Anal Sex: Is it enjoyable for the girl?

[Damien Jones]

Last night this civilian girl I've been seeing on and off decided that it was time we tried anal sex. It was her first time, although I've tried and enjoyed it on occasion before.

The anticipation was cool, as was the teasing that lead up to it. Since it was her first time we decided that it would be better with her on top as she could then control how far and how fast etc. Going really really slow and gentle we made it in and she even tried riding reasonably fast. I had a GREAT orgasm, due in part to the novelty of doing her in the ass and due to the slow and gradual build. On top of that, we'd already had regular sex earlier.

She on the other hand, commented that while it was a neat experience from a relationship point of view (yikes, did not see that coming), it was not anything for her to go 'ga ga' over. The novelty of it made it horny for her (it made her pussy quite wet) but apparently it was neither pleasant nor unpleasant.

My previous encounters with anal sex have been with SP's, and they made it sound like it was enjoyable, I am wondering if any of the ladies can shed any light on pleasurable anal sex actually is.

Is it a case of acquired taste for the girl? Is it even remotely enjoyable or do you just do it because guys ask for it?

Any honest perspectives would be appreciated.

D

 

[ryick]

never Ever Start On Top For The Frist Time!!!

 

[pooncrawler]

well i'm no girl but anal sex or greek is like vaginal sex, it will be mostly painful or bothersome the first time, maybe even the first few times.
some girls get off on how pleasurable it is for the guy, and maybe combined with a clit massage it could be awesome... after a few more times.
or maybe i'm just bringing you thread back to life.

 

[stryker]

Every ladie is different Damien,some like it,some love it,and some ladies won't let you near their starfish.
I think ya had it right as far as your approch,for first timers,,most definitly ,slow and steady.

I'm had some lady friends who loved anal sex as much as anything and would have explosive orgasms while doing it,some warmed up to bum play,,,others,like I said,would not let you entertain that thought.You have to addmit,exploring is half the fun ,more so if they are open minded

 

[Big Trapper]

I've done it spoon style with any anal virgins I've been responsible for. They did the shoving and I just provided the 'stable platform' so to speak. That gave them lots of flexibility regarding positioning and timing and allowed me to work their vaginal area with my fingers. Lot's of lube is a must. Of course, eventually I couldn't stand it and started thrusting my way to the finish line.

Some liked it, some didn't, and one REALLY liked it!

Everybody's different.

 

[Damien Jones]

Thank you for the input

Thank you gentlemen and lady (via pm) for the input, it is much appreciated.

I think we'll give it some time and a few more attempts before deciding one way or the other. Perhaps we'll try spooning the next time. Indeed exploring WAS fun, even my friend seems to think so.

Thanks again for the input, I was having second thoughts about this as I really did not want to do something that she did not like but was doing it just for my sole benefit and not hers.

Damien

 

[Randy Whorewald]

one REALLY liked it!

Contact info???

 

[gravitas]

and lady

WTF....no chicks are going to post in public their (dis)like over taking it the wrong way?

 

[hugedman]

Contact info???

The Famous retired Tawny of Victoria....

 

[Axel_7]

WOW still cant believe non ladies will respond too a real honest question

 

[gravitas]

non ladies

WHAT THE FUCK is a "non lady"

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[DeaAphrodite]

* DISCLAIMER: For the record, greek is still not on the menu and won't be in the forseeable future. I am speaking from past experience here.


It really varies... sometimes it has been good (fantastic, even!), sometimes something to do for my partner, and sometimes downright bad (* see Disclaimer). Even for just one person, there is no definitive answer as to good or not.

From my experience, if my main love muscle (ie. "Brain") is engaged heavily before hand - reading smutty erotica is good for this - then my body is very much more open to anal exploration, and it can be intensely pleasurable. However, after orgasming this way, I am finished whether my partner is or not; continued stimulation quickly moves past "pleasure" and into "pain".

My advice to you is to try it again, at her suggestion and timing. Lots of playful anticipation before the event can help. And do try a different position. One she can relax into.

Have fun!

 

[Victoria Rose]

I've gone through phases with it...

There have been times when it was something I really enjoyed, especially with one friend who was well-hung (length & width). Took a bit of getting used to his size the first time, but then I couldn't get enough of him. He started being a jerk to me, so that was the end of that.

I've always preferred being on the bottom, face-down for it. In fact, rear-entry has always been my favourite sex position in general because of my thing for anal. And simulatneous clitoral stimulation along with it gives me explosive orgasms, often multiples.

I'm not keen on doing it with clients, or even at all lately. Trust issues—I had a bad involvement with someone last year, though it didn't involve anal sex (he'd never done it before and I couldn't talk him into trying it).

I still enjoy external stimulation with lube, and one time a client surprised me by giving me my first and only rim job. I never thought I'd like that because of concerns over bacteria, but I'd just showered, so I just laid there and went with it and oh my God, I thought he'd have to pry me off the ceiling!

I tell you, no finger and lube, no matter how warmed up, can compare to a hot wet tongue on those nerve endings! WOW!

If you and this lady ever feel bold enough to try something like that, get her really well cleansed down there (perhaps even try this while you're taking a shower together) and go for it, because that is hot! Mind you, it's not something you need or want to do for a long period of time, just 1-2 minutes were enough to reduce me to a quivering mess!

As already mentioned, lube, and lots of it, is always essential, as is lots of foreplay. And my first time wasn't good, either. But then, I was a teenager and we didn't even know about lube, so I'm sure you can imagine, it hurt, no matter how slow we went and it was a couple of years before I tried it again.

All I know is, for some reason, I always come back to it and I always fantasize about it. I don't know why, but there's just something about it that has always gotten me going. But ultimately, very few get invited through my back door.

 

[love...alex]

Just like DeaAphrodite, here's my disclaimer: *greek is not on the menu so please don't ask. thank you thank you thank you*

Past experience:
The guy I was with at the time fuckin' loved it, so I agreed to try one evening. It wasn't too bad, plus he was really slow and gentle, but it wasn't anything great. I guess it would have been neutral.
So whenever he was really, really nice to me I'd ask him if he wanted to try Greek again. (I'm an awesome girlfriend...)
It was always sort of eh, even if I used my vibe at the same time, but then I had it with him with another guy there... and BAM! I'm a convert. Maybe I just amn't a vibrator girl!

Alex

P.S. I tried D.P. just to be able to say I did. Was no fun, probably because one of the guys was pretty big (for me). I think if there were two guys with smallish johnnies () and I was SUPER-horny, I'd try it.
And for those who don't know the lingo, D.P. is double penetration. Don't even ASK if you can try that with me.

 

[poonersdelight]

And for those who don't know the lingo, D.P. is double penetration. Don't even ASK if you can try that with me.

but but but.... or should it be butt butt butt

 

[love...alex]

Lol, actually, I would say "bum bum bum..."

If I'm talking about it, I never say anal sex... it sounds so clinical! I always say bum sex LOL