advice needed on delicate financial matters

[bcneil]

expensive hobby

I have an expensive hobby, I race cars on weekends. All my buddies do as well, and most of the wives are friends. So the wives all know how much money gets spend on this hobby. Then you just have to have expenses.
Like pretending the engine blew and its $4000 to fix, when the engine is fine.
You need new tires that cost $1500, when you only paid $900, little things.

 

[jyackie]

If you want advice on saving money. CalgaryJenn has a good idea with the change. I do that but only the twoonies, I use everything else. When I get home at night if I have any twoonies, pop it in the jar. Get a non re-usable piggy bank. I have one that looks like a barrel and you have to peel open the top to get to the savings. Can't reuse it afterwards so you're less likely to dip into it.

 

[Aerts]

Jodie, your advice is self-serving...

nothing personal..

btw you have a gorgeous bum...

I second this.

 

[hunsperger]

hunsperger my advice is hardly self serving. He said he was married and wanted advice on how to put money away. I would have told a single person the same thing.
Every person's relationship status is different. I'm married. my husband is fine with what I do. He makes money through the company he owns, so it's not like he is ok with it just because of the money. Just an example of how relationships vary.
To come on an escort review board and preach that its wrong of him because he is married is a pretty bold statement, and subject to some comments from other pooners and SP's that you might not want to hear. If you think about it, the general public looks at seeing or being escorts as wrong in itself. So in a sense, you being here on this board is wrong. At least in the eyes of the general public. Even if your single. It's all in the way you look at things, and your perspective on things.
As for the self serving part... Who say I will ever even meet this gent? Maybe I'm not his thing... There are lots of providers in Calgary. I just offered my advice and what other gents have told me.
If living a double life is wrong, every lady on the board, every geny on the board is wrong. I live every day with the name Jenn, when its not my real name. Just as I'm sure your name isn't hunsperger...
Maybe this kind of board isn't your thing. Morals tend to take a back seat in this lifestyle in a lot of cases.
I'm not saying this gent is right or wrong. Who am I to judge him?

calgaryjenn...

thank you for that thoughtful response...

ma1234 and bothmog, you as well...

calgaryjenn, you and your husband are honest with each other and that is the bottom line...

if a married man sees you, that's his problem not yours...

as long as you are honest with the person you love everything else is negotiable...

the rest of you are nothing but herd animals...

the impression I get from the rest of you is that you want somebody to do your laundry, cook your meals, pick up after you and be there for you when you don't have enough money for pooning...

we sure do live in a disposable society...

 

[SFMIKE]

Excellent opportunity for you.

Tell her you have been seeing escorts, looking for the perfect lady to complete a threesome for the two of you.

She will either divorce you or love you more than before. 50/50 chance.

 

[good2bbad]

First let me say I have been married for over 30 years and telling my wife that I am spending extra money on SP's would not be the brightest answer. Suggesting we each have a separate amount that we could spend would also not work as we spend what we want, when we want.
What I would suggest, if you want to keep it secret, is open a bank account somewhere in your name only and put a little in there every paycheque. ($50 or $100, whatever you can that would not be readily noticed) I play and gamble a lot of golf and this account covers my wins and losses. It has also become the well my "pooning" money comes from. My wife does not notice the slightly smaller net paycheque at the end of each month and my vices continue, largely unnoticed.
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And I agree that Jodie has a great bum!!!

 

[Sasha=Passion]

It doesn't save a marriage. It destroys it and you know it.

I am not sure if a marriage where people deceive each-other is worth being saved?

If you've got that much time to judge someone else's life, you've got too much time! Everyone is a work in progress and will never be complete. Get back to working on yourself.

 

[hunsperger]

If you've got that much time to judge someone else's life, you've got too much time! Everyone is a work in progress and will never be complete. Get back to working on yourself.

sasha, that is a cop out...

you are right, none of us are perfect...

but should we give up on trying...

if this thread has been hijacked i apologize...

what bothers me is that some guy has asked for advice on how to cheat on his wife and everyone is ready with suggestions...

 

[Sasha=Passion]

sarah that is a cop out...

you are right, none of us are perfect...

but should we give up on trying...

if this thread has been hijacked i apologize...

what bothers me is that some guy has asked for advice on how to cheat on his wife and everyone is ready with suggestions...

He's GOD'S child and there are Universal laws that apply to all of us. It's just none of our bussiness.

 

[good2bbad]

what bothers me is that some guy has asked for advice on how to cheat on his wife and everyone is ready with suggestions...

Do you really think for one minute that the majority of people on this board are single?
I would guess that more than 75% of the people using this board and participating in this hobby are in fact married or in some form of relationship.
Personally I think this is a much more civil way of "cheating" if that is the term you want to use.
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[hunsperger]

There’s certainly no moral justification for what we do, nor do we need one.

morals vary (are relative) from person to person, culture to culture, religion to religion...

isn't honesty an absolute...

kind of like the speed of light...

 

[Sasha=Passion]

There’s certainly no moral justification for what we do, nor do we need one.

Your're right. We have that inhearant vibration (conscience) that let us know when we have crossed a line.

 

[Annalise Lane]

Bonus Checks - keep them for you - tell her you got 1/3 of what you thought, and play with the 3/4 left.

RRSP returns - have a deal with her that you and her get to do what ever you want with them.

Independent Vacations - she gets a girls vacation, you get a boys vacation - but YOU dont go on your vaction, you save your money for hobbying, and live in a fishing hotel eating beans for a week, instead of a luxury hotel, like she will.

Take a 100 cash a week for fun money - but only spend 30. Takes longer but it's easier then getting busted.

The Costco idea is pretty good, except she will ask, what did you buy ? And where is it ?

Christmas is the one time a year that woman dont' tend to ask about money leaving accounts. JUST take out more now then you usually do, and save it.

Buy a vending machine - it's all cash - and never tell her about it.

Start doing cash jobs, and tell her you are working over time. But as we all know, overtime doesn't mean more money on our checks.

Start doing all the accounting yourself, both accounts.

Get a seperate credit card, that is mailed to a P.O box and use it for cash advances. Yes the interest rate is higher, but in the long run it's worth it to not have a looking glass in your accounts. This only works, if you are not planning on any large purchases together as it will show up with a credit check.

STOP implusive spending on stuff, and save it for us girls.

 

[Krustee]

STOP implusive spending on stuff, and save it for us girls.

Now that is the most HONEST thing I've seen posted yet!

 

[voyageurX]

Interesting Discussion

Personally I follow the $5 here, $10 there approach.
One approach I use is pick up some groceries and take a cash advance of $10.
(throw away the receipt before you get home).

On the moral side I say, "don't judge others".
Everyone has to make their own decision on how they will live (and cope).

My two cents.

 

[nube]

I can get over the fact that some folks can't see that if your wife isn't interested in sex for what ever reason, that pooning isn't a viable option. Why is it that one must leave his wife so that he can get sex once in a while?

Ma1234, for me I wrestled with this for a long time. In the end I decided that having unemotional sex didn't compromise my feelings for my wife - and when i did take the leap, I didn't feel guilty. Yes maybe I justified it. But you do have to realize that there is sex and then there is a sexual RELATIONSHIP.

In my mind, if my wife were interested AND I still pooned then I DO has some answering to do.

Until you have been there you will never understand.

Confuisus say " wife who put hubby in dog house, soon find him in cat house"

(heard this years ago, just remembered...)

 

[ma1234]

I can get over the fact that some folks can't see that if your wife isn't interested in sex for what ever reason, that pooning isn't a viable option. Why is it that one must leave his wife so that he can get sex once in a while?

Ma1234, for me I wrestled with this for a long time. In the end I decided that having unemotional sex didn't compromise my feelings for my wife - and when i did take the leap, I didn't feel guilty. Yes maybe I justified it. But you do have to realize that there is sex and then there is a sexual RELATIONSHIP.

In my mind, if my wife were interested AND I still pooned then I DO has some answering to do.

Until you have been there you will never understand.

Confuisus say " wife who put hubby in dog house, soon find him in cat house"

(heard this years ago, just remembered...)

And what is left for your wife of you? And empty shell who spends most of his time on two hooker boards (that I know of)....

You do not love your wife. You love yourself and your dick.

 

[ma1234]

And greedy girls will always give you advise on how to steal money for your "hobby".

They don't care if your children won't have the necessities as long as they have their Gucci purses.

 

[wannabeslut]

And greedy girls will always give you advise on how to steal money for your "hobby".

They don't care if your children won't have the necessities as long as they have their Gucci purses.

Ah yes. It's all those evil temptresses' fault. THEY are the ones who seduce you. Even though you are the one that looks up their name on the internet or in the paper and you are the one who calls or emails. It's THEM who FORCE you to come visit them. Those damn evil bitches! It's not YOUR fault, of course. It's not YOUR CHOICE.

I guess we have to blame prostitutes if some guy's kids go hungry. Heaven forbid we blame the poor, innocent guy. It's not like he could have made a CHOICE about the matter. It's not like he is responsible for takine care of HIS OWN CHILDREN. Nay, it is the prostitute who must take responsibility for every family of every man that visits her.

 

[nube]

And what is left for your wife of you? And empty shell who spends most of his time on two hooker boards (that I know of)....

You do not love your wife. You love yourself and your dick.

Wow, you really ARE something else..and totally judgemental...

Tell me, why can't you accept another opinion? No one is attacking you at a personal level, why are you? What are you hoping to achieve? You have your views and I accept that. I know you wouldn't do what I do and I am not critical of your values, yet you can't accept mine.

If your wife was a paraplegic, what would you do...leave her because she can't have sex? Would you do thru life without?

We care not dealing with black and white here, there are many different type of people and different circumstances. While everyone with have an opinion on it, the only one that matters is the person in that situation - its his/her conscience, his/her karma.