A very strange relationship

[FunSugarDaddy]

But why is your wife the last person you seem to do anything about?

My wife gets back from our relationship what she puts into it. I don't want to go into more detail than that.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

Nobody asked you. You volunteered the information. I think that it is VERY MUCH part of the dynamics. But if all you want is a blessing, I can give it to you

I didn't volunter to be cross examined about it, nor do I recall asking for comments about my parenting skills. I'm well aware of the moral implications of my choices.

 

[wilde]

Yes, yes. The wife, the sugarbabe and the escorts are all about benefitting his daughter. Perhaps a 1500 word essay is in order to truly bring this home.

Do you have a degree in taking people's words out of context?

 

[Flanders]

?..But I'm also strict with her studing

Lol too funny...

 

[PlayfulAlex]

...So yea, what do I do now! Frankly my gut feel is to tell her I know she is making more money than she needs and I am cutting my share, or maybe eliminating it...

Well, the first thing you do, is brace yourself for the onslaught from the high-and-mighty and the holier-than-thou Perb crowds!

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

actually, you are probably missing the boat here, and I think blinded by either love, foolishness or a false sense of philanthropy.

I am in a similar situation to you, for about the same time period, but with a different scope. And probably more money. And last time a thread like this popped up so did a bunch more pooners who admitted to the same thing. In my situation, though the person has taken on a financial obligation themselves that is pretty hefty and must be repaid at the end of things. So there was a responsibility taken on. But they are asking me for more money, and indicating they aren't in this trade anymore, and have limited funds such that this extra help is needed. So we have a fee for service agreement with guaranteed fee and services regularly, no freebies, but more than I would have normally done to be honest. So this amount covers a lot of her monthly expenses. In fact the demand on both our time is getting hard to deal with.
I decided to check up on some of the claims she made. It was pretty easy. First found out that yes, she would make new dates at better financial arrangement than I had, and second, that she was still seeing former clients, and finding a few new ones, but on a very limited scale. Advertising has stopped but now wonder if there is a new phone number and disguised advertising. So what difference does this make? Well, I would not support her for one thing to acquire the end product if she is going to continue in this business. And second, she wanted more money on the pretence of quitting. But hasn't. And claims that income owed from govt sources isn't coming. some of this I believed, was suspicious, but with a few investigative tips from a friend or two, have established that there is a pack of well disguised lies being tossed my way. I could walk, but I know the amount or reliance on me is high, and if I do it will blow her chance of getting out of the trade completely.

So yea, what do I do now! Frankly my gut feel is to tell her I know she is making more money than she needs and I am cutting my share, or maybe eliminating it. Think it would be better to spend the time on a beach in Hawaii than on her.

Well this is quite a bit different than my situation, because if I do decide to help her it would be strictly voluntary. I definately have a soft spot of single mom's, especially very attractive ones who don't mind having sex with me.

But generally speaking most financial obligations are either for assets or education. If it's for an asset it can be sold hopefully for more than what was paid for it. If it's for education than of course it can't be sold, but generally there's usually financing available for this.

But it is interesting to say I'm blinded by either love, foolishness or a false sense of philanthropy, given your circumstance. Ironic isn't it?

 

[newatit]

I kind of admitted to the same thing, right, but getting services for it all.

 

[Bartdude]

Dude, I'd say you're getting hosed.

If you can afford it, well, I guess it's okay.

If not, well, you know the solution.

 

[CJ Tylers]

A woman on the sky train just asked me for some money to feed her starving babies,which hadn't eaten in 3 days. She also asked everyone else on the train the same question, netting no donations. Considering she had no appearance of missing any meals herself (yes, she was horribly over weight, but more to the point... she had no trademarks of a mother who starved herself to feed her poor babies), I think she got off quite lucky with only a few diverted gazes, rather than being met with indignation.

I only mention this because people in real need lean on real help. People who are just looking for a quick fix lean on the nearest mark. So, which one is this girl of yours, whom you're not willing to leave your wife for - but obviously care for her in sickness and in health? I imagine that is why people are asking WHY you haven't left your wife for her yet...regardless of whatever arrangement that you think you have.

 

[Elmore]

Listen. There are guys on here, some maybe who are responding in this thread, who pay women for all sorts of things that some could not imagine paying a woman for.
Guys pay for overnighters...they are paying for a woman to sleep next to them! Or they pay for a woman to go to Hawaii with them. To each his own. They are spending their own money and how they choose to do so is up to them.
It is becoming pretty obvious that you feel this way...but it doesn't matter what others think...when you have no obligation to them.

 

[luvsdaty]

If it makes you happy & it's not hurting your family? Why not,you only live once & if helping her out makes you happy who are we to judge? You sound like you know what you're getting into & you can afford it financially, so i don't even know why you need the permission of the 'board' Good luck to you & your friend.

 

[Mod-2]

I have had complaints about some of the postings in this thread. People please keep the insults and personal attacks out of discussions. I will take immediate action against all parties involved next time I have to get involved. This is not limited to regular members, advertisers will be treated exactly the same. Guide yourselves appropriately.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

If it makes you happy & it's not hurting your family? Why not,you only live once & if helping her out makes you happy who are we to judge? You sound like you know what you're getting into & you can afford it financially, so i don't even know why you need the permission of the 'board' Good luck to you & your friend.

I wasn't really asking for permission of the board (but apparently some think I need it), I was more or less just thinking out loud, but your comments are appreciated and my thoughts on this are the same as yours. Thanks for you post.

 

[Pillowtalk]

I must have missed the part where she asked FSD for money when she contacted him recently.



Can single moms buy homes? Shocking to say, but yes they can. One of my friend's daughters used a small ICBC settlement for a down payment and her dad to cosign a loan. It was actually harder for her to find an apartment to rent than one to buy, and the monthly payments were less than rents for similar apartments.