A review not like any before
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You misread my post. I wrote that children are individuals in their own right, with their lives to lead, not extensions of parental ambitions. My own wish for my children's lives is that they be happy.
Unconditional love is one's love for one's child, regardless of the circumstances that have befallen the child or that have arisen by that child's actions. Love that is unconditional does not mean it is soft or mushy. It can involve tough choices for the welfare of the child, choices that the child may fight tooth and nail.
Unconditional love is not judgemental. If it is, then it's all about you, isn't it. Your child may be a murderer and you cannot accept his/her action as correct. You form a judgement about the harm they have done, but your love is for the person inside whatever it was that caused your child to do such a thing.
Love with attachments is not neat and orderly. Without attachments and expectations, love is different than that and is free. Which kind of love goes further? If you believe it does not exist, then for you it does not.
"....She's so bright and beautiful and has so much to offer the world, but she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, she fucks. She calls me crying because her life is garbage and she wonders why. She doesn't do anything to help herself, and she seems incapable of providing the most basic of needs for herself. I used to be so proud of her, now I live my life in fear for her..."
Sounds like classic mental illness. There is often a promiscuous component to bi-polar disorders, (and most often a compulsion to go on extravagant shopping sprees, and alcoholism).
She is attracted to bad boys? I met a woman with this problem. She went from being a classy chick in an agency to working the streets. I never could figure why she seemed determined to destroy herself. She came from a good family and had other choices to make. She was in college when I first met her.
Rather than worrying about her occupation the parent would be better off trying to help her with her mental health issues, if they can. Parents can get into serious denial about their children's mental health. They must feel that such an issue would reflect on their parenting, where as they can comfortably blame others for the actual lifestyle that results.
I remember a fellow who was continually baffled by his daughters repeated requests for money, and her inability to maintain a job, and then he was terribly surprised when she disappeared and ended up on the streets, even though all her previous behavior pointed toward mental illness. He would not accept that. He would rather believe she was deliberately defiant and wilfully leading a lifestyle that would bring him shame. He lost a lot of opportunities to actually listen and help. Instead he criticized and ostracized her.
It does seem a little far fetched for the parent to be receiving calls from strangers about the daughter's situation.
Sounds like classic mental illness. There is often a promiscuous component to bi-polar disorders, (and most often a compulsion to go on extravagant shopping sprees, and alcoholism).
She is attracted to bad boys? I met a woman with this problem. She went from being a classy chick in an agency to working the streets. I never could figure why she seemed determined to destroy herself. She came from a good family and had other choices to make. She was in college when I first met her.
Rather than worrying about her occupation the parent would be better off trying to help her with her mental health issues, if they can. Parents can get into serious denial about their children's mental health. They must feel that such an issue would reflect on their parenting, where as they can comfortably blame others for the actual lifestyle that results.
I remember a fellow who was continually baffled by his daughters repeated requests for money, and her inability to maintain a job, and then he was terribly surprised when she disappeared and ended up on the streets, even though all her previous behavior pointed toward mental illness. He would not accept that. He would rather believe she was deliberately defiant and wilfully leading a lifestyle that would bring him shame. He lost a lot of opportunities to actually listen and help. Instead he criticized and ostracized her.
It does seem a little far fetched for the parent to be receiving calls from strangers about the daughter's situation.
Sorry to say, but no.
The OP must have captured/C&P it soon after it was posted in the review section. But then, the Mods must have removed it. Sound familiar?
Now the thread that was created with the review posted has also been removed.
But I must comment and say this board has taken a much greater and more in-depth discussion. Perhaps this is because on the original board, advertisers (ladies) are not permitted to enter discussions in this particular section. So much for a First Amendment, eh?
The OP must have captured/C&P it soon after it was posted in the review section. But then, the Mods must have removed it. Sound familiar?
Now the thread that was created with the review posted has also been removed.
But I must comment and say this board has taken a much greater and more in-depth discussion. Perhaps this is because on the original board, advertisers (ladies) are not permitted to enter discussions in this particular section. So much for a First Amendment, eh?
The only thing I don't really understand about your post is that if you talk to your mom everyday..how does the subject of what you do for a living not come up? And if it does, you're obviously deceiving her. That said, I care more about my daughters happiness and development as a person than what she chooses to do for work and you sound like a very caring and wonderful human being.
