About services not offered

[Balrog]

Hello, fellas...

I was wondering, what would be the most decent way to find out if a SP has certain restrictions on the services she offers?

I don't like to be crude and ask directly things like "do you offer such and such"; call me crazy but I feel disrespectful doing that, and yet, there are things that, for me, cannot be missed, like for example bbbj and kissing (I have the most shy penis and threatening to cover it without being pet first would just make it feign death like a possum, and kissing, well, I'm not even thinking about deep throat French kissing, but in the middle of the passion it would be so distracting to remember NOT to kiss her).

I came up with this question after finding out that one of my bucket list SPs restricts kissing; broken heart and all, I just can't bring myself to request a date with her.

Is asking previous clients about this the best etiquette? What do you think?

 

[Felina Rose]

Hi Mi Amor HDS is the man to ask on this he is a true expert on GFE!

 

[grizzly]

When I contact a lady for the first time, I ask what her restrictions are. I don't ask for certain services. But I really don't get is how some of you guys are so hung up on certain services. If you want a true GFE, then there is no expectation of certain services. You don't ask your girlfriend if she does bbbj, you go with the flow. A good example is Riley. She won't discuss menu options as she doesn't like being treated like a McDonalds menu, but trust me, she delivers like Domino's, with extra sauce.

 

[johnnydepth]

Don't like to discuss it, just go with the flow .Usually works out, only disappointed once in a while. Thing is I don't want to ask a girl if daty is on the menu, then when I show up she is smellng like the red river on a hot summer day. Next thing she's asking what's wrong, just gets awkward from there. Or I ask about kissing but run into the guy before me in the hall.

 

[Broseph1]

I ask pretty well straight up. I usually couch it in a phrase like "sorry to ask, but do you offer...". I really don't want to be rude or crude but realistically I am paying for a service. I wouldn't go to a doctor for a stomach problem only to find out later she's a dermatologist. When I see a specialist I'd like to be aware of what the specialty is. I think the ladies know this and generally understand. If she finds it rude or won't discuss details - and I completely understand that - then I guess it wasn't meant to be!

 

[PegCity newbie]

I can't speak for the ladies (because I've never BEEN one...lol), but if I try to put myself in their shoes i bet my answer would be "that depends". Not exactly what you want to hear but yet a truthful response.
As johnnydepth posted...what if you ask about DATY and then when the time comes it just doesn't feel right - for WHATEVER reason. What if a girl responds to an inquiry and says she does BBBJ and then a YETI shows up smelling awful and covered in so much hair she can't even FIND his dick??? Circumstances change....and from what I can recall from a real girlfriend (or even worse - a WIFE) - there was NEVER a guarantee. So to expect one during a GFE might be a bit much.

 

[PegCity newbie]

Consider this like fine dining where the server mentions the daily specials when you are seated at the table, as opposed to McDonalds with the menu and prices posted for all to see.
You still go to a restaurant based on reviews, comments and advertising and expect to hear the daily specials.

 

[MRGREEN]

I ask no services questions at all. For me it's a chemistry thing. It's either there or it isn't. If it's there then things unfold naturally, and if it isn't it becomes a bit mechanical for both.

MG

 

[Balrog]

Thanks for the input, everybody (especially Felina and Charlotte), but I think I have to re-clarify that I was asking about how to find out about the restrictions, NOT the services. I even clarified that I don't like to ask for a menu, precisely because I feel it is disrespectful to the lady in question.
Good thing most of you guys agree with me on that.
Same as most of you, I don't go with a precise plan on what to expect and do on a date with a SP, but if I know that there is a 100% certainty that something I personally find indispensable (can't really think of anything else than the two items I mentioned above) will not be provided, then obviously I won't waste my, or the lady's time, with a less than memorable encounter. I think is only common sense.
With that said, I have to confess that sometimes the mere company of some ladies makes it worth the contribution, then anything else is just a bonus (*wink* Felina).

 

[giaebonyprincess]

I ask no services questions at all. For me it's a chemistry thing. It's either there or it isn't. If it's there then things unfold naturally, and if it isn't it becomes a bit mechanical for both.

MG

Totally agree with you and respect that.

 

[MRGREEN]

Totally agree with you and respect that.

Sweet talker

MG

 

[hankmoody]

Have you tried asking if she has reviews or a website that would tell you more about her and any restrictions she may have.