Is chivalry dead? I would like to think not. And I agree with the Bear that insults are not constructive...I think he did not ask for the money back because he did hurt her.
She was probably awkward in her 'act' as they call it on the board, and her sexual poses, instead of inciting lust, provoked embarrassment; perhaps they seemed ludicrous instead of lewd. She was uncomfortable, and she felt it in her soul. This does not come naturally to her...
When she sensed his reluctance, his embarrassment, perhaps she exhibited insecurity and vulnerability...she is not a professional sp, not a professional actress, and maybe so desperate for money (for whatever reasons) that she is overriding her own moral standard in taking clients.
I remember showing up at a duo call to find an extra woman in the apartment...a girl the client had picked up in the bar...just yer average tart...while she did not mind demonstrating that she could suck the life out of a cock, she almost fainted when she realized the client expected all us gals to 'get it on'....she was crying in the kitchen "I'm Catholic!" (yes, really)...we (other pro and I) calmed her down and convinced her she was not part of the show (she wasn't getting paid after all, and we (pros) were concerned about her hygiene, awkward moments all round..) Just to show you that women who will screw anyone in a bar still have some very high ideals about their own sense of morality....read morality, not mortality.
A professional escort would refund the money. A very good professional escort would never have taken the money in the first place and politely "escorted" the gent to the door, with the name of another woman who might suit him better.
This was just a vulnerable, desperate woman, and Bear sensed that...but, he wants to know why he could not 'make it right', erase the insult, and I wonder if writing the post was a way to assuage the guilt...So, understand: she will not call you because she has no interest in this as a career and she does not want to see you..ever...even for free...you are a mirror into which she sees herself as undesirable, and that is the bitter edge of a blunt knife to the heart of every human, especially a woman.
Maybe you paid her rent or her bills that she was desperately behind on, or maybe you paid for her drugs....get it behind you and write it off as charity.....some people actually give money away, as charity, without it being a deduction, and without a paper trail...
Anyway, I have met big, tough, fighting men who can get turned off by vulgarity, it is not unusual except on this board...
....and I wonder how many people, when they find $1.50 was typed into the credit card moneris machine instead of $1500 for their purchase, would return to rectify the situation....I can personally tell you....none...so put away the rocks, gentlemen, we are, none of us, perfect...
Whew! tuckered me out...gotta go nap...
PS...with a lovely heart like yours, Bear, you might as well get married...
