a new life

[LonelyGhost]

ever feel like you just reached the point where you figure that something, anything, has to change in some direction other than the one you are headed?

there's a very long backgrounder to this story, but the RD version is that i can pretty much do with the rest of my life what I want as long as it fits into a fixed income and limited health.

the thing is that i really don't know what to do ... i've thought about going back to U but i already have a shitload of useless education and the thought of hanging in the library just doesn't do it.

i can't go back to work, and the job i had was my dream job anyway, so the rest is just a pale imitation.

i spent nearly 3 years and about $35,000 fucking the women that i wanted to fuck (and a few that I really didn't but that's another story) and unless Eden comes out of retirement, Vanisland Lisa starts answering her phone or Gina Lee stops trying to set me up with her friends, there's no real incentive to continue that thread (well, maybe VV but i gotta work out a bit more to handle that session!).

i also spent lots of time cruising on two wheels and while scraping the pegs on a hot day is still a buzz, i'm aching for a different thrill these days.

so whatcha got? Recreate fav scenes from movies? Travel to exotic locations and hope my medical covers new diseases? Finally learn to play the guitar and tour with Aerosmith? Travel to Toronto to find the lost love who went there to marry her rich lawyer boyfriend and convince her that i was nuts to say no to uncomplicated sex in the laundry room and i'm willing to put out now?

 

[choe050]

Strange place to ask for life lessons or suggestions ... I twice have gone for a life change and started into them the same both times. I packed a bag got on a plane and travelled. It is amazing how much you learn about your self as you sit at a cafe in Rome or Paris, or as you hike the streets or Hong Kong. I once left for Europe and stayed there for 10 months, and about 9 years later did Southeast Asia for 14 months. Trick is to go alone ... otherwise you do not discover yourself, but just remain the same person because the other person/people you are with act as anchors, by virtue of the shared experiences that you have had in the past. So I say ... go explore ... come to think of it I have been thinking of Latin America alot lately ... maybe it is time for me to take off too!

 

[LonelyGhost]

Strange place to ask for life lessons or suggestions ... I twice have gone for a life change and started into them the same both times. I packed a bag got on a plane and travelled.

lots of people have had interesting life lessons and experiences, and you just shared yours!

 

[Eden]

Lg

Life tends to play cruel jokes on all of us and sometimes even when you think that you have it all figured out, you don't. Even when you long for something and you finally get it, somehow it doesn't seem to measure up. You have a deep soul, now it is time to share that quality with others. Take a month, load a back pack (anything that doesn't fit- is not worth taking or can be replaced), get some travel insurance (TD has a good one), get on a plane to a place where your money is worth something, rent a scooter or a crotch rocket to get around, and see how another life lives.

PM me and we will talk about it!

Kisses,
Eden

 

[hitrack]

Thing for me is I don't wanna change. I wanna be the same person where ever I go. I won't enjoy shit if I'm always so fukkin preocupied with finding my g*d damn destiny.

 

[gravitas]

Thing for me is I don't wanna change. I wanna be the same person where ever I go. I won't enjoy shit if I'm always so fukkin preocupied with finding my g*d damn destiny.

Wise words from the Profit Hitrack

LG, although we've never met I think we've PM'd enough for men to form the opinion that you're an all around good egg. You've got a good head and heart....follow them both and I'm sure you'll be a happy camper

 

[LonelyGhost]

LG, although we've never met I think we've PM'd enough for men to form the opinion that you're an all around good egg. You've got a good head and heart....follow them both and I'm sure you'll be a happy camper

Thanks! and looking forward to meeting one day.

I just had to kick another putative friend to the curb because of the BS he was pulling ... long story and i should have stopped it sooner, but i'm always willing to give someone the benefit of a second chance to my own detriment it seems!

and every time i lose a friend because i won't take any shit any more (thanks to perb's in-house therapy), i realize that i'm really running out fast here! my closest friend is now three hours up the road!

time to move to tibet and become a monk.

 

[maverick73]

so whatcha got? Recreate fav scenes from movies? Travel to exotic locations and hope my medical covers new diseases? Finally learn to play the guitar and tour with Aerosmith? Travel to Toronto to find the lost love who went there to marry her rich lawyer boyfriend and convince her that i was nuts to say no to uncomplicated sex in the laundry room and i'm willing to put out now?

I would grab 2 friends, preferably of the hot female variety, fly to an undiscovered island with satellite internet equipped laptop, flint, machete, and cooking utensils... and set up shop... just make sure to call "President" as you're landing before your 2 travel mates.

 

[maverick73]

my closest friend is now three hours up the road!

True friends are hard to come by... most are really acquaintances under the guise of being a friend. I would say I only have 5 true friends... 1 of them is out east, 1 of them travels all the time, and 1 of them is not even in this country!

Yes, people in general do s$ck! That's what PERB friends are for! (jk)... I mean, with the likes of Grumpy Camper to keep the fire going (albeit with a snarl on his face), Hitrack and Hatrick to find the hos, and Stryker to eliminate the threats on camp, who needs real life friends? (jk).

PS Thanks for the great recommendation on where to get my laptop BTW... scored an awesome deal on it... and ssshhhh don't tell anybody, but I think whoever ordered this one in messed up and I got the better screen with the higher resolution "by accident!"

 

[gravitas]

Thanks! and looking forward to meeting one day.

You're welcome & likewise

and every time i lose a friend because i won't take any shit any more

As has been stated before, I really don't like most people. It amazes me how a good majority of the population are more than willing to be selfish and ignorant to the point of hurting others. I used to be the first guy to stick his hand up to help people move (usually supplying muscle and transportation), help build a garage or finish a basement, loan out tools, be a shoulder to cry on when buddy's had a fight with the wife or work sucks. Basically doing the shit I thought good friends do. But it slowly started to dawn on me that I was always giving and rarely receiving. I'm not expecting the ledger to be perfectly balanced but my giving to get ratio looked like Bombardier's financials and there's no liberal bailout coming. So....I've decided to say fuck it and only choose to have a small group of close friends who I choose to share my time with. That doesn't mean I'm not collegial at work (well sometimes I tell people to pack sand but they usually deserve it ) and I'm more than happy to accept new friends into my life. But I've learned to go slow and make sure that it is an equal relationship.

my closest friend is now three hours up the road!

My two best friends are both three hours away. Downside is we don't get to go for beers as often as we'd like but when we do get together there's still the same connection and bond. Upside is I don't ever get asked to babysit

time to move to tibet and become a monk.

Hell, you don't have to tibet to do that. Other than the thought of being cloistered with a bunch of men the idea of being a monk does have a certain appeal. Wardrobe is fairly simple.....never a loss for someone to play crib with.....pretty sure no monk has to face rush hour traffic going to/from work....meals and lodging are provided in return for moderate work.....I'd imagine they can still have pets.....not sure if all monks are celibate but I'd bet there has to be at least one order out there that allows for the occasional dip of the wick.....I've never seen a monk who looks stressed

just make sure to call "President" as you're landing before your 2 travel mates.

Good idea but I'd suggest a parlamentary system and he calls "Head of State".....the idea of being the president still could get you rooked into preforming work (i.e. fetching coconuts, water, etc) and you can always be impeached....whereas Head of State all you need to do is lay back and get your royal knob polished

That's what PERB friends are for!

I think PERB (or any other online venue) provides a great venue for "virtual" friends and can be fun to bounce ideas, get/share information or just chew the digital fat. Just need to make sure to find the off button every now and spend time in the real world.

 

[steverino]

Join the darkside....

become a mod.

 

[vancouverman]

and the job i had was my dream job anyway, so the rest is just a pale imitation.

as number of people said before me ..... TRAVEL bro.... and if you can.... spend more time then just 2 weeks. I spend almost 2 years in Rome, and close to a year in NY. Vancouver was just another step .... but ..... I found what I was looking for .... and more.

 

[vancouverman]

forget about woman .... change environment ... start new business ... like ....

 

[hitrack]

why don't you join the army and meet new people.

 

[The Bostonian]

Sounds like the people in my church

As has been stated before, I really don't like most people. It amazes me how a good majority of the population are more than willing to be selfish and ignorant to the point of hurting others. I used to be the first guy to stick his hand up to help people move (usually supplying muscle and transportation), help build a garage or finish a basement, loan out tools, be a shoulder to cry on when buddy's had a fight with the wife or work sucks. Basically doing the shit I thought good friends do. But it slowly started to dawn on me that I was always giving and rarely receiving. I'm not expecting the ledger to be perfectly balanced but my giving to get ratio looked like Bombardier's financials and there's no liberal bailout coming. So....I've decided to say fuck it and only choose to have a small group of close friends who I choose to share my time with. That doesn't mean I'm not collegial at work (well sometimes I tell people to pack sand but they usually deserve it ) and I'm more than happy to accept new friends into my life. But I've learned to go slow and make sure that it is an equal relationship.

Gravitas, sounds like you and I have a lot in common- this was all back in my Toronto church- more liek a cult, long story. Yeah I helped friends, friends of friends to move and drive the frickin truck, shoulder to cry on, financial help,inviting people over for dinner, and can you believe baby sitting many times for one couple and then they quickly forget about my wife and I. I still believe in giving, helping to help, but like you said rarely receiving. So I turned my back to all the ones who I thought were my friends. Some of them I told to ' F off ' and then moved to Vancouver. I made new friends in BC, they have better values than Torontonians.

 

[LonelyGhost]

So I turned my back to all the ones who I thought were my friends. Some of them I told to ' F off ' and then moved to Vancouver. I made new friends in BC, they have better values than Torontonians.

Ironic, because when i lived out East, i met more helpful, supportive and 'giving more than receiving' types than I ever met here in BC (though I wasn't in TO).

There's always lots of talk about how people in BC are 'laid-back' but most are just indifferent and self-centred. Lots of talk about how friendly they are, but you can wait a lifetime for an invite to their home ... back East i could have given up my apartment for all the invites i had from people.

There are still lots of good people in BC, but the times they are a'changing and not alot to the better.

 

[caspar]

Just starting my journey ...

Interesting thread and very timely. I'm just starting the same journey, asking the same questions. One of the reasons I'm going to Vancouver in May is to give myself time on the open road, by myself, to ponder life. It must be part of the age group we're in. I think I need some younger women to help me discover the answers. There may be more to life than frequent and unusual sex, but until I find it, at least I have frequent and unusual sex.

 

[The Bostonian]

Hey LG,


Yep, I agree people here are laid back, I love the socks and sandal thing.
You prefer the people in the East or here in BC?

 

[LonelyGhost]

Hey LG,


Yep, I agree people here are laid back, I love the socks and sandal thing.
You prefer the people in the East or here in BC?

no preference by province, more by attitude/actions.

 

[Cappy1]

I wish I'd written that..

Now there's a contradiction in terms..
young women to help... discover the answers.

unless you mean - "they" are the answers.

It must be part of the age group we're in. I think I need some younger women to help me discover the answers.... QUOTE]