with stimulation of your prostate gland, then you will have to go this route to do so. According to many men (and women), G-spot orgasms are the most intense.
6) Timing. For many, good ass sex depends on when the last dump was taken. Often the receiver feels too full to relax and enjoy it. Some have a deep mental block about doing it if they have not had a crap before. This is just something you need to be aware of but can only be learned through trying.
7) The mood. Most women embark on an ass-venture because they are in the mood to be "dirty" or "nasty". Most men, well, anytime is good for them. Use this to your advantage. If you are thinking about trying anal for the first time, it's prob. not a good time to try and pound the brown-hole when the partner just wants to cuddle and have long slow intimate sex. Of course for some being flipped over right at this moment and taken up the ass sets off a whole new mood and can be quite enjoyable. Point here is, be aware of the mood and use it.
8) Communication. This is a good general thing to do anyway but is very important during ass play. Many of the points above rely on a high level of communication between the two partners.
Hope this helps. Have fun back there!!!!
Like you, it's my experience that it's all about technique and knowledge. So then here's my ass-primer for ya.
1) The physical reality. Learn all you can about the anatomy. It will pay off big time. Top things to know are this:
- There are two ring shaped muscles back there. As I call them, the outer ring and the inner ring. Every time you wipe, you feel the outer ring. It's easily controlled like any other muscle and opens freely with slight pressure (as we all know when wiping our asses). The inner ring however is much different. Normally under the control of the body you can learn to control it but if you exceed the comfort level of the person, the body will take over control again. This inner ring is the one that gives the tight feeling during anal sex.
- Direction of plumbing. This is the number one mistake by most new to anal, going at from the wrong direction. The bowel is pointed up towards the belly button from the ass. Going at an angle towards the spine, or even straight in can cause severe discomfort.
- Nerve endings. One of the highest concentrations anywhere in the body. Be gentle and get them all used to something going in versus going out. Remember, if they sense pain they body will take over and slam that inner ring tight. From that point on, it's just more pain for the receiver. Stop immediately and let the nerve endings settle down.
- Membrane thickness. It's surprisingly thin back there so be careful. This is why you hear about lube, lube, lube.
2) Trust. It's all about the trust. Ass sex is the one thing you can't fake. If the person does not trust you then that inner muscle is not going to open on it's own. Of course you can just force it in there, but then you are probably in jail already or should be there. Even those women who have learned to control their inner ring will tell you that at some point if they don't trust the person or if too much pain occurs, the body will just reclaim control.
3) Covered before but it's just so important. LUBE LUBE LUBE.
4) Especially when just starting out with ass play, you have to take your time. Start small and work your way up. Foreplay is paramount to relaxing the receiver and getting that inner ring to relax. After a while, the receiver can learn to just take it up the ass which can be a whole other world of fun and pleasure but that does take some time and trust. It will take some time before you can just bend the receiver over the couch and pound till the cows come home, but when you get there.....OH MAN it's amazing.
5) Monkey see, monkey do. Number one easiest way to get your partner to try it is if you also agree to try. From the male perspective, it's the number one over looked pleasure zone. No one says you have to go out and take some dude up the backside to prove your point. But let your partner play around there and I'm sure you will discover a whole new world of pleasure. Besides, the male G-spot (prostate gland) is accessed from back there. If you have not tried a BJ with stimulation of your prostate gland, then you will have to go this route to do so. According to many men (and women), G-spot orgasms are the most intense.
6) Timing. For many, good ass sex depends on when the last dump was taken. Often the receiver feels too full to relax and enjoy it. Some have a deep mental block about doing it if they have not had a crap before. This is just something you need to be aware of but can only be learned through trying.
7) The mood. Most women embark on an ass-venture because they are in the mood to be "dirty" or "nasty". Most men, well, anytime is good for them. Use this to your advantage. If you are thinking about trying anal for the first time, it's prob. not a good time to try and pound the brown-hole when the partner just wants to cuddle and have long slow intimate sex. Of course for some being flipped over right at this moment and taken up the ass sets off a whole new mood and can be quite enjoyable. Point here is, be aware of the mood and use it.
8) Communication. This is a good general thing to do anyway but is very important during ass play. Many of the points above rely on a high level of communication between the two partners.
Hope this helps. Have fun back there!!!!
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adventurer.....
How true! It is an acquired taste, that is for sure.
And I agree with your comments in the 2nd paragraph. Upon editing it for posting, I missed that. It was not as I had intended in my head (it's getting a bit late here). I by no way meant to be dogmatic about it or insensitive to peoples experiences. Each and every person enjoys their sexual being in their own way and with one's own limits. Thank you for pointing that out, and I stand corrected. In fact, I will edit it now.
How true! It is an acquired taste, that is for sure.
And I agree with your comments in the 2nd paragraph. Upon editing it for posting, I missed that. It was not as I had intended in my head (it's getting a bit late here). I by no way meant to be dogmatic about it or insensitive to peoples experiences. Each and every person enjoys their sexual being in their own way and with one's own limits. Thank you for pointing that out, and I stand corrected. In fact, I will edit it now.
In response JackFrost,
Hetrosexual, homosexual, bisexual...I personally dont like any of those labels. I am a sexual human being and I let myself enjoy what my body likes (as long as it does not hurt another person of course). Which is different each day and with each partner.
Just because a man enjoys some anal play does NOT make him gay. He is just a sexual being that knows what he enjoys. We all have our own erogeneous zones and we need to be respectful that everyone is different.
Hetrosexual, homosexual, bisexual...I personally dont like any of those labels. I am a sexual human being and I let myself enjoy what my body likes (as long as it does not hurt another person of course). Which is different each day and with each partner.
Just because a man enjoys some anal play does NOT make him gay. He is just a sexual being that knows what he enjoys. We all have our own erogeneous zones and we need to be respectful that everyone is different.
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Jack,
Its a difference of what feels good and who you are attracted to. Getting your prostrate stimulated (once you get past the anal sex thing) is an incredible sensation. And, although I have no problem being with a woman and using "toys", I have absolutely no attraction too, or any desire to be with another man. It's just not in my mental map. Sexuality has three basic components ( and lots of blurred lines) What you are physically(male or female), what you are mentally and what you are attracted too. Hence the old joke about the man who underwent a sex change only to discover he was a lesbian. So, before you start accusing some very straight male who enjoys getting his ring bit tickled of having gay tendencies, you may want to examine your own sexual insecurities.
Methinks, that one doth protest too much!
rickoshadows
Its a difference of what feels good and who you are attracted to. Getting your prostrate stimulated (once you get past the anal sex thing) is an incredible sensation. And, although I have no problem being with a woman and using "toys", I have absolutely no attraction too, or any desire to be with another man. It's just not in my mental map. Sexuality has three basic components ( and lots of blurred lines) What you are physically(male or female), what you are mentally and what you are attracted too. Hence the old joke about the man who underwent a sex change only to discover he was a lesbian. So, before you start accusing some very straight male who enjoys getting his ring bit tickled of having gay tendencies, you may want to examine your own sexual insecurities.
Methinks, that one doth protest too much!
rickoshadows
JackFrost:
I most certainly understand your question and it's an important one. Especially for men who might be interested in exploring their own bodies and their sexual being. However, just as masturbating does not mean you want to touch and stroke the cocks of a bunch of other men, neither does wanting your ass played with mean you are some how homosexual and want some guy to pound you from behind. The physical fact is it is an orifice and one of the forms of stimulation comes from insertion of an object.
As others have touched on, the majority of issues on this topic stem from sociological factors. I don't claim they are right or wrong, just that each person must make up their mind with in the bounds of their own experiences and social structure. If it's not something that's right for you, then bottom line is, it's not right for you.
And as girl97 touches on, even if your experiences and social structure put you in a position where it's ok to do something, if it does not feel good then plain and simple it does not feel good. Some people love to have their nipples played with, for me, it does nothing. So it's not something that I really ever spend allot of time pursuing. Touch the back of my neck however and you can spend hours there.
Girl97's experiences with the "holy grail" issue are not unique. Western society has placed anal sex in unique category. Pressure can start at a young age such that many girls first sexual experiences are no longer vaginal but now anal (according to some studies). I would agree to a point that the majority of pressure and desire do come from the men, thus supporting girl97's experience that it's a 'guy thing'. There are however many women out there who enjoy it and want it, even to the point they include anal in their own private masturbation sessions. It's just less likely that those women will talk about it thus increasing the appearance that only men talk about it or want it.
I most certainly understand your question and it's an important one. Especially for men who might be interested in exploring their own bodies and their sexual being. However, just as masturbating does not mean you want to touch and stroke the cocks of a bunch of other men, neither does wanting your ass played with mean you are some how homosexual and want some guy to pound you from behind. The physical fact is it is an orifice and one of the forms of stimulation comes from insertion of an object.
As others have touched on, the majority of issues on this topic stem from sociological factors. I don't claim they are right or wrong, just that each person must make up their mind with in the bounds of their own experiences and social structure. If it's not something that's right for you, then bottom line is, it's not right for you.
And as girl97 touches on, even if your experiences and social structure put you in a position where it's ok to do something, if it does not feel good then plain and simple it does not feel good. Some people love to have their nipples played with, for me, it does nothing. So it's not something that I really ever spend allot of time pursuing. Touch the back of my neck however and you can spend hours there.
Girl97's experiences with the "holy grail" issue are not unique. Western society has placed anal sex in unique category. Pressure can start at a young age such that many girls first sexual experiences are no longer vaginal but now anal (according to some studies). I would agree to a point that the majority of pressure and desire do come from the men, thus supporting girl97's experience that it's a 'guy thing'. There are however many women out there who enjoy it and want it, even to the point they include anal in their own private masturbation sessions. It's just less likely that those women will talk about it thus increasing the appearance that only men talk about it or want it.
LMAO, sorry but you did kind of hit the nail on the head at least for a lot of people. Me I like anal sex, feels good, BUT due to the reasons you mention, I rarely push it, most women are not really into it, many accept it but few crave it (at least that's my experience) and of course some hate it.girl97 said:
So since there are many many many things a man and a woman can do to eachother to cause sexual pleasure, I never sweat it about anal sex, sometimes it happens and it is great but i could say that about many things. That is the true glory of sex, so many things to try...
)oberon
Dolphin 35
my experiences with anal
I've had 10 steady gf's. 3 of them loved it on a steady basis. 1 loved it occassionally. The others tried it but didn't care for it. Of the 3 that loved it, 2 of them would suck me after we had anal bareback. Went out with those 2 girls for about 1.5 years each, and the girls did a lot of the oral after the anal. I must admit I love that, and makes it convenient to go into the pussy after too. Had one 1 incident where she ended up getting something brown in her mouth, and she just quickly spat it out. That 1 incident out of hundreds, I would say not too bad at all...
Had a few one night stands, some of them involved anal. One in particular with a girl who I went bareback anal with. It was mind blowing to find a girl who I just met at a party and fuck her ass. She was a swallower too. Great stuff.
When I was 20 (a long long time ago), I did it with an SP anal bareback. I didn't know what I was doing, but I was horny as hell and she was just really into sex. Well I went in there and then she bbbj'd me after. I think that incident really changed my view on things. But I'll never go bareback with an SP again! Luckily I never caught anything, but boy I was scared.
I agree with what someone else said earlier that more and more regular girls are trying anal. It's the coming-out-of-taboo thing of the early millenium, like blow jobs were coming-out-of-taboo in the 60's. I wouldn't stick with a girl who did just anal tho... I like the variety of anal, normal, and oral all in one session.
I've had 10 steady gf's. 3 of them loved it on a steady basis. 1 loved it occassionally. The others tried it but didn't care for it. Of the 3 that loved it, 2 of them would suck me after we had anal bareback. Went out with those 2 girls for about 1.5 years each, and the girls did a lot of the oral after the anal. I must admit I love that, and makes it convenient to go into the pussy after too. Had one 1 incident where she ended up getting something brown in her mouth, and she just quickly spat it out. That 1 incident out of hundreds, I would say not too bad at all...
Had a few one night stands, some of them involved anal. One in particular with a girl who I went bareback anal with. It was mind blowing to find a girl who I just met at a party and fuck her ass. She was a swallower too. Great stuff.
When I was 20 (a long long time ago), I did it with an SP anal bareback. I didn't know what I was doing, but I was horny as hell and she was just really into sex. Well I went in there and then she bbbj'd me after. I think that incident really changed my view on things. But I'll never go bareback with an SP again! Luckily I never caught anything, but boy I was scared.
I agree with what someone else said earlier that more and more regular girls are trying anal. It's the coming-out-of-taboo thing of the early millenium, like blow jobs were coming-out-of-taboo in the 60's. I wouldn't stick with a girl who did just anal tho... I like the variety of anal, normal, and oral all in one session.
ATM, not talking instant teller here
George W,
I've been fortunate in that I've had the backdoor welcome mat laid out for me many times, but I've never been the recipient of what is a very big thing in porn today and quite common too - ass to mouth.
Wow, that's love. Congrats.
W
George W,
I've been fortunate in that I've had the backdoor welcome mat laid out for me many times, but I've never been the recipient of what is a very big thing in porn today and quite common too - ass to mouth.
Wow, that's love. Congrats.
W
Hmmm..yes, a bidet - the perfect gift for the man who has everything.
I do love a woman with a lemon fresh ass, both for rimming and pounding. I had a Portugese girlfriend when I lived in Calgary and she used to like to sponge herself down there with a little watered down lemon juice.
My God, did she ever smell and taste good.
W
I do love a woman with a lemon fresh ass, both for rimming and pounding. I had a Portugese girlfriend when I lived in Calgary and she used to like to sponge herself down there with a little watered down lemon juice.
My God, did she ever smell and taste good.
W
