I am a long time overnight fan, been doing it for 10 years on and off now, and learned a few things. Chemistry as the others have said is key. But chemistry can come from knowing the gal well, or having some long open and honest conversations about what is expected on both sides. An overnight at her place or yours is one thing, a longer term vacation or business trip arrangement is totally different. For the one nighter in your locale, you do want to know the sp some what, and plan something out. I have had friends over, cooked supper together, had a bit before and after supper, slept together and depending upon the morning assessment, done it again or just forgot about it. On a business trip, other things are at play. I have to get up and out the door to work early, and it takes a special gal to get up and do a duty that early, but has happened and been great. Otherwise, it is kind of a good bye morning kiss and see you after work arrangement. My ethic with this business trip arrangment has been pretty much the days are yours and the nights mine, and the friends have enjoyed a day to relax, read, do the pool etc. Supper has some times been fancy and othertimes more basic, depends on how we both felt. Sharing a bottle of wine in the room later has its attributes and setbacks. I usually know the gals well that I take along so there is chemistry and we both enjoy the trip. I hardly consider it an SP arrangment, it is more like taking a friend along who just needs some financial help later on. As far as re-imbursement goes, I have heard some pretty gross rates, and never paid them. Ever. It is just isn't in the cards to consider thousands. Many gals want the trip to get away for a few days, and if you consider what they may have made by staying home, and re-imburse that amount, they are satisfied. Destination is often important. Hauling some one off to Calgary in the winter is not the same flavour as taking them to Mexico for a week of poolside enjoyment. I recently took my latest friend to Asia for five days, pretty much just covered her lost wages and expenses. She works in an office job, not really and SP. I needed the company. So they whole thing was done for about the $2500 range for five nigts. Total costs. But she wanted the trip too. And we really had a great time dining out and eating and sight seeing.
Another view though, is a blind date. I have had a few adventurous nights where I had never met the gal, and we agreed to meet at the airport. But we spoke on the phone on each occassion for as much as two hours before hand, discussed every aspect of the adventure in detail and openiness. We allowed outs, and contract dismissals if things weren't right, and none of those dates was any less than special. Would repeat that approach anytime. Only one disappointment.
So if you have this in mind there is some insight into what you can expect. I would ot under any circumstances get into an arrangement for a lot of money for an overnight unless you are going to lay awake all night and perform, and that is agreed upon in advance. Paying a lot to sleep with someone isn't a wise thing. my suggestion is you keep it within the $500 to $1000 range. Some gals do have extra expenses like babysitting etc for the overnight. If you really are that wound up, why not just stay home, go to one SP after another while you are awake and peppy through the day, and you will sleep better that night alone. Nothing special happens at night. Some gals wrap themselves around you but other head for the other side of the bed and stay there. do no expect cosiness.
It will be interesting how Bill C-36 could be involved in this arrangment. The arrangement isn't specifically for sex, it for the time spent together, and when adults spend time together, they do have sex often. But that is a private affair.