A question for the women ...

[Swordholder]

It would seem that in a committed relationship there is a concern that another woman could come and steal or take your man (and I may be totally off with this but just has felt like the concern is there)... Which can often seem like something in the background overshadowing things ... Something men can feel...

Men have something different going on by the way...our own worry or concern where we doubt we can produce something for a woman if we don't know how to do it or it looks impossible how we can hit a home run for her ... Probably something I imagine a woman can feel his doubts (and maybe drives her crazy... something I think most men would love to free of or working that out in life)...but perhaps a topic for another time

What I would be curious to know - a question for the women here - if you were in a relationship with a guy and he gave you everything you ever wanted (where you felt heard and could trust that)- and if that worry or concern was there (and I might be totally off with that assumption in which case, my bad)...but in the case it was there, would you then also want to be free or have some freedom from the concern or worry that other women would come and want to take or steal your guy from you?

Just curious to see what responses may come to this one...if any at all ...

 

[jgg]

It would seem that in a committed relationship there is a concern that another woman could come and steal or take your man (and I may be totally off with this but just has felt like the concern is there)... Which can often seem like something in the background overshadowing things ... Something men can feel...

Men have something different going on by the way...our own worry or concern where we doubt we can produce something for a woman if we don't know how to do it or it looks impossible how we can hit a home run for her ... Probably something I imagine a woman can feel his doubts (and maybe drives her crazy... something I think most men would love to free of or working that out in life)...but perhaps a topic for another time

What I would be curious to know - a question for the women here - if you were in a relationship with a guy and he gave you everything you ever wanted (where you felt heard and could trust that)- and if that worry or concern was there (and I might be totally off with that assumption in which case, my bad)...but in the case it was there, would you then also want to be free or have some freedom from the concern or worry that other women would come and want to take or steal your guy from you?

Just curious to see what responses may come to this one...if any at all ...

TL : DR
Are men and women insecure in their relationships?

 

[Rollingstar]

Your asking woman here? I feel like majority of the woman here are service providers. Having dealt with multiple types of men all they want is just a business transaction. No SP worker is stealing any men, and men dating a sp worker would have to accept that she will be treating it like a business so they would continue to work, is that still cheating?

 

[Swordholder]

Your asking woman here? I feel like majority of the woman here are service providers. Having dealt with multiple types of men all they want is just a business transaction. No SP worker is stealing any men, and men dating a sp worker would have to accept that she will be treating it like a business so they would continue to work, is that still cheating?

I wasn't really asking in that context... More just curious to see if the question would prompt any responses...

 

[Banged_Up]

I wasn't really asking in that context... More just curious to see if the question would prompt any responses...

Well, you got a few responses. Feel better?
You projected how things “seem” to you. In a forum to review sex workers. You are looking for real world advice from anonymous perverts who seldom speak about IRL relationships because we pay for sex to escape the drudgery of IRL relationships.
It “seems” to me that you got one that you don’t think appreciates you or is the jealous or controlling type.
Here’s some help, talk to marriage counsellor. Or a relationship expert. Or a therapist. Or a psychiatrist or psychologist.
Read a book on relationships. I suggest “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.” It is rudimentary and you will have to do some critical thinking about how the writer’s opinion differs from yours but you will read one page and get better info there than you will get in a lifetime of avoidance and reflection in the Lounge on Perb.
Another waste of time post.
“I just wanted to see if the question would prompt any responses…” duh?

 

[VivaciousVivian]

The question was a bit unclear because the sentence structure was long with equally long side notes. I had to reread it a few times.

if the question is:

if I’m in a relationship with a man who satisfies all of my desires, would I want to be free of the worry that another woman would take him?

then my answer is simple:

I am already free. I wouldn’t ever worry about another woman taking my man. A partner is not a possession. If he wants to be with someone else, he is free to go. If he stays, I assume he wants to be there. The actions of another woman are irrelevant, she can’t take someone who is happy where he is.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

^^ I too was confused by the question. I think we just have to be happy. However that works out. ^^^ Awesome answer Vivian.