Hello fellow perbers. This thread aint about what it is meant to be, but a genuine question and the issue im struggling with. I am male in my mid 20. Been regular to agencies and independents. How much ever i try i pop out in 10-15secs. I tried various solutions such as thinking about something but that sensation of popping persists and then I eventually pop in 10-15 secs. Haven’t had a longer session than a minute in my entire life. Any suggestions or solutions which might help with my case? Thank you
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Find a good sex therapist (this directory is a good place to start). Many are trained to help with issues such as premature ejaculation.
Go in the lounge and search function is your friend. Been discussed a lot or google it. Edging helps
Others have given advice about therapists etc and that is definitely the first avenue to follow. Secondly there are certainly some very empathetic SPs out there that I'm sure could help you "practice" and might even help you if they know your goal is to last longer. No shame in asking. There have been SPs post about helping widows with their "first time" after their spouse passes away, and other emotionally and mentally challenging aspects around sex.
Just remember this is usually 100% a fixable problem, be patient and go easy on yourself along the way. Good luck.
I recommend:
1. Pregaming, if it's really bad. Also this is why MSOG is a thing, and you can request it, maybe you pay a little more, maybe you make a deal.
2. Memorize some sports statistics, your grandparents car, or think of something else completely unsexy.
3. See enough SPs (or hey, live with a real live woman) until it's not a big deal for you anymore.
4. Turn 40.
You really shouldn't be lasting forever anyway, not busting at all is just worse for everyone involved.
1. Pregaming, if it's really bad. Also this is why MSOG is a thing, and you can request it, maybe you pay a little more, maybe you make a deal.
2. Memorize some sports statistics, your grandparents car, or think of something else completely unsexy.
3. See enough SPs (or hey, live with a real live woman) until it's not a big deal for you anymore.
4. Turn 40.
You really shouldn't be lasting forever anyway, not busting at all is just worse for everyone involved.
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ah to be young and able to finish in a minute, blessing and a curse. Enjoy the days while you can, one day you may be one who has to fake his orgasms because you just can’t get there. Get some ejaculation delay domes they used to help me, really what you need is a girlfriend who you can have regular comfortable sex with and practice. Good luck young grasshopper
I think of one of my ex gf’s and it works like a charm lol. However , the only drawback is I usually get a migraine afterwards which isn’t fun.
Don’t go the numbing route. Not fair to the girl, as then she gets the numbing in her mouth and other areas. Like fingering a girl after Wing Wednesday’s. No matter how much you wash your hands, they who feel it. As a former contact lens wearer (pre lasik) I couldn’t take out my contacts same day. Think Numbing creams just as bad tbh.
Just put it on earlier in the day… long before you take a shower on your way to the clam festival and it won’t have any effect on your partner.
I smoke weed prior to sex which for whatever reason helps me last longer.
Viagra helps get it up the second time after you pop early.
You can use thicker condoms. Slowing it down can help build stamina.
Lastly, take breaks when you realize you are about to pop. You end up edging yourself but it can lead to a more intense orgasm.
Viagra helps get it up the second time after you pop early.
You can use thicker condoms. Slowing it down can help build stamina.
Lastly, take breaks when you realize you are about to pop. You end up edging yourself but it can lead to a more intense orgasm.
Some good ideas here. I'd add that practicing edging is key. It will help you control yourself and understand when to slow down, switch positions, short break, etc...
I would also try one of the lovely reputable and experienced massage ladies in town. They may be willing to take some time to help you practice this and get some control. Lucy loves longer sessions and is a real sweetie. Kyla would also be a good option to try.
I would also try one of the lovely reputable and experienced massage ladies in town. They may be willing to take some time to help you practice this and get some control. Lucy loves longer sessions and is a real sweetie. Kyla would also be a good option to try.
A word of warning…
When I was a young kid 50 years ago I would also come in minutes. I had a date with a gorgeous also about 18 yo, so I went to the sex shop and they convinced me to use a cream called “stud” Which would numb me to stay hard and not come.
Well date night arrived, I rubbed stud-cream on him and we were off making out on the couch. I was very excited when she got on her knees to give a BJ, she put it in her mouth and then yelled “Yichhhhkkk!” And that was the end of the night.
Turns out it tasted pretty much like gasoline, I tasted it myself. “The best laid plans of mice and men”, if you are into literature.
Just a warning that there is a price to pay for numbing. This was my honest real embarrassing experience, I will never forget It.
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Don't just feverishly rub one out. Edge yourself and train yourself as to the sensations you feel pre cum. The objective here is to stop pre cum and start again. Your brain will recognize more and more the build up and you can recognize when to stop or go slower. Try each time to.last longer.
Masterbate an hour before your session. Use lots of lube. The reservoir won't be as full.
Don't just feverishly rub one out. Edge yourself and train yourself as to the sensations you feel pre cum. The objective here is to stop pre cum and start again. Your brain will recognize more and more the build up and you can recognize when to stop or go slower. Try each time to.last longer.
Masterbate an hour before your session. Use lots of lube. The reservoir won't be as full.
Focus on someone else’s pleasure instead of your own!!
Recognize that we are in important ways controlled by our subconscious minds, …what right minded person would preclude a man from access to sex on a regular basis as a form of societal organization?
… recognize the libidinization of guilt as an organizing principle of society….thus: get over yourself… accept that some moron decided the best way to deal with your hard on was to chop off your foreskin….if you were an African girl and your clit was removed…..well…..you know the clamouring about that….
live and learn.
Recognize that we are in important ways controlled by our subconscious minds, …what right minded person would preclude a man from access to sex on a regular basis as a form of societal organization?
… recognize the libidinization of guilt as an organizing principle of society….thus: get over yourself… accept that some moron decided the best way to deal with your hard on was to chop off your foreskin….if you were an African girl and your clit was removed…..well…..you know the clamouring about that….
live and learn.
Why worry? Your young, go for a SP that likes multiple cums (msog). Try to cum 3-4 times. Not all in the vagina. Fuck her ass cheeks, her boobies, her mouth etc. Try a money shot etc....
Instead of going 100 miles an hour while fucking, slow down.
See an SP that specializes in edging (just to let you know you will want to book an multi-hour session). See a dom who specializes in edging....
Try a prostrate massage....
You have many options.
Instead of going 100 miles an hour while fucking, slow down.
See an SP that specializes in edging (just to let you know you will want to book an multi-hour session). See a dom who specializes in edging....
Try a prostrate massage....
You have many options.
Try breathing, I have a hard time lasting as well, if you don’t hold your breath and focus on breathing, it helps a lot.
Also, learn to do reverse kegels, don’t overdo them as it will mess up your pelvic muscles. Just do the right amount, it might sound counter intuitive but instead of trying to hold your cum in, try pushing it out as if you are peeing and it will help.
If you try Initial-D’s self jackhammer technique prior to visiting a SP, you can last longer. I think he has a self published video series for tutorial of the technique. He may be willing to lend it out to you ?
I recommend starting at the spooning position or any other position that does not tire you out too fast, and then try to control the speed yourself; after a while, when you start to feel null, it's time to go fast. (you don't have to use a cream to get null)
Get a life-size toy(the bottom part would be enough; you don't need a full toy) and get some practice with it.
Energy control is essential. Do not use a pose that requires too much energy, or you will not be able to control the speed yourself.
Get a life-size toy(the bottom part would be enough; you don't need a full toy) and get some practice with it.
Energy control is essential. Do not use a pose that requires too much energy, or you will not be able to control the speed yourself.
