If you were having coffee with a woman, what kind of gestures would you find alluring? Not blatant things, but subtle things that just kind of make her seem appealing so you'll want to see her again. Things she might do or say. Thanks for all your advice!!!
Alluring gestures? (advice please)
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since most women are sexy its more what's a turn-off: crossed arms, legs or both ... looking at every guy that walks in the door ... having a conversation while your eyes are everywhere but on me ... answering your cell phone! ... rummaging in your purse ... talking with your mouth full ... and the worst of all: trying to look sexy.Sweetiepie said:
you wanna know sexy? i was out having coffee and my ex-realtor is out for a run -- nice outfit, but no make-up, hair a mess, covered in sweat -- and she spots me and stops for a chat! and it was all personal stuff, not one bit of business. what was sexy was 1. she noticed me, 2. she stopped to chat, and 3. took time out of something that is important to her for me!
women always think its expensive hair styles, clothes, shoes, perfumes and then ignore the guy they're interested in: give a guy a whole minute of undivided attention and he's yours.
I met one girl like that .... should end it sooner ... way sooner .... this is a "warning shot" .... you see it .. you run away from her.LonelyGhost said:
I wouldn't suggest a woman touching a man on a first meeting at all. I assume this is what you are talking about re: coffee.
I distrust women who touch me to soon on a first meeting. It is not natural for a woman to do that.
I find women that are confident and assertive enough to touch you on a first meeting like a coffee (were not talking about a date) are "generally" players and are trying to see if they can "get" you (and trust me they know how easy it is to "get" a guys attention) - and then (this is the important part, because you just failed the test) the game is over for them and they will quickly lose interest.
A woman who is truly interested in you - will want you to be the man (the man makes the first move) and will use words to be playful, flirty, fun and inviting. There will be plenty of laughter, she will give you lots of eye contact. When you look into her eyes (she will give you a big smile and then she will look down) and her body will be leaning into you.
"That it is especially beautiful ... and delicate ... and gentle ... and honest ... and then just before you get up to leave, reach into your handbag and put on some glossy strawberry lip moisturizer ... mmmmm."
Notice how Squirrel is saying "before you get up to leave" - I think that is the best time to "show" your interest "the end of the meeting" if you are going to touch physically - something to leave him with - either the example above - or simply a soft touch on the arm and a coy smile.
For a date (after the first meeting) I would give different advise.
I distrust women who touch me to soon on a first meeting. It is not natural for a woman to do that.
I find women that are confident and assertive enough to touch you on a first meeting like a coffee (were not talking about a date) are "generally" players and are trying to see if they can "get" you (and trust me they know how easy it is to "get" a guys attention) - and then (this is the important part, because you just failed the test) the game is over for them and they will quickly lose interest.
A woman who is truly interested in you - will want you to be the man (the man makes the first move) and will use words to be playful, flirty, fun and inviting. There will be plenty of laughter, she will give you lots of eye contact. When you look into her eyes (she will give you a big smile and then she will look down) and her body will be leaning into you.
"That it is especially beautiful ... and delicate ... and gentle ... and honest ... and then just before you get up to leave, reach into your handbag and put on some glossy strawberry lip moisturizer ... mmmmm."
Notice how Squirrel is saying "before you get up to leave" - I think that is the best time to "show" your interest "the end of the meeting" if you are going to touch physically - something to leave him with - either the example above - or simply a soft touch on the arm and a coy smile.
For a date (after the first meeting) I would give different advise.
Thanks so much guys!! This is all really helpful. I don't want to be artificial and I'm not going to fake anything but it really helps to see the guys' perspective on this!!! Any more suggestions are welcome, too (including things not to do, and what to do if its someone I already know but am not dating).
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I agree with this wholeheartedly and u touching your hair , eye contact, and lastly listening and caring what I have got to say!!Hoops said:Touching. Touch my knee, hand, arm. That sends a message.
