LongLasting said:Ok, where to start. AFF aka HotMatch seems to have a bad reputation here. For the cost of one pooning session you can sign up for a gold membership which entitles you to access all acounts and pictures, watch porn, live camera action from amateurs etc.
It is like anything in life - you get out what you put in. I am average looking but keep myself in good shape. I am no model or adonis but have hooked up with several nice, hot, slutty and completly disgusting women. Its a crap shoot, a cross-section of general society. Its like the strip club in Seattle called...."50 Beautiful Women and Three Ugly Ones"! Do a little research and put a lot of effort into it - for a while, and see how the results are. Like the old saying "garbage in - garbage out". In no time you can zip through a ton of profiles, starting with the hot ones with pics. Write something witty and interesting - and guess what, its easy to cheat...read the profile and respond in kind. Be honest in your profile. Where else can you potentially talk with a thousand women in a month or two?
Success! I recently met a beautiful young woman. She is incredible in every way and have fallen in love with her. We both had low expectations, there is over a decade in age difference, she is very bisexual and started with women - but we have both been very pleasantly suprised!
I used to poon 1 or 2, sometimes 3 or 4 times in a week. At times I would get back in town and visit two in a day! I have not seen one for months and don't really miss it. I had all the best ladies here, even fell for a couple
AFF worked for me. I have met two previous LTR from lava and had some great sex off there too. Once again figure out how to approach women - smile at everyone that appeals to you and only bother to mail the ones back that smile at you. I did it all without a picture up as well. AFF I used a pic and a lot more responses though. Its up to you, it only works if you try.
Good luck!
Good on ya, LL. That explains why we haven't heard from you lately. Hope it works out for you.
I should point out that it is kinda hard to come up with something witty and original when you're competing with hundreds of other fucktards saying exactly the same thing. As in real life, I try to be myself instead of putting up a false front and trying to dream up some lame pickup line. If anything, I usually start off with a question about something she mentioned in her profile and see where that goes. But again, other guys do exactly the same thing.
Despite my past luck on lava, I don't completely rely on it. As I posted earlier, it's more shallow than the bar scene. There's looks, height restrictions (you must be above average height, even if she's a hobbit-sized spinner), your job (if you're not a fireman, a cop or a CEO, forget it), what your activities are (apparently you have be an Indiana Jones type adventurer in many cases), etc. And I've seen some totally ridiculous demands too - you can't own leather furniture, you must be black, can't have any hair on your body, shit like that.
A major disadvantage with online dating is that you can't really get a feel for any interpersonal connections that one can obtain from a live face-to-face meeting. The most erudite online writer may be a total social retard in real life.
Another thing is that I tend to look for class and sophistication in ladies I date. Unfortunately, maybe that's hard to find in a trailer-trash town like Edmonton and may have to start going long-distance.
I was reading an article in the Edmonton Sun today about approaching people you want to date. It says many of us are too shy to make a move because of the fear of rejection or whatever. I suppose that is true in my case. There are some hot babes I see at my gym, my neighborhood, or at the building I work in who I'd be interested in, but I keep trying to find an opening instead of just simply approaching them and saying hello.
I've read elsewhere that rather than trying to meet chicks at a bar, try unexpected places like the grocery store. Or better yet, bookstores, CD shops, etc....you can meet someone with common interests, such as mutually favorite authors or bands. And when shopping for clothes, shoes or hallmark cards, can try asking a fellow female customer her opinion on something you want to buy.
