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Lady Companion

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First of all, everybody got out, thank god.

I'm looking for advice on how to help, or what obvious things I may be missing.

Last night, my uncle's home and art studio caught on fire and the gas tank lit up, causing the whole house to explode. My father was able to get my uncle out before the explosion, but there is literally nothing left. (This happened in Germany).

So while they are in the hospital being treated for smoke inhalation etc. I'm working on getting things like replacement passports back, getting them new phones and getting them some clothing etc.

My head is totally in logistical mode. So I need a bit of help in seeing what I can actually do to help in other ways.

I'm relieved that everybody is ok. But I know that losing absolutely everything is a huge blow. A lifetime of memories, photos, letters and history....all gone in minutes. My aunt recently and unexpectedly passed away as well, so the sentimental value of that place and what was lost is going to hit my uncle extra hard.

And he lost his entire life's work as an artist. Everything he spent his life creating. Everything he put him heart and soul into.

Stuff is stuff....but after losing his wife, and my grandma just having been taken off of life preserving measures (not related to the fire), that's a whole lot of loss in a very short period of time.

I would really appreciate any thoughts or suggestions on what I can do to help ease some suffering. I'm not able to go over there, but will do whatever I can from here.

What am I missing? What can be done to help in a time like this? How can I support them beyond making sure their physical needs are taken care of? Is there anything that you think would be comforting in this challenging time?
 

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Wow that's so awful, sorry to hear that!!
The only idea I can offer is to make sure you're (metaphorically) there for them now, but ALSO six weeks from now. I read somewhere that six weeks is calculated as the time after a tragedy when support suddenly drops off. Something to be aware of anyways.
 

golferjohn

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If you could play 'point' with all the insurance representatives, that would relieve much stress for them. You'd probably be in a better 'place' to be able to inventory the loss(es) and perhaps coordinate a 'soft-landing' for wherever their temporary home will be. You're going to be one of the few shining lights right now, so gather all your strengths and energy cuz they will need to tap-into you often.
Best of luck and I'm deeply sorry for this tragedy
 

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Occasional calls to check in on them without being smothering.
Maybe start a go fund me account for them if they need it.
Possibly offer to help them with finding temporary housing.
 
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Very sorry to hear of this tragedy! Thank goodness everyone got out. I like the suggestion to be the point-woman for insurance claims. Does Germany recognize a power of attorney? (and of course, speaking German well is probably necessary to crunch thru the details).

I assume he has a place to stay (with your father)? Depending on how insurance works, helping him rent an RV may be a good distraction in the near-term, so he can travel about.

My initial reaction is to buy him an art kit, but (1) I know nothing of being an artist and (2) it may be too soon.

The best advice above is Emmy's - make sure you're calling in @ 6 weeks and often thereafter. The initial outpouring of support from family & friends & even strangers will likely diminish so its up to the closest of family & friends to keep his spirits buoyed as the thoughts inevitably turn darker once the initial frantic stage of recovery is done.

Best wishes!
 

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So heartbreaking, so sorry to hear...I agree maybe gift him some art supplies that he usually works with to pass the time and release his stress as well :) <3 Probably have them shipped within his area, art supplies from Germany and Europe in general are better :)
 

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ask him where he always wanted to travel to but never got the chance

take him there for a good long holiday as a change of pace while he gets his bearing back

and when he is ready to go back and rebuild his life, then he will be better mentally in terms of willing to take it on

the trip other than cost will be easy to do, nothing holding him back in terms of leaving home etc
 

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Thank you everybody for the suggestions. Many great ones, and I will be implementing some of them right away.

It's difficult to see things as fully when pulled in unexpectedly, so I really appreciate all the comments to help me help them a bit better.

Wishing everybody joy, peace, health and love in all that they do!
 
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