A Note On Discretion

[A.U.D.R.E.Y]

This is to the perber who yelled out my work name & then proceeded to come up to me in a very public place to strike up a conversation .

What part of discretion do you not understand?

I would never approach you or any client in public. Period!

How dare you show me such a lack of courtesy!

When I told you politely but firmly "NEVER SAY THAT NAME IN PUBLIC", your response was "WELL NO ONES AROUND".

NO ONES AROUND??????

NO SORRY OR RECOGNITION OF YOUR MAJOR ERROR, just no ones around?????.

I don't care if I'm the only person on the street, you do not under any circumstance break this rule, regardless of how much you or I would like to stop & say our hellos.

A smile in my direction is more than sufficient, end of story!

 

[Wolf082001]

Sp

I totally agree! I have seen a SP for a few years and have ran into her downtown quite a few times and we both have an understanding not to have any conversation or contact.
We've always had a very polite smile at each other and went on our way.
I am single but I do respect her privacy and keep things on a business level.

 

[Babewatch]

Understandably Outraged

Hi Audrey, we've never met (maybe yet ;-) ), but I do understand your outrage at such a careless, self-centered public exposure. It is a breach of trust, discretion, and even courtesy. That puppy needs a little more training, maybe you should keep a rolled-up newspaper with you for such occasions. I'm not making light of the incident. After such an incident I know that I would feel like everyone would then be lookng at me. However, if this board is any indication I would say that the vast majority of perbers are respectful and also desirous of appropriate complete discretion. I hope that you'll be able to heal from this episode and go on to experience a deserved, secure public persona.

 

[tarzana]

i think a fine is in order

i remember reading the thread years ago where this exact thing, only much worse happened to bobbi.stuff like this can wreck relationships and reputations.i remember bobbi being blamed by someone for it happening to her because of her personable nature and friendly familiarity with clients.what bullshit.
i can't believe audery's guy was a perber.he should know better.i think whoever it is should make a donation of say, $500.00 to the charity of audery's choice.until said donation is paid and confirmed by her, as well as offender, he is banned from any agency or indie who reads or contributes to perb.the minute the fine is paid audrey notifies everyone(agencies and indies cannot reveal the offender to clients.don't want to totally punish the guy publicly) and the ban is lifted.
this way he should learn his lesson,a charity gets some money(certified cheque,money order),and this hopefully acts as a deterrent to others from performing the same faux pas again.
i would hate if an sp came up to me while i was with a gf or family so i pay them the same respect.i know no one was around but still....have some discipline.we(clients and sp's)absolutely rely on discretion.it can't be broken nonchalantly.thanks for letting me rant a little.
tarzana

 

[vicgfelover]

I think what that guy did to Audrey is uncalled for.
Sorry that it happened.
I think its ok to acknowledge each other if the other person seems alone to quietly say hello.....but only to take it further as a conversation is verbotem, unless it is reciprocated by the other one....don't need to do more than just exchange smiles or a wave hello unless something more is actively solicited.
Victoria is a VERY small town to be erupting in public.....especially from a perber who I'd expect has a bit more sophistication and knowledge of the hobby.
If I were you, I'd cut him off from ever seeing you again as punishment.....

 

[tarzana]

let me guess

I totally agree with you, that is just crazy to have a person do that. I got a call from an sp the other day at home and I was outraged my girlfriend was sitting right beside me. she asked who that was and i was lucky enought to say they had the wrong number and it was left at that.

Hopefully this doesnt happen to you again, and some people really should think before they act.

the sp who called you was the asian mp carmen out of mondaymag wasn't it.not cool.certain sp's call me every now and again only because we have a prior understanding that this is ok.

 

[IQof10]

Descretion

I don't care if you are standing in front of me in the line-up at Costco.
I DONT KNOW YOU, YOU DON'T KNOW ME. No smiles, waves, winks etc.

 

[hazbeen]

Comments

In the course of my hobby I have "run" into a number of ladies in victoria-its smaller than I thought all "chats" have been of mutual consent . Of my favorites I know all their "real names" and use personal "judgement" if a hello is called for -half the time they have said "hi" first. One example- I wont say the name of the girl but we went to the same " gym" and I used to like getting her "attention" by "rubbing myself "and pretending I didnt see her or wasnt "aware she was their - strange I know but I am. For me anyway after a brief chat I realize its been to long since Ive seen them and book ASAP.

 

[poon4fun]

Re:

I don't care if you are standing in front of me in the line-up at Costco.
I DONT KNOW YOU, YOU DON'T KNOW ME. No smiles, waves, winks etc.

I agree completely.

 

[Pantsnake]

Some guys are such f**king knobs.
Several years ago I was having lunch with an SP I had befriended, her 11 year old son and her mother. Here we are having a nice time when some asshole walks up to our table and strikes up a conversation with her, "Hi. How ya doing? Haven't seen you for a while. We must get together soon." Of course her son is like "Who's that Mom?" She's upset and her mother is looking confused.
I got up and walked over to his table and asked him what the hell did he think he was doing? He said he was just trying to be friendly. I told him to smarten up, she's out with her family and not his friend. He better not ever bother her again or I'd f**king break his legs.