Alcoholism and Family

[sevenofnine]

my father was an alcoholic as well, the big problem is when booze is combined with other social issues anger depression sexual addiction violence etc etc,

alcoholism is chronic in my fathers family as well as depression and bi polar.
people at times try to treat mental health issues with a large consumption of booze
the only time I pretty much saw my father sober when he was in jail. for sexual assault

it took me decades to get over my childhood if there is such a thing. strange as it seems my mother was worse then my father she would get angry and some how blame me, and kept telling me I was exactly like my father, my father I eventually got or fiqured out, but mom it took me like I said decades to get over the fact that she thought I was just like him, the guy I loathed with all my being.

yeah alcoholics they ruin so many lives I have no use for them no time,

personally I think its a family disease my dad was who he was but he needed family to enable to support him for people to abuse. to clean up his fucking mess.
the whole family needs help. to get there head straight.
wives spouses why do they stay with a drunken abusive person why do they download it all on there kids,

best thing anyone can do is get out and stay the hell away, but some how we try to fix, put blame on our self feel the shame of it, take it in and make it part of us.

I never really could heal until my parents both passed away, then I felt a chapter close in my life and I could finally move past it.

yeah you woke up old wounds on me, sorry I could go on forever on fucking drunks.

 

[sybian]

I've been following this thread and I've come up with a theory.
Alcoholics are a freak of nature...They don't fit into the natural world.
They function on abusing the people who are the closest, and care the most for them. The very nucleous of their own existance...Yet they try to tear that apart with their own self centered, self loathing behaviour.
In nature, an uncommon void, or a species that is self destructive usually is a problem that takes care of itself...Except the Drunken Human Being...They just seem to pickle themselves into an eternal mess, and drag their support team, or Pack, down into their level of existance..Then when they abandon them because of their behaviour...They blame everyone else but themselves.
I have also noticed that most here that have commented have had issues themselves with alcohol, or dealt with it within their family...And all of you have broken that chain of destructive behaviour.
Many people look at us here with comtempt, and judgement, thinking we are outcasts of society.........I for one, review this thread and look at all of you as strong survivors that looked whatever problem there was in the eye, and dealt with it. I've also seen you reach out to fellow member and give moral support, and sound caring advice. You are good and decent human beings.
All of you ,no matter what your struggles... can hold your head high...