Advice for first-timer?

[MannyF21]

Hey all,
I'm new to this. Just ending a long bout of being celibate, and hoping for a pressure-free experience to get me back in the game. Or any game. Hopefully as much "pleasing her" time as possible (I need the practice), and I've gotten to know the acronyms - I'll be looking for DATY on CL.

But here's where I'm looking for advice - I'm very aprehensive about this and would like to stay as private as possible until I get used to things. As such, I get the feeling like I would be most comfortable inviting an SP to my place. Is this a bad idea?

 

[curmudgeon]

For a first timer, use resources like this website (and others) to identify girls with a solid reputation. I think this would be the most important step (thereby avoiding the WOTs and WOMs).

After that, then incall or outcall will probably depend on her. Some girls only do incall because they like to control the setting, and they feel safer working in their space. Some girls only do outcall, because it avoids all the legal crap and avoids stalkers.

My personal philosophy is, if possible, incall for the first time meeting a new girl. If I think she's worth repeating, incall for the next 2-3 meetings. Then if she's willing, outcall to my place (disclaimer: I tend to stick with my favorite, so in fact, I've only gone through this screening method a couple of times )

 

[MannyF21]

Thanks for the advice.

First off I think you would be better with someone who can communicate better with, so this may well take most of the asian mp's out of the equation - of course that's dependent on you.

Yeah, this is something I saw mentioned a couple of times and agree that a serious language barrier wouldn't help my nerves.

I still think that, for the sake of being too nervous, I'd at least ask if an outcall to my place would be ok, but I guess the trick here is to find a girl with a good reputation that's willing to go for that.

Hmmm, that seems like it's gonna take a lot of luck, something that I haven't had a lot of (note the bout of celibacy), so maybe a drive to Langley or somewhere I feel completely anonymous might be better for me...

 

[TheGuy]

Advice? Stay away from this 'hobby' and save your money.

 

[uncleg]

Before going to an SP, try to find out if she has seen HubbaHubba, ITB or LAG.
If see has you're good to go, because if she has seen them, no matter how small your package, how bad your sense of fashion or how inept your technique she'll still consider you a GQ worthy stud.

Probably even give you a discount out of gratitude.

 

[hunsperger]

...

Hubba isn't in the same league as ITB and LAG...

I would also suggest that when you see a lady, always wear clean underwear...

you may end up with the same moniker as Hubba, Captain Skidmark...

 

[MannyF21]

Well, the long delayed follow-up. I finally went for an agency, outcall to my apartment. Went perfectly, she was really hot (great natural Ds) and said yes to everything, although I guess never really asked for much (she did just what I wanted before I asked most of the time). I let her know that it was my first call. What can I say? She didn't disappoint, and I'll be doing it again for sure.

 

[visiting]

Congratulations....:thumb:


You get lost going to her place or something?


or going back home maybe?:fear:

2 years!!!

O well at least you made it home safe.....:clap2:

 

[badbadboy]

Well, the long delayed follow-up. I finally went for an agency, outcall to my apartment. Went perfectly, she was really hot (great natural Ds) and said yes to everything, although I guess never really asked for much (she did just what I wanted before I asked most of the time). I let her know that it was my first call. What can I say? She didn't disappoint, and I'll be doing it again for sure.

I was wondering who would bump a > 2 yr thread

Well good for you Manny.

Its all down hill now for your bank account ound:

 

[MannyF21]

Its all down hill now for your bank account ound:

Meh, it was all going to beer, video games, and weed anyway, now I just have to adjust that budget.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Meh, it was all going to beer, video games, and weed anyway, now I just have to adjust that budget.

Fantastic attitude, I must say...and don't let anyone kid you, dating can be really expensive too, without the desired outcome! LOL

 

[GimmeT&A]

Dude choose a good sp and just do it. you love it and you never look back.

 

[MannyF21]

Second experience wasn't as good. Called the same agency, this time for another girl. But she was busy, so I went with a recommendation, partially on the claim that she was "open minded". When she got here, she went over her rules quickly, which was good, much preferable to finding out halfway through. She had strict rules, but I never complained or anything - I knew I was still gonna have fun. But she didn't mention and I didn't ask about one rule that I kinda paid for quickly. I can't say for sure if the last girl was okay with MSOG, but that time we kept fooling around after my first shot, and I'm pretty sure that she would have let me go another round if time wasn't almost up.

But not so with the new girl. I hit my peak around 20 minutes in (paid for a full hour), and she went to clean up, got dressed, and left. I could have lasted the full hour if I'd known, and I didn't wanna push the point or anything, but I'm sure she could see I was ready to go again. But she was ready to leave within half an hour of showing up. She was sweet and all, and like I said, I never complained to her, but it kinda sucks that I was there watching some Aletta Ocean videos ten minutes later to finish off the night.

The reason why I say it's totally my fault is that I kinda rushed past a couple of things that just involved turning me on, like a massage. Since she wasn't into DATY or anything like it, I had the feeling like she was more of a giver than a taker - the problem is that so am I. For someone that likes a nice long massage, you'd definitely get your money's worth. But for someone who likes giving a massage, not so much. Also, obviously, this was our first time meeting, so of course she has her strict rules out to be safe. Call it lesson learned about calling agency girls instead of independents, I guess.

Still a good experience overall. I shall continue... (but don't worry, I won't bother continuing the posts unless they're interesting)

 

[InnocentBoy]

Inviting a strange girl with no reviews or solid rep back to your place would be sketchy. Also what i've learnt is to pay the min time/rate , let them take that then leave money on the table so they know there is more if you guys vibe.

 

[sevenofnine]

interesting comments,

my thoughts finding the right women is important,
i mean every girl will do the basics

but from there like you said, and for myself i like certain things, and a certain style. and sometimes the women can be great but well just not the right fit, like you said she doesn't seem to be into what you want to do. its just the way it works. and sometimes, well you have lousy sessions.

my thoughts i guess would be communication, spell it out, tell her exactly what is required of her during a session, what you like,
she either gives it to you or she doesn't

i prefer some one i can see regular, touring girls i mean might be great, but who knows when they will get back to town
and like i said, if i like her, i repeat, and there is sort of a chemistry there, i spell it out. what i need from her during a session,
i saw a few great women i really liked but they seemed to have a routine, this is pretty much what they did, and that was that,

i stuck with a lady that well on first blush might not have been perfect, but she listened to me, and the sessions, were tailor made for what i wanted.
been with her for years, and well the sessions keep changing, and there about what i want with well some of what she likes. but mostly what i enjoy, she rarely communictates what she likes but when she does, i try to give it to her.
but like i said communicate.

and about the money aspect of it, its your life, whats the point of having alot of money if your not happy,
from my own personal experiance, seeing an sp can be very benificial to ones emotional well being,
you shouldn't put a price on that. whether its just sex you need the experiance of sex to get your mojo back
or lonliness or whatever, seeing some one an escort can be fantastic.

with one i guess provision, your paying this girl, and i guess a lot of money in some cases. it is what it is,
enjoy it but when the door closes its over.

 

[Dickson]

Hello and welcome !

The most important thing that you can do before your session is to have clearly explained exactly what your wanting to experience BEFORE your session. If the woman doesn't want to talk over the phone make sure you get something through email. Agency's are great but the ladies are sometimes transient and if you find one you like you may not meet up with her again for a long time if something doesn't work out for her at the agency.

Massage parlours are fantastic and in Vancouver you have some of the best providers getting the best and most professional training.

If I could give you any advice I would pick someone closer to your age who has a clear and professional web site which clearly states her hours , her services and a location that is close enough to your own that doesn't screw up your day or take you out of your driving comfort zone.

The best kind of non threatening experience is normally had by INDEPENDENT ESCORTS. It is obvious the time and dedication they put into their reputation their looks and making an environment that give you maximum pleasure for a fairly decent price.

You dont seem like a picky guy SO I urge you to ask questions and be very clear about what service you are getting before you show up at the door. If your in doubt do not book. If you get to the door and it doesn't feel right or she is not as advertised it is not rude or wrong to leave. You are allowed to leave whenever you wish and do not feel obligated to put yourself through an ordeal you don't think you will not enjoy!

I wish you a wonderful adventure .....
xoxo
Jessica James

I would add to Ms James comments. Be clear in your own mind what you want. The look, what you expect, how you want to feel after the session. Once you got that down you can start the asking. In my early years I had things in my mind but thought she would know what I was looking for. Sometimes it happened and sometimes it did not. BE CLEAR!

Understand that some sessions will go well and some do not go well. Enjoy each experience as they are all special. I find if you treat the ladies well they will treat you well. You get those that are going to try and rip you off. But you learn to isolate those along the way. Go with your gut If it does not feel good get out before it goes bad.

Good luck. Reminds me of my early years but things are much different now a days especially with sites like Perb.

Oh yea relax and enjoy the moment.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

I would add to Ms James comments. Be clear in your own mind what you want. The look, what you expect, how you want to feel after the session. Once you got that down you can start the asking. In my early years I had things in my mind but thought she would know what I was looking for. Sometimes it happened and sometimes it did not. BE CLEAR!

Understand that some sessions will go well and some do not go well. Enjoy each experience as they are all special. I find if you treat the ladies well they will treat you well. You get those that are going to try and rip you off. But you learn to isolate those along the way. Go with your gut If it does not feel good get out before it goes bad.

Good luck. Reminds me of my early years but things are much different now a days especially with sites like Perb.

Oh yea relax and enjoy the moment.

what he said ^ ^ :thumb:

depending on what type of person you are, you might find it difficult to discuss personal sexual preferences with a stranger - a stranger who is a gorgeous woman at that! but don't let that stop you - these ladies have heard (and probably done) it all before, so you aren't offending them. don't be vulgar, use your best anatomy 101 language to describe body parts and functions, and keep a friendly demeanor

but you HAVE to do it to get a good first-time experience. shed your inhibitions and you will find freedom... freedom to chose, freedom to enjoy, freedom from all the crap that you have picked up along the way. this is the value of what we do - gaining that freedom