Just had a date with a very highly regarded SW at a highly regarded agency. I had seen her years back and it was pretty awesome but this time it just felt…flat. Like, good conversation, very pleasant, but just not feeling like she was really into it or enjoying things, plus some performance issues on my side, all leaving me further questioning seeing SW’s.
Do I see them for my own ego (make me feel I’m the greatest lover ever, even tho I know it’s a bit of acting? ) Do I just try to ignore how she’s acting and be more selfish? Was it something about my own hygiene/breath/actions that may have put her off?
I look back and other than the room being pretty warm, everything seemed fine. But yeah, the normal reactions I’d expect and have experienced in the past just weren’t there. And it made me realize that a silent partner is in itself a pretty big turnoff. (which also reminds me to be more vocal too). She seemed pretty passive in general, and not so into it.
Let me be the 1st to say I don’t expect any SW to be a robot. We’re all humans with complex lives so if it wasn’t something about me maybe she was just having an “off” day. I know I had a lot on my mind and was even wavering on seeing anyone this week (after thinking I’dsplurge on 2-3 dates).
Not expecting/asking for answers/solutions, just sharing an experience and allow others (client and SW) to do the same. Cheers!
Do I see them for my own ego (make me feel I’m the greatest lover ever, even tho I know it’s a bit of acting? ) Do I just try to ignore how she’s acting and be more selfish? Was it something about my own hygiene/breath/actions that may have put her off?
I look back and other than the room being pretty warm, everything seemed fine. But yeah, the normal reactions I’d expect and have experienced in the past just weren’t there. And it made me realize that a silent partner is in itself a pretty big turnoff. (which also reminds me to be more vocal too). She seemed pretty passive in general, and not so into it.
Let me be the 1st to say I don’t expect any SW to be a robot. We’re all humans with complex lives so if it wasn’t something about me maybe she was just having an “off” day. I know I had a lot on my mind and was even wavering on seeing anyone this week (after thinking I’dsplurge on 2-3 dates).
Not expecting/asking for answers/solutions, just sharing an experience and allow others (client and SW) to do the same. Cheers!